Mommy talk - Summer addition

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Mommy talk - Summer addition
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Tue, 06-22-2010 - 10:26am

Mari started one of these a while back and i thought I would bring it back. :)


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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 1:35am

Christine, good luck with the interview! I hope it all works out for you! I haven't really been looking too hard for a job yet. I put out a few resumes when I first officially "quit" my old job when my mat leave was up, but nothing since then. No one called me but it was probbaly because I was being a bit picky with my availability, like saying I wouldn't be able to work Sundays and stuff. I didn't want us to be one of those families where Daddy works all day and then Mommy works almost every evening and weekend, and we NEVER spend time together as a family. But it's starting to look like we may have to do that for a while. I'm going to start fresh in the Fall and be a little less picky with my availability. :(


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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 12:26pm

"...this was the Bare Chested Yobs In Trackie Bottoms Drinking Beer At 10am sort of neighbourhood..."

Oh Anna you made me laugh!!! But I agree with you... that kind of neighborhood is not something you should choose if you h ave the option!I hope the other houses you've seen are better in all senses.

Christine- I hope you get the job....

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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 4:28pm

Anna

Sorry about the house :( I hope you find something else that suits you and DH better though. I loved the visual you provided though, lol!

Christine,

Good luck with the job interview!!

Kelly,

When do you think you'll go back to school? Sorry if you already said, I'm going on memory!

AFM,

DH brought up TTC #2 this weekend!!! Holy hell...so unexpected! Basically, he would like our children to be no more than 2 years apart...so it looks like we may be TTCing next summer again. We both love our May baby so I think we'll start trying in June or July in hopes of a March/April due date. I told him that I was fine with this based on two things....we absolutely MUST have a new vehicle before #2 arrives and I would really like to have a permanent position somewhere so I can have true maternity benefits. The vehicle is the only thing I'm holding to him though, the job thing I cant worry about but it would be ideal.

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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 11:51pm

Kelly - Ah yes, now I remember you said you were putting looking on hold until the fall. I too don't want to spend my nights/weekends working but at this point I'll take what I can get.


Ruby - Yay for DH bringing up TTC #2!! Man, it seems lots of DH's are getting on that bandwagon lately - I'm jealous! I do forsee my DH bringing it up once we have our jobs figured out and financials in better shape. For him when money is good then he's in a great mood. My only hesitation is that I absolutely must finish my last semester of grad school (and graduate!) before #2 comes along. I don't mind being PG while finishing school but I definitely want to be completely done by the time we have another baby. It would be great if we were PG together next year! :-)


Mari - Thanks!!


AFM - Thanks everyone for the interview/job luck! I managed not to run into my boss/coworkers (I was SO worried about that!!) but I did see my boss from a distance down the street. I met (all at once) with the director and asst. director of the dept I would be working in and a rep from HR (who is actually a friend of mine but I don't think the other two ladies knew that). The other two ladies were a little older and a bit out of touch with things and at first they didn't realize that I currently work there (HELLO?!?) so it was a little confusing. We'll see what happens. Of course Selin refused to take a bottle while I was gone even though it was a good 3 hours.


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Tue, 07-13-2010 - 4:21am

Christine - when will you hear back about the job? Keeping my fingers crossed!


Kelly - that sounds like a good plan. I'm sure if you start looking early enough both you and DH will find great jobs so that you can move somewhere where it's a bit cheaper!


Ruby- hooray for a cooperative DH, regarding TTC#2! I'm still trying to convince mine even though we're already at it, LOL. Your plan sounds great though.


AFM - Gosh, we looked at so many houses in the last few days! Haven't found "it" yet though. The only house that clicked with me was much too small. I swear it was smaller than our house now, only instead of two big bedrooms they had three tiny ones. It was a lovely house in a nice area though so I kept walking around the rooms seeing if we could make it work! So, we're still on the lookout. At least we've registered with lots more agents now so hopefully they'll let us know if anything comes up.

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Wed, 07-14-2010 - 3:53pm

I'm hoping to hear something by next week. The HR lady said I interviewed extremely well and that they still had a few more people to interview.

