Mommy talk?

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Mommy talk?
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Wed, 02-17-2010 - 10:17am

Ladies, I've been wanting to start this thread for some time now.
I don't know if you feel the same, but sometimes I feel the need to talk with adults about general stuff... not only baby stuff!
We have the baby update thread to talk about our babies and their progress, here we can talk about everything else. Of course, since we are moms, there will be a lot about our kids, but they won't be the center of the thread.
Also, I suppose it will be a really slow thread, none of us has much time to post. But I hope it goes on even if slowly.

I'll start:

I think I've finally adjusted to having my baby at home after the NICU. We are back on a routine and I feel more like myself again.
What worries me right now is the relationship between DH and I. It's not like we are fighting or anything. It's just that it seems we are parents... and not lovers anymore. I mean, we don't spend time "just for the two of us". It's always about the baby, or work, or financial issues. And it sucks! I've tried to talk about it with him, but he doesn't seem to feel like there is anything wrong!! I suppose it has to do with the way our own parents were. My parents tried to find time for their relationship, going on dates and finding time during the day to talk. His parents live through their children and I've noticed that by now they are almost scared to go out alone as a couple. I suppose they can't find what to talk about...
Another thing is our sex life. Between the baby, his work and life in general we are really exhausted. And when we are in the mood, baby is asleep, we are not tired and the planets are aligned....... it hurts so much that it feels awful!!!! I got some advice in the sex thread I posted, but it sucks that the only think I can do is "give it time and patience"!!!!

On a brighter note, we are just about to buy our dream lot! Finally there is still some paperwork left to do, but I think it is a matter of days. I'll try to post pictures soon!

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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: bailarina2005
Sun, 05-02-2010 - 1:53am

Thank you so much guys. I was having such a bad day yesterday and really needed to get that out. I know DH and I badly need to talk but I swear it's so hard to talk to the guy sometimes. He always seems to take things the wrong way or get defensive or think that I'm making too much out of things. I know he is stressed at work and he is tired a lot too - he



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In reply to: bailarina2005
Tue, 05-04-2010 - 11:22pm

Kelly--Can you look for a babysitter that isn't a family or friend? When I was a teenager, I put an ad in the paper as an available babysitter and met two great families that I ended up working for for years. I realize you might want someone older, but if you advertised for a babysitter, you could interview people, ask for references, etc. It sounds like not having a babysitter is a huge barrier in making plans for you--so maybe that is something you could look into. Especially in this economy I bet there are plenty of college students/young Moms who are looking to make some extra money and would love to watch Elena once a week or every other week so you and DH could have a date night.

(((HUGS))) Hang in there, girl.

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Registered: 12-17-2007
In reply to: bailarina2005
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 10:41am

Kelly - we've had good luck finding babysitters using sittercity.com. There's a signup fee, but we've found it to be worth it.

If you know people with kids, you could also see about trading off babysitting - you take care of their kids then they take care of yours.

~Lorien





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