Mom Chat -- May

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Mom Chat -- May
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Sat, 05-01-2010 - 2:26pm

WTT Moms


Okay, this is not totally done yet, but wanted to get it out there.

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 9:55am

Elyse: I figured you knew, but I hate doing things wrong and not having anyone tell me as far as safety goes, so I figured I'd mention it just in case.

Kelly: DH is an only child and has always loved it. He would have been perfectly happy with just Desmond as an only child. He has never longed for a sibling. He is extremely happy as an only. I on the other hand am one of 4, and couldn't imagine having an only child.

Yay for Elena starting to crawl. It is so much fun when they become mobile. I am glad her swimming lessons are going well too. It is weird to see all the WtTG babies growing up, I can't believe she is almost 1!

Ash: Not to scare you, but I am still only getting 3 hour chunks of sleep now at 13 months with Eloise. There are occasions she sleeps as long as 5 hours before waking, but she's had a cold for the past 2 weeks, so it hasn't been a recent thing. I think we're planning on night weaning her in July so hopefully she'll sleep longer then. Desmond was sleeping well and through the night by about 15ish months though we did have a backslide after India and after Eloise was born. Fortunately DH does night duty as well as me.

Amy: 2 under 2 isn't that bad. There is 23 months between Eloise and Desmond. That being said the first 6 months were tough. Which is why I will probably just fantasize about getting pregnant this year and wait till next year. I think Eloise might do better with a new baby then Desmond did at 23 months, but it is hard to tell. I am also iffy if I really want 3 under 4, or just at 4.

I wish DH wanted 5. He would have been happy with 1. He agreed on 2 with an option for a third. I am almost positive he'll agree to the third, but there is no way he'll go for a 4th or 5th. Which is too bad because 5 has always been my dream number. I am really kind of hoping for twins with number 3 since 4 would work for me too, 3 just seems like to few.

As for us. Desmond started swimming lessons last night. It was a bit of a surprise. We signed him up and didn't hear anything about time or when. DH was checking bills and noticed the fitness club charged us an extra $40 so he called them. Turned out DS was signed up for swimming, Monday nights at 5:10. It is just early enough that I have to take both Desmond and Eloise to the pool, instead of DH coming home and just taking Desmond. So I dropped Eloise off at the club's daycare, which really confused her, she wasn't quite sure what had happened there, and took Desmond to his lesson. He did great, listened to his instructor fairly well and seemed to have a lot of fun. It was weird having him in a class, where I wasn't right there with him. I watched from the side. It worked though and he seemed right at the right level with the rest of the kids in his class.

Nothing much else happened here. Desmond did well going potty yesterday, only one accident and Eloise went 2 or 3 times as well, which is great. I have training pants coming for Eloise, I hope they fit, finding tiny sized undies is tough, since she really needs around a size 9-12 months. I am hoping the ones I got her are small enough and don't fall off.












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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 10:31am

Sarah, just as you might have sealed a new TTC pact, it looks like I've lost mine...


*Rant alert*


So yesterday DH told me he doesn't want another baby. First I was ready to more or less ignore it as we've been at that point a bazillion times before. But then he got really serious and told me how he's struggling at the moment, still fighting his way through the recession and how the companies he works for all cut their spendings and he never knows, at the start of a month, where the money's going to come from. He's sort of self-employed (running his own IT company) and I knew it was tough for him recently, but didn't know to which extent.


So basically he says that he feels so insecure financially that he doesn't think we can afford another baby. I tried to negotiate - saying that really a newborn doesn't cost us much if anything, as we've already got all the kit - but as I don't contribute much to our household I didn't feel I could shed any positive light on it all.


I'm not even angry with him as I totally see his point. I'm just immensely sad, as I'd so been looking forward to TTC in June and being PG again and having a little baby. I feel like something's been taken away from me which I never even had, and still it breaks my heart. Needless to say DH doesn't understand any of this... he doesn't get the whole baby fever thing, even though I've tried to explain it to him many times.


