Nap/bedtime struggles

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Nap/bedtime struggles
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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 5:42pm

Selin just turned 8 mos last week and we have been having these struggles for at least a few months now.

Naps: During the week, she usually only gets one decent nap during the day. I have to leave for work by 10:30am and she usually gets tired by 9-9:30. I start the nap routine as soon as I see she's tired but most days, she either fights it (even though she's clearly tired) or wakes as soon as I put her in her crib. This means that she doesn't nap for the sitter until 12/1pm. I get home from work around 3/3:30pm and usually she gets tired shortly thereafter so we go through the same thing again. Right now she is clearly tired but won't nurse to sleep.

Another nap issue - I used to be able to put her down awake and she would fuss for a little bit but put herself to sleep. She'll do this for the sitters but at home, ever since she started actively rolling, she WILL NOT go down for a nap awake. I put her down after nursing when she's nice and sleepy but as soon as she goes down, she rolls over, gets stuck in the crib and cries.

Same thing as bedtime - she will only go down after she is nursed to sleep. I love nursing her to sleep but sometimes it takes an hour to get her to bed. Not to sound selfish, but nighttime is the only time I have to get stuff done and spend time with DH. If she's really tired, she'll go down in 30 minutes but it's hit or miss.

In all situations, I'm in a quiet, dark room with her with white noise and she's been changed.

Help! There's got to be an easier way for me to put her down for naps and bedtime so I'm not spending hours a day!

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Registered: 02-27-2008
Thu, 11-04-2010 - 9:04pm
"She was clearly tired and everytime her eyes would close, she would pop off and want to sit up. This went on for nearly 45 min. I've tried putting her in the crib after she's nursed and sleepy but not sleeping and she gets hysterical. I tried rubbing her back and shushing her but she sits up and reaches her arms out for me to hold her. I can't just let her cry like that!"

Oh Christine, you have just described TO A T what Eliza is like. Ah, these babies :) But I've just never been okay with letting her cry, either... and she's never EVER been a baby who will fall asleep if I put her down "drowsy but awake".

Sounds like you're doing all you can to work on the naps, given yours and DH's schedule. It will get better. And I'm impressed that Selin will go down for a nap anywhere else (and for someone else) - Eliza still won't nap for my parents or DH. So that's something!

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Wed, 11-03-2010 - 10:19pm

Thanks ladies for all the info! We're still having issues but I've decided to work on naptime first and then bedtime as the naps are currently the biggest issue, esp. during the week when I'm working.

We always have Selin in bed before 8pm. We usually start her bedtime routine around 6:45-7:00. I've been trying to put her down for her first nap before 2 hours after she wakes up and have had some success but not everyday. ITA that she should still be having at least 2 naps/day. She hasn't had 3 naps/day in quite some time so she might just be a 2 nap/day baby.

Sara - I haven't read the books you mentioned but thanks for the info!

Brita - I've been trying the 2-3-4 routine and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Last Sunday, it worked pretty well and she ended up taking a 2 hour nap for her first nap - I was in heaven! During the week, she really battles to go down for that first nap though and for the past week, if she takes a nap before I go to work then she hasn't been napping well at the sitters. If she doesn't take a nap before I go to work then she usually takes a 1-2 hour nap at the sitters but that is still not enough. OMG, too cute about Barrett turning off the CD at naptime!

I would love for DH to do bedtime but the problem is he doesn't work a typical 9-5 job and sometimes gets home after Selin is in bed. So for consistency sake, it's better for me to put her to bed. The nights he is home though, he helps me bathe her (recently we've been having her shower with me, it's faster and she loves it) then he takes her, dries her off and puts her pj's on. Then I take over and nurse her to sleep. Also, since the day she was born, Selin falls asleep when I nurse her so if I handed her off to DH then she would be woken up.

Today was the worst - she woke up at 7am and at 8:45am I started her routine - change her diaper, turn on the lullaby CD and nurse her on the boppy with a thin blanket she could hold. She was clearly tired and everytime her eyes would close, she would pop off and want to sit up. This went on for nearly 45 min. I've tried putting her in the crib after she's nursed and sleepy but not sleeping and she gets hysterical. I tried rubbing her back and shushing her but she sits up and reaches her arms out for me to hold her. I can't just let her cry like that! I picked her back up and nursed her again and she finally fell asleep but only slept for 25 min. My mom was at our house watching her today and she said she tried 2-3x's to do the same routine I did in her room but she would not fall asleep, which is weird because she usually naps for my mom. Of course today was the one day I had a dr. appt. after work so I came home from work, nursed Selin and then we were off in the car. She got fussy of course because she was overtired and only had the 25 min. nap and started to fall asleep just as we pulled up to the doctor's office. She fussed all the way home and took a nap from 5:30-6:00. She was crabby all throughout dinner but thankfully she was getting sleepy after we did bathtime and changed her for bed. She was

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Thu, 10-28-2010 - 1:07pm

I agree with Adrienne...babies still need at least 2-3 naps at this age.

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Thu, 10-28-2010 - 11:51am

Barrett has always had trouble sleeping - but it seemed to alternate between naps and nighttime - so if he was napping well, then the nighttime sleep was poor (right now we are in a poor nap stage, but that's really because two naps are too many and one is not quite enough).

Barrett got to a really consistent schedule with his naps around 9 months, and that made it so much easier to get him down.

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 3:25pm

Hugs!

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Registered: 09-08-2007
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 2:31pm

We had a nice thread about napping a while back--I think the general consensus was that if you wait until the baby is already tired, it can be WAY harder to get them to sleep, and they actually don't sleep as long

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