Still haven't written my birth story, but I wanted to post a little update on how we're doing.
And mostly, we are doing good!
Adrienne - For heaven's sake, you just had a baby - you certainly deserve a vacation from the board! LOL! We'll be fine, just worry about taking care of yourself and baby James! :-D
I am dying to hear your birth story because a waterbirth at home is what we were originally planning for with Selin. I would still like to do a waterbirth someday but don't know if it will ever happen. So, I'm going to live vicariously through you for now. :-)
I had to have a few stiches for a superficial tear, according to my midwife, and after a few weeks, they were still hurting me quite a bit. At my 2 week checkup, she noticed that the skin around the stiches had somehow grown together (kinda gross, I know) so she had to sort of "burn" it apart. While the separation procedure hurt like hell, I felt a lot better afterwards and by my 6 week checkup, I was good as new.
Oh and I had the same issue with Selin and my nips hurting. No matter how much I tried to get her to latch deep, she still "scooted" up my nipple and I was in pain for the first few minutes of each nursing session. I put lots of Lansinoh on after each session and that helped and eventually we got to a point where it no longer hurt to nurse. I forget how long but I would say within a month.
HTH and Happy Thanksgiving to you and your new little family! :-D
Don't feel sorry!!!! Enjoy this time with James:) I think some nursing pain is normal no matter if you are doing it perfectly or not, especially right in the initial moments. However if it increases or lasts for more then a few days then I would have your midwife look into it.As with many things when it comes to parenting/motherhood, oftentimes you just have to give it a little time and it will all work out :) It sounds like you are doing everything perfectly!
It is frustrating how a tear affects recovery! I had some tearing and cutting due to Teddy being very large and I dealt with a lot of pain/pressure walking and sitting for a few weeks. However by about 4-6 weeks out I felt as good as before. I'm guessing that it will go even faster for you, especially since it sounds like you are really making an effort to take it easy. I think I tried to do too much too soon.
You are doing an AMAZING job!!! I am just so happy for you :D I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your little one!
I also had a tear and I remember the doctor stitching me up after I had David. It will take time to heal. I remember I thought I would never be the same again but now I can't even remember how messed up I was down there. Hope you have a speedy recovery.
As far as breastfeeding, My son would not latch on for the first few days. I
David Nicholas 12/5/09Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13
First off good to hear from you Adrienne.
I'll second what everybody else said about the BFing pain....it takes a bit to get used to even with the perfect latch.
It's good to hear from you, Adrienne!
I've got no advice on nursing, since it didn't work for us for the first month. It never hurts to consult an LC though, if it's still really painful in a couple weeks.
As for the stitches pulling, have you tried sitting on a pillow? I had stitches in my butt in high school (long story), and the pillow really helps. I think they can also get stuck on pads and such which tugs on them and causes pain. Expect them to itch too as everything starts to heal. I'm lucky that all mine were on the inside of my vagina, so it wasn't uncomfortable to sit once all the swelling went down.
Hopefully you'll be feeling better by Thanksgiving! Just sit around and let everyone else do all the work! You'll be feeling (new) normal soon!
I'm probably repeating what others have said, but I don't have time to read all the posts right now.
Nipple pain at the beginning of the feeding is totally normal...no matter how great the latch is.
AHHH Congratulations again, Adrienne! And I agree with everyone else that you don't need to worry about the board! I'm sure we'll survive for a bit without you. Although I do enjoy updates! :) I hope BFing gets easier for you very quickly and your nipples don't become too sore. Ouch about the labial tear! Hopefully your midwife will have some suggestions and you are able to heal soon. Have a great Thanksgiving!!!