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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 9:03am

I was going to post about my MIL in a separate thread the other day but since there are already two rants about ILs, I'll just put it here. :-)


So on Saturday, I took Selin over to my SIL's house and my MIL came by as well so they could play with Selin. I always change her and feed her before we go anywhere and I left Selin there for maybe 30 min. while I ran some quick errands (MIL and SIL were more than willing to watch her). I come back and my MIL says "I changed her diaper". I didn't feel like getting into it so I just said "oh, ok". She didn't say that she was poopy so I really don't know why she changed her when I just changed her before we left the house (and we were only going to be 5 min. away from home). This is not the first time my MIL has done this when I've dropped off Selin before. I always tell her that she's been changed and fed and shouldn't need either and she always changes her diaper. I kind of feel like telling her unless she's going to start paying for diapers, please don't change her before 2 hours unless it's absolutely necessary.


Here comes my second rant (mind you all of this is going on while DH is still overseas - he comes home next week.) A few weeks ago, my MIL and I were discussing the sitter arrangements for Selin. She agreed to take 1 day, my parents are taking 2 days and my neighbor's mom is taking 2 days. My MIL lives in our town but her house is not really setup for a baby - she has no crib/PNP and very little baby toys - so I told her that we would really prefer if she watched Selin at our house since everything is already here. She agreed without argument but when I was at SIL's house (same time as above rant) she brought it up. She says, "I know you wanted me to come to your house but I can't lift Selin and I need my husband (DH's stepfather) to help me with her." This concerned me for two reasons - #1, I'm going back to work in 2 weeks and this is the first time she's mentioning that she can't lift Selin and #2, DH's stepfather has yet to hold Selin (seriously!) and my MIL just told me not that long ago that he is nervous about holding her (which is fine, I'm not going to push it) so I don't see how he is going to be much help to her.


Then, I told her that Selin still won't take a bottle but she will now take cold milk from a cup. I thought she would have been thrilled to hear this (because she's been nagging me about the bottle issues) but instead she replies, "a cup? How are we going to do that? It's going to be so hard. It's going to be a long day. Blah Blah Blah" I told her that some babies never take a bottle and that at least it's better than nothing and that if she'd like to try a bottle with her, I'll gladly leave one (but I highly doubt she'd take it from MIL).


So I left my SILs house with a not-so-good feeling about MIL watching Selin. I mentioned it to DH when he called the next day and thankfully, he admitted that he had the same feeling even before he left for overseas and thinks we should find someone else. So I've found a woman from my LLL group who does in-home daycare and we're going to chat today about her watching Selin 1-2 days/week. My parents can't do more than 2 days and my neighbor's mom is also older and is already doing 2 days so 3 would be too much for her. DH said he will tell his mom that she is no longer needed (well, he'll put it nicer than that, lol) and I feel a huge sense of relief now because I was hesitant all along about her watching Selin because she's older and a bit out of touch about how to care for a baby. DH's sister is due with her 1st in Nov. and his mom is supposedly going to watch her baby one day/week. Will be interesting to see how that goes.


Sorry for the novel but thanks for reading if you made it this far!


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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 2:30pm

Yikes, your MIL sounds difficult. How weird for you, too, when your DH is not there. I totally feel for you, Christine. I've had - ahem - similar issue which I won't get into here (afraid she'll find me here, too!!!); anyway, what a relief that you won't have to rely on her to watch Selin. It sounds like that was not going to be a good situation for anyone involved.

And yeah, the diaper change thing is odd... sounds to me like perhaps she just wants control... is she like that in other ways?




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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 2:52pm

Christine--

It sounds like you are doing the right thing with getting someone else to watch her. I mean if MIL can't LIFT her then she probably shouldn't be watching her!

I also had a thought about the changing--it sounds to me like your MIL just likes to feel useful and so enjoys changing the diaper. Maybe the next time you do something like this you just SHOULDN'T change her and when you drop her off, say something like: "I know you like changing her so I didn't change her yet." And then that can open the discussion up for WHY your MIL insists on changing her--and if she is just like: "Oh okay, thanks", or something, then you'll know that she just likes doing it and so you can bring her there ready to be changed as a rule. LOL.

Oh, and I wanted to ask if you've tried the Tommee Tippee bottles with Selin yet? They look a lot like a boob and all the Moms on my EC were just raving about them and how well they work with BFing and everything. Though if Selin will take a cup maybe it's not necessary but if you wanted to try it you should!

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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 3:09pm
Wow, Adrienne's idea is a really good one, re: diaper changes!



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