Help! She never stops screaming!

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Help! She never stops screaming!
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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 12:26pm

X-posted from the April board:

Unless she is being held she is never happy. It's so awful and I don't know what to do with her. It doesn't matter if I put her down awake or sound asleep in the crib, bassinet, bouncer or swing. She is screaming within minutes. She is like this around the clock, I have to sleep with her to get her to sleep at all. Last night I didn't get to eat dinner, brush my teeth or even change out of my clothes into PJs because I was feeding her and she fell asleep and I didn't dare put her down because I wanted to sleep so badly. Is anyone else having this problem? This is #3 for me, you'd think I'd know what to do but I am at a total loss and going completely insane because I can't do anything unless I put her down and listen to her scream the whole time I'm doing it. She's in her swing screaming as I type this. I've tried letting her go for a while to see if she'll eventually tire out, but she doesn't seem to. HELP!!

I feed her every two hours from start to start for like a half hour each time, so it's like every hour and a half. I have two other kids that I am supposed to be taking care of and I can't even take care of myself!

ETA: I have a Moby wrap that I've tried a few times and it only works for her for like a half hour. I just really need to be able to put her down sometimes!!

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Edited 4/18/2010 12:42 pm ET by cara_l

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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 1:52pm

I'm so sorry, Cara - that sounds so frustrating! Does she cry when other people are holding her too? Could you get one of your other girls or DH to lie down with her, even for just a few minutes so you can have a shower or something?

I'm sure the other ladies will have tons of advice for you. Hang in there!





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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 1:55pm

I was going to suggest a carrier, but you mentioned the moby isn't working. Maybe try a different type? Eloise really liked to be snuggled up in a Mei Tai tummy to tummy when she was small.

I would also see if you can have someone else hold her at least some of the time. I might also check with a doctor, if she is constantly crying something might be wrong. Even if she is calm when being held. I know that before I cut milk out of my diet Eloise would scream and cry and just be generally unhappy when she wasn't being carried by someone.












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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 4:14pm
Cara, I'm so sorry you are going through this!! It reminds me of Fede's first weeks.... I still don't know how I survived them!
My only advice would be to go to the Dr. just to be sure everything is ok. And also... could you consider co-sleeping? It saved my sanity!
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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 5:52pm

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 12:23am
That sounds exactly like my niece. She was very colic-y and ONLY my half sister could hold her, she just wanted her mom all the time. Unfortunately she didn't outgrow it until about 4-6 months.






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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 3:08am

I feel your pain!!! Theo has colic so I know exactly what you are going through. If he is awake and not eating there is a 95% chance he is crying, here is what works for us.

I carry him in a wrap and am really active for the first 20 minutes he is in it (dancing, walking briskly, etc) this normally gets him to fall asleep. Then I let him sleep in it for at least 20-30 minutes and then I can sometimes take him out and he will stay asleep.But most of the time I just keep him in it.

I sleep with him, there is no way he would sleep if I didn't.

I feed him constantly, it is one of the best ways to soothe him and I would rather be breastfeeding then listening to him scream.

I tried the swing, so far he doesn't like it. But I keep trying it occasionally.

Same thing for swaddling, so far he has hated it.

Going outside for a few minutes when I have the wrap on normally calms him down instantly.

The stroller sometimes works but not if he is already crying.

Same thing for car rides.

He does like the sound of the dryer but won't sleep if I am not also in the room.

I HIGHLY recommend buying or checking out the book "Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth.He is a doctor who has studied sleep patterns and habits in children and it explains everything in terms of what is normal at this point.

Basically some of us are lucky enough to get fussy colicky babies- the fussiness will keep getting worse until 6 weeks where it hits its peak and then gradually decrease until 4 months at which point all babies are now on a level playing field and there is no longer any difference between colicky and non colicky fussy babies.At 4 months you can also start doing sleep training if you so choose and the baby can "handle" it.

So personally I just take each day at a time and am counting down the days till we hit 6 weeks and this starts to slowly get better.

BIG BIG BIG hugs to you- I know how tiring, frustrating, and awful this can be!!

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 5:03am

One last thing I can't believe I forgot. We use a pacifier and it helps so much, at first I was worried about nipple confusion but Theo is a champion breastfeeder so no problems there and sometimes the pacifier is the only thing that gets him to sleep.

We use it when he is in the stroller, car seat,and wrap and it makes a huge difference. Once he falls asleep we can take it out and he stays asleep but colicky babies often have a strong desire to suck all the time and the pacifier makes that possible.

Of course sometimes he doesn't want it and prefers to scream but anything that helps even 50% of the time is worth it ;)

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:00am
Just (((HUGS))) Cara--hopefully some of the other advice will work for you!!
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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:38am

My son was like that from about 4 weeks to maybe 8 or 9 weeks. The doctor said he was colicky and I thought we would never get through it but we did. He still gets fussy now at 4 1/2 months but not as much as he did and it is usually if he is hungry, tired or bored. The only consolation is he did sleep at night. So, I am not really sure what to tell you. It could be colic but I am not sure how soon it starts. What helped for us was gas drops, gripe water and I also got a carrier. I spent many evenings with him in that thing just so I could get housework done. Other than that I don't have any real suggestions. Hope it gets better.

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 11:37am
Thanks for all the input, Ash. I'm going to talk to her doctor about it tomorrow when we go in for her weight check. I find the paci will work for her sometimes too. She also hates being swaddled! She does okay in the Moby for a little while, but usually only 30 min. or so. She will sleep in her car seat forever if we are on the go and I've even tried putting her in it at night and get get 3 hours out of that sometimes. That's the only time I have to myself though, I sleep with her all the time. I feel so bad for my other girls though, I'm just so consumed by Baby right now. At least DH is home. I've been reading up on silent reflux and she has a lot of the symptoms. I didn't know a baby could have reflux without spitting up a lot. Someone on the April board told me about it. It would be great if it was something we could do something for, rather than just "waiting it out." McKenna was like this too, but she slept on her own at night at least. And 4 months did seem to be the magic number for her because she was an angel baby after that! Good luck to you, it's nice to know we're not alone, but sorry you are dealing with it too. :)

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