Mom Corner - July Thread

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Mom Corner - July Thread
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Wed, 07-06-2011 - 12:59pm

While we were on vacation, I learned that the temp job I was working at right up until we left has no steady work for me for at least the next two weeks so now my job anxiety has spiked again. This means I had to tell my new sitter that I might not need her starting the 11th. She is ok with it and willing to hang in there until I find something permanent. DH is ok with it for now, but I'm sure it's only a matter of time before he starts getting anxious, too. I'm still working for the other company at night but their work load has slowed down considerably. I had no billable hours for them at all in June. Still no word on the possible FT position there and I'm pissed that my boss even brought it up when it's not even doable right now. I thought it was a real possibility, not just some dream of his to hire me on.

I was just reading our township's newsletter and saw a column about job hunt consulting. I just called to make an appt. with the lady and her earliest opening is Sept. 19th!! I took it anyway, just in case. I guess she reviews resumes and makes referrals. Since April, she's referred 15 out of 39 people that came to see her, not great but better than nothing I guess. There's also a "job club" coming up next month so going to try to make that as well, although the lady I spoke to on the phone was unsure of the start time and said nothing is posted online. Thanks lady, you're a real wealth of information. How am I supposed to arrange for a sitter when you can't even tell me what time this thing is?

So back to job hunting until the wee hours of the night, feeling exhausted. Trying to keep up hope that I'll find something, teaching or otherwise, before the end of summer, otherwise things are going to get real ugly at home. While I'm grateful to be home with Selin and have all this extra time with her, it's hard to enjoy it when in the back of my mind, I know that I really need to be bringing in money

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Fri, 07-22-2011 - 1:32pm

Cassie, i'm sorry that you are dealing with so much crap from your IL. It just isn't fair!!! The good thing is that it seems like DH is more or less on your side, right?? In any case, something I've learned in the past is that although it is good to be open with your DH about IL issues, ranting about them is not. Because even when they are being awful, they are his family, and trashing them could create resentment. I don't even know if this is the

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Thu, 07-21-2011 - 8:22pm
Jessica, that stinks. There is nothing more annoying then doing a job your not getting paid for. I hope you get things worked out.

 Cassie 

     

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Thu, 07-21-2011 - 2:16pm

Cassie - HUGS Your IL's are nuts! and you guys deserve to be treated way better. I am glad you are able to do what you need to do and awesome for your parents to come and help you even though they are so much farther away! I know that's how my parents would be vs the IL's.

Christine - I would leave it off, I know I have done that in the past.

AFM - Some things are going on at work and I am trying to figure out the best way to handle it. I think I have a plan, so hopefully it works. Back in February of 2010 I was transitioned from a Systems Analyst to a Business Solutions Architect. THey took the SA team and just split them up, they didn't ask any of us what we wanted to be, just took people they thought would be best for the job. They didn't change our title officially in our HR Direct system until that coming June. This change in job responsibility didn't mean a promotion to a new Job grade (I am currently at a 27, usually at 29 is a manager level, 30 director level and so on), it also didnt mean a raise. SO i realized as we have been hiring new BSA's that they are all coming in as a Level 28 and not 27's. Which means they are hiring all Sr BSA"s. Keep in mind I am still a Level 27. I talked with my Boss' Boss because my boss in on maternity leave this past week about this and what I needed to do to become a 28. Really I was interested in the Level 29 Manager position, but further looking at the Job Req I am not qualified.

I can only become a 28 if there is a job req open (which there currently is) or at annual review time in March. So then she proceeded to tell me that I needed to look at the Job Families Document (which explains what reponsibilities each grade level has) and see what gaps are that I can work on. Well come on I am ALREADY doing the job just not in the right pay grade. I am almost up to the top of the pay scale for a level 27 and if I get to the level 28 I will be more in line with it which means more likely to get raises if/when they hand those out.

It's frustrating that I have to go through all this work when I am already doing the job. She has this line where she states "You have to do the job before you get the job" which I wanted to tell her I am doing the job.

SO this weekend my plan is to take the job req, update my resume,look at the job famililes things get examples and stuff of where I am qualified for this job (even though I am already doing it) and then talk with her in our meeting about it on Thursday....Hopefully it goes well. Wish me luck!

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Thu, 07-21-2011 - 10:06am
Oh, Cassie. I am so sorry about the problems with your in-laws. I can see how their actions and comments would be very hurtful.

Christine, thanks for your well wishes for the WTTG Movers! LOL As much as I don't want to leave my family, I CANNOT WAIT to actually be in our new (temporary) home. I can't wait for a sense of rountine and normalcy.

And about the resume...I would probably leave off the dog walking job if it isn't related to the job in question.
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Wed, 07-20-2011 - 4:23pm
((hugs)) Cassie.
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Wed, 07-20-2011 - 4:21pm
Christine... I would leave it off.
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Wed, 07-20-2011 - 12:27pm
((((HUGS)))) Cassie!! Your ILs are crazy and it sucks that it takes you guys moving out of state for them to suddenly show interest. Obviously going fishing is more important to them. If I were you, I wouldn't even go out of my way to see them before you hit the road. Make them come to you if they want to see Simon! They're not willing to accommodate you so why should you accommodate them?

Ugh, I am so frustrated for you! GL!!

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Wed, 07-20-2011 - 12:20pm

I am offically done with my inlaws. After last night if we never come back to Montana and see them I will not feel bad and I will not feel bad for Simon. Warning this may get long. . .

When DH told them that I was very likly getting the position I got thay pretty much said nothing. Even after he explained all the stress and emotion issues it was causing me they really didn't have much to say. We figured they were in shock. Well a few nights later they called and said to let us know what they could do to help. As you know we went down there a few weekends ago so we could see all the family at a new cabin that was purchased (which wasn't even a cabin its a house in a community by the river) anywho, so we spend $200 out of savings to go down there and lost time to get things down around here that need done before I move. All we got through the weekend was ridicule from DH's youngest brother K. Who has pretty much told Matt how stupid he is for leaving, that there are jobs out there he just isn't looking right and yada yada yada. I was ready to punch him I was so annoyed. So about a week ago the IL's call and have a conversation with Matt about how there are jobs in other areas and they don't understand why we want to move, even though it has been explained multiple times in multiple ways.

My last night at the store is Thursday, so I get off Friday morning and on Wed next week we plan to pick up the trailer to start loading. So I told Matt, (out of the goodness of my heart and thought for them as they will go from 350 miles to around 900 from their only grand child) to call and see if the "let us know what we can do to help" was legit and if they would come down this weekend and spend it with Simon so that we could pack. Nice right? They get time with Simon we get some work done. The short form of the story.. they are going fishing and invited us to come along!!!! SEROUSLY?!?!? We leave in a little over a week and have packed pretty much nothing and you want us to come fishing with you. K once again throws in his two cents about how and brother J have both been trying to get there boss to let them off so they can go on this trip. Both of the other boys live in the same town as the IL's. Then he pretty well informs me I have no idea what I am talking about on a subject I have two degrees in. This is when I inform my husband I am going to work as I am tired of being insulted.

 Cassie 

     

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Tue, 07-19-2011 - 8:13am

Question for you ladies:

I did the dogwalking job for about

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Mon, 07-18-2011 - 9:48pm

Ruby - GL with the interview tomorrow! I hope you knock their socks off. :smileywink:

Emmy/Erica/Cassie - GL with your upcoming moves! I can't believe we have so many people on this board moving in the same month!

Sandy - Hope the MIL visit is going well. :smileyhappy:

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