"I hate my crib!"

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"I hate my crib!"
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:01pm
Ethan is 10 days old, and I have drawn the conclusion that he is not yet ready for his crib. I tried hard-core swaddling with the Miracle Blanket, which DS loved. I tried not swaddling, laying down awake, laying him down asleep... but he won't sleep more than 20 minutes or so in the crib. What he wants is to sleep snuggled up on my chest. :) I have resorted the past few nights to sleeping in our big recliner downstairs with him on my chest. He wakes to eat then goes back to sleep. It's the only way I know so far to get more than 2 hours of sleep! I do not want to co-sleep, our bed is too cushy and I'm not comfortable with the potential risks. Plus our dog sleeps in our bed. During the day, he sleeps in the swing, or in the pack-n-play, or in the car seat if we're out and about. I googled this question and found that people either find swaddling successful, or have baby sleep in the car seat, in the crib. The car seat is elevated and baby feels more snuggly in there as well. But then you have to break the habit eventually of sleeping in the car seat! But I have to break him of the habit of sleeping on me. I am trying to be patient with the little guy, he just wants what he knows and is familiar with, which is to be close to mommy. I know this too will pass, but thought I'd put the question out there for any BTDT moms. TIA!
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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 1:36pm

Oh Julie! I'm so sorry little Ethan is giving you sleep troubles! We had this issue for the first two nights with Selin, then I pleaded with her pedi to give us some suggestions. The only thing that worked was swaddling her tighter and putting her down after she was in a good sleep.

Sleeping on the chest makes me nervous as it's a risk for SIDS but I understand that you've gotta do what you gotta do.

I have also heard the "warming up the bed" suggestion from someone on my EC. They put a heating pad on top of a blanket in the crib for 10-15 min. before and then removed it before putting baby in.

GL - I'm sure one of these techniques will do just the trick for Ethan! :-)

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 11:59am

my son was the same way. He didn't sleep in his crib until he was 2 months old. He would either sleep in the pack in play or in his carseat. I think part of it was he was so congested he couldn't breathe when we put him on his back in the pack n play so the car seat he was somewhat upright. I know it isn't he best place to sleep but when it is 2am and the baby won't sleep you will resort to anything.

After he turned 2 months we put him in his crib and he's been there ever since.


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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 10:01am

I am obviously not a BTDT mom and I think you have gotten some great advice from other ppl. But a friend of mine was telling me to get a stuffed animal of some sort and sleep with it so it got my smell, I am assuming you could do it with a swaddling blanket or something and then wrap him up in it, or put the bear or whatever next to him and then he can have your smell..

Also my SIL used the swing and the car seat a lot at night, because she was having the same problem and it took her longer to break the habit of her sleeping on her than the car seat to the crib. Just a thought.

Good luck!

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 10:38pm
I am having the same problem, she won't sleep in her bassinet for more than 20 minutes! I didn't have this problem with the other two. We co-slept for the first week which is definitely not what I want, but I was in survival mode and just needed some sleep! She sleeps really good in her car seat so I tried that the night before last and she slept in it for 6 hours! It was awesome. But last night she only slept for 3 hours total. She did sleep most of the day yesterday though, I had to keep waking her up to eat. Today has been the total opposite, I can't get her to sleep for anything and I've been feeding her all day long it seems! I'm hoping that means she'll sleep tonight. So I guess I have no advice for you, but just wanted to say I'm right there with you!


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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 8:00pm

Simon was the same way for about two weeks. We also warmed up his bed before putting him in it and got a heart beat bear that seemed to help. Honestly the first night my mom was gone we changed and fed him then put him in his bed and we went to bed. We were going to give him 15 minutes to cry and fuss then one of us would go get him. At 7 minutes he was asleep.

Good luck! I hope you find something that works for Ethan.

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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:47pm

That is exactly why I ended up co-sleeping even tho DH was dead set against it :-)

But maybe you could try a cosleeper? They are pretty cheap used on craigslist - like $20.

I only needed to cosleep for 3 mos and then he was able to sleep in his bassinet (I was using it for naps to get him used to it). Then I used bassinet for 2 mos and crib for naps...and then moved him into the crib. It seemed to work for us.

Just to ease your mind, our DS sleeps through the night by himself like a champ so this is no indication of any future problems, LOL.