Moms--Is this Baby your Last?

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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 5:33pm

So is your most recent WTT baby your last or are you once again WTT?

If you are planning another, when will you start TTCing again?

How long did it take you to TTC this baby?

If you are planning another, how long are you thinking it will take to TTC the next time?

If this baby is your last, how do you feel about that? Are you completely done or you just aren't sure? Do you and DH have different thoughts about an ideal family size?

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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 6:01pm

So is your most recent WTT baby your last or are you once again WTT? I am WTT, DH is sort of done, so we will discuss what we want to do in a few months. I will likely get my way, though I don't think he'll ever agree on a 4th like I want.

If you are planning another, when will you start TTCing again? Late Spring/Early Summer 2011. I am actually thinking about trying in April and May 2011 and then skipping June and July. I kind of would enjoy baby 3 being born in a different month then Eloise and Desmond.

How long did it take you to TTC this baby? 2 cycles

If you are planning another, how long are you thinking it will take to TTC the next time? 2 cycles, it has taken 2 cycles with both Desmond and Eloise, though to be fair Desmond wasn't TTCed, we just weren't as careful as we should have been.

If this baby is your last, how do you feel about that? Are you completely done or you just aren't sure? Do you and DH have different thoughts about an ideal family size?

I am not done, which is why I am hoping that Eloise is not my last. I would still love 4, but I think I would be okay and happy with 3. I do not feel done with just 2. DH and I do have different ideals on family size, he would have been fine with just one, I have always wanted 5. He is really happy with 2, but will likely be just as happy with 3, we'll just have to wait and see when we discuss it.












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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 2:58am

Elena will be our first and last. I am quite content with an only child. I always used to want 2 but now I can't even imagine it. I just don't think I can do it again. I love her to death but I don't think I have the right skill set to be a mama. I don't have the energy, the patience, or the right temperament. Those PSAs about shaken-baby syndrome are aimed at people like me, I'm sure. :(


I feel fine about her being my only baby. So does DH, even more so than me. I went through a brief phase when she was about 6 to 8 months old where I wanted a second one again but I got over it, then a extremely brief phase just in the last couple of weeks where wanting a second was nagging at me again, but I think I'd be just as happy if a close friend got pregnant and I got to play with the newborn - and then give it back. We have some friends IRL who are looking at starting to TTC after Christmas this year and I just can't wait. LOL.


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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 6:11am

So is your most recent WTT baby your last or are you once again WTT? I am wanting to TTC again. Dh isn't so sure and keeps saying maybe we should only have one. I think he'll change his mind in a few years when David gets closer to 1 1/2 to 2.


If you are planning another, when will you start TTCing again? Mid to late 2011 to early 2012. Not sure if we will wait until David is almost 2 or until after he's turned 2. We are definately skipping March/April as I don't want another December baby and I don't want a December and January baby.


How long did it take you to TTC this baby? It took us 4 cycles.


If you are planning another, how long are you thinking it will take to TTC the next time? Not sure. I'm thinking at least 4 maybe as long as 6 or more since I will be a bit older and high risk. I'lll be over 35 as I turn 35 this September.

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 7:17am

So is your most recent WTT baby your last or are you once again WTT?
- I'm WTT, very impatiently I might add! I'm sure I've bored you all enough with DH's antics ;-)

If you are planning another, when will you start TTCing again?
- God knows!

How long did it take you to TTC this baby?
- We were very lucky, it happened on the first try.

If you are planning another, how long are you thinking it will take to TTC the next time?
-I keep catching myself thinking it will happen immediately again. But I know that's not how it works! So I reckon up to half a year.

If this baby is your last, how do you feel about that? Are you completely done or you just aren't sure? Do you and DH have different thoughts about an ideal familysize?
- we definitely have different thoughts. If it was just DH, he feels he's done now, after only one. Whereas I get teary-eyed even when I think the next one might be the last. So I have told DH if he agrees to a second, I'll drop my plans for a third - but I'm thinking that once we have a second baby, and it is a few years old, I might pursue the subject again... LOL.
Funny thing is I never wanted more than two (back in the days when I was still thinking hypothetically); but now having had one, I think 3 or 4 would be much nicer :-)

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 7:39am
Kelly - while obviously I don't want to criticise your plans to only have one child, it hurts me to see you doubting your parenting skills. I am absolutely convinced you're a great Mama, and that doesn't mean you have to be super energetic or patient or whatever, everyone has their own way! I know how much you love Elena, and that's the most important thing.
How is the situation with DH? Have you spoken to him at all about not feeling appreciated / his hurtful behaviour? How are you feeling now?

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 2:42pm
Kelly, i agree with everything Anna said... Loosing your patience is a part of being a mom. I've lost it hundreds of times, and although I always feel guilty, rationally I know it's normal!
A few days ago, it was nursing time. My breasts were about to burst, and Fede kept getting distracted every few seconds and jerked his head (without releasing the nipple...ouch!!). After 15 minutes of this I shouted something like "I can't stand you anymore!", dropped Fede in the PNP, run to the bedroom and cry in misery for half an hour. Next thing I knew was DH carrying Fede in one hand and handing me the breast pump with the other.
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 2:55pm

So is your most recent WTT baby your last or are you once again WTT?
>>I'm definitely WTT for #2! DH and I are sure we want 3 or 4. Probably 3, though.

If you are planning another, when will you start TTCing again?
>> I'm thinking to stop the BC and switch to FAM in September and start TTC in January.

How long did it take you to TTC this baby?
>> He was a bit of an accident (although I was charting so I knew how high the risk was), so it was the first try.

If you are planning another, how long are you thinking it will take to TTC the next time?
>> I doubt I will have so much luck, so I'm guessing around 4 cycles.

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 3:25pm
Mari what a funny story about Fede and DH! DH sounds like a great guy! ;-)
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 3:36pm

So is your most recent WTT baby your last or are you once again WTT?

We're WTT

If you are planning another, when will you start TTCing again?

I don't want them any closer then 2 years and preferably more like 3 but a lot depends on TTC time. So we'll probably start trying in summer 2011.

How long did it take you to TTC this baby?

One long cycle.

If you are planning another, how long are you thinking it will take to TTC the next time?

No clue. Hopefully not too long since my cycles are so long. Anywhere from 2-6 months.

If this baby is your last, how do you feel about that? Are you completely done or you just aren't sure? Do you and DH have different thoughts about an ideal family size?

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 3:52pm

Great questions Adrienne!

So is your most recent WTT baby your last or are you once again WTT?
WTT again

If you are planning another, when will you start TTCing again?
Technically we're just NPP right now, but I keep thinking that we really should be a little more careful. We'll start TTC sometime in late 2010/early 2011

How long did it take you to TTC this baby?
one cycle - we were very fortunate

If you are planning another, how long are you thinking it will take to TTC the next time?
I really don't know. Right now my cycles are pretty non-existant; AF has only visited once, and I'm pretty sure it was an anovulatory cycle. If Barrett is still nursing when we TTC, it may take a bit longer.

Do you and DH have different thoughts about an ideal family size?
Yes! He wants two. I want 3 or 4. But at least right now we are both agreed to TTC #2 and DH is ready now - I'm actually the one who wants to wait.

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