Mommy talk - Summer addition

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Mommy talk - Summer addition
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Tue, 06-22-2010 - 10:26am

Mari started one of these a while back and i thought I would bring it back. :)


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Fri, 07-09-2010 - 12:15pm
Hi Anna! The house sounds really interesting. I specially liked the "big garden backing onto open fields" part. It might give your family a wonderful place to play, with the illusion of an even bigger space.
About the cons, I think they are valid point, but you should research a little more before worrying too much. First, you should actually see the house, then the town... is it a small town or a town bordering on "city size"? Does it suffer from unemplyment or not? What kinds of things do you hear bout crime rates and stuff?.
In this day and age it sounds politically incorrect to talk about "less educated people" and such... but let's be honest, we all worry about such things, and the impact that a certain social background could have in our families. However it could be a case of "humble but good" environment, and that's good for a kid grow up. (Sometimes the wealthiest areas are so snobbish that kids get all the bad ideas.)
As far as the schools... i'm not familiar with your educatiuonal system. Do you need to live in a certain place to go to certain schools?? Because if not, maybe you could still live in this house even if it means longer trips to school.
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Fri, 07-09-2010 - 1:06pm

Anna,

It sounds to me based on what you are saying that you will HAVE to move out of the village to afford a house. Since this house is in a good primary-school system and you are just worried about secondary school, I would go for it!! Especially since it sounds like getting a house is something that is really weighing on you (and especially on DH)!

But KUP on what happens and what you decide!

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Fri, 07-09-2010 - 1:10pm
And I think Mari has a good point about the sort of attitude that a very well-to-do village can breed. It might be good to give your kids a start around more "humble folk", so they have a more realistic understanding of the world. This is why DH and I have decided to keep our kids in public school throughout their education, even though DH went to private school for H.S. He wasn't sure about some of the "lessons" he learned there, if you KWIM.
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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 12:14am

Anna, I agree with the pp. I know how you feel not being able to afford a house in the right area, houses (even semi-detached houses) are ridiculously expensive here. My city (and surrounding area)



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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 2:26am

Thanks girls for all your input! It certainly gave me a lot to think about.


Well, we went to see the house yesterday and we're not going to put in an offer. It needed LOTS doing to it - they had chosen the photos very carefully to advertise it! All the floors were ripped out, some plasterwork needed re-doing, everything needed redecorating, there was mould all over the bathroom ceiling... even the agent said there's probably £10K you'd have to spend on it.


Apart from the state it was in though, the house was quite nice, but the area was a bit grim. I totally see what you girls mean about humbler surroundings being better - I agree with that, we're not aiming for anything too posh (not that we could afford it, ha!)

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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 11:10pm

Anna - Good luck with the house hunt! ITA with everything the others said and Kelly's right - 10 years will fly by! DH and I have been in our house for 5 years already and it still feels like we just moved in not that long ago. "...this was the Bare Chested Yobs In Trackie Bottoms Drinking Beer At 10am sort of neighbourhood..." LOL!!!! Great visualization!! :-D


Kelly - Any luck with your job hunt? I'm not sure how it is where you are but I'm finding that there are tons of positions here but

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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 11:21pm

"but this was the Bare Chested Yobs In Trackie Bottoms Drinking Beer At 10am sort of neighbourhood"

HAHAHA OMG I love your English slang (so much of the time, but particularly now).

Anyway, it sounds like a good choice not to take it--it's funny how pictures can be very misleading! Hopefully you'll find something else (much) better, soon.

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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 11:23pm

"I applied for a PT job at my current employer and I just got an email tonight from my friend in HR asking if I could come in for an interview tomorrow afternoon!"

Good luck Christine!! What a great option for you, it would be nice to already sort of know what is going on, I bet!!

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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 12:38am

You betcha! That's been the biggest source of my anxiety, not knowing what my job future holds.


At this point, I would gladly take this position over my current position, even though it's a step down in title and pay, but it gets me away from my boss and I know the people in the surrounding depts. and they're a great group.

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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 1:25am

Anna, sorry the house was not what you expected! I don't know why realtors aren't up front with stuff like that so they can just save everyone's time. Some people ARE interested in a house that needs that much work, but not everyone! I hope one of the others you've been looking at works out though! Love the description of the neighbourhood though - lol! Unfortunately I actually lived somewhere like that when was I was a poor, fresh-out-of-university-with-a-useless-degree kid with no job! Blech! As for people using the benefits system as a career, yeah we've got that here too. My BF has worked all over



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