Need Some advice

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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 10:29am

So, we started potty training David and he's doing quite well. I took him to the sitter yesterday and she does not want to deal with training him. I don't know what to do. I would think she would be willing to train him. she said that he is too young. I know there are a lot of people that don't believe in early potty training but david is showing the signs and he knows when he is wet. She also said he cannot communicate the word potty. I told her that he grabs his pants and he runs to the door if he has to go. She also said she doesn't think that he is saying enough words. My husband and I talked about it last night and I think he can communicate just fine. I think maybe she is trying to push him too much. I really like her and I don't want to have to look for another sitter but I am not sure what to do.

Anyone have any suggestions? I just don't want to confuse him while potty training there him wearing diapers and here wearing underwear.

I think I may tell her again and say I dont' want to confuse him and his potty training as he's doing really well at home. Maybe I should have him wear pull ups there or something. I would think she would be willing to work with him.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 4:53pm

We've never had any issues with this sitter. We had issues with our previous one because she would not work with my work schedule. I don't want to have to find another one as we really like her and this is the 5th one we have had since David was born. We had a really good one a little over a year ago but she lived too far and we couldn't afford to pay her any more.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 4:41pm

I agree with Kate: if your sitter does not have in writing that she will not assist with potty training then I would express your concerns and if she's still not willing, perhaps look for someone else. I would have the same concern that it might inhibit his progress if he's only potty training at home.

And I don't think it's her place to say whether or not he's too young. A friend of mine had her two sons pooping on the potty before they were a year old, I think!

From memory, this is not the first time you've had an issue with this sitter, correct