So I guess we're WTT indefinitely :-(

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 10:50am
I am so sorry Anna! I hope that things improve with the business and you still get to TTC this summer. ((((((((hugs)))))))
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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 11:19am

Sandy- I didn't think you were saying anything negative at all about siblings or no siblings. I just wrote that to Kelly since I know how people like to give their opinions on only children without having experience to back up their words. I am going to start sleep training sometime after 4 months as that is the earliest that any form of cry it out should be used. Good luck with getting David to sleep better!

Sarah- The swimming lesson sounds great and I am glad the potty training is going so well! I don't mind getting up every 3 hours to feed Theo but I do mind him staying awake for an hour or two cranky and tired but not falling asleep as it was for a few nights. As much as I love co-sleeping we are going to transition him to his own room sometime around 4-5 months. I think we both will sleep better and the most important thing is that he is getting enough sleep:)

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 11:20am
Oh Anna.... (((HUGS)) Here's to hoping your DH sees a light in these economic hard times and you're able to TTC sooner rather than later.

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 11:23am
Sandy: The best advice I can offer in regards to sleep training is making yourself busy during that time. Sitting there and listening to his cries will only make it harder on you AND him in the long run. Make sure you put him down when he's sleepy but not asleep. And then do something... out the monitor (if you use one) on low so you can hear him, but don't let the sound drowned things out. Watch a good TV show, take a shower, paint your nails... keep your mind and body busy. You'll need to decide how long you want to let him cry before going to re-assure him; but whatever you do don't take him out of his crib and STAY CONSISTENT. GL!!

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 12:02pm
Anna - sorry DH is changing his mind on you. I bet he'll come around eventually, but I know how hard plans changing like that when you're all ready must be :\
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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 12:11pm

AFM, I feel like I'm behind on everything these days. But, a quick recap. The big news being: Patrick took is FIRST STEP! He hasn't taken a second step though. This was two days ago. He was so proud of himself :) Then he spent yesterday sick :\

Meanwhile, we're buying a house! It's small, and a total fixer-upper. But cheap enough that we can hire contractors to do the work, and it'll be done before we move in. And it has a yard and a fireplace and is walking-distance to the subway, which is a lot to ask for around here for a price we could conceivably afford. I'm excited to have a house that's really mine. But, even with hiring people to do the work, there's so much to do. Just deciding which general contractor to hire is taking so much time.

And DH has three week-long trips in the next three months. I'm thinking we need to look at having regular babysitting for Patrick on one of my days off so I have time to be meeting with contractors/designers/going to pick out fixtures and paint and all that jazz.

It's going to be a pretty intense summer. But hopefully a lot of fun. I just hope we can stay sane through it all.

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 12:26pm

Kelly, I hope that you and DH can work things out. I can't beleive your LO is almost 1. Crazy how fast time goes.


Anna, I'm sorry things are so tough and scary right now for your DH. Hopfully with some time things will improve and then maybe giving Teddy a sibling will happen.


Sarah, the swimming lessons sound fun. Yeah for the potty training going in the right direction. If everyone thinks your crazy for wanting another baby already then I have lost it cause I would love to be TTC again. Though i need to drop some weight and DH is not ready yep for sure.


Sandy, GL with the sleeo training. We have been really lucky with Simon being a good night time sleeper and falling asleep pretty well on his own.


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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 12:45pm

I'm so sorry Anna, that really sucks. Hopefully stuff will improve soon and you can set a new date, but I totally understand how disappointing that must be.

Lorien- Yay on Patrick walking and the new house!! When James was first walking he really enjoyed walking between DH and I, you might try that to get his confidence up a little. It was a really fun game!

Cassie- I was just looking up the requirements for baby formula etc. I found this website which was helpful: http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/children/formula.shtM

We just got back from our trip to DC. It was fun but a little stressful. The flights were fine. It was a lot of work keeping James entertained, but was definitely manageable. Sightseeing for the most part was abbreviated but fun. The hardest part was having dinners with family as no one has baby proofed their house, and they all seemed to have somewhat unreasonable expectation for how James would behave. Every family dinner was spent chasing James and scolding him for grabbing at things he shouldn't, which is no fun for baby or parents. it's nice to be back at home where things are safe and James can do what he wants, I can tell he's more relaxed and happier at home.

In other news, I still appear to be preggo, I have an appointment with a midwife tomorrow, but I think it will just be a medical history type of appointment so no exam or anything.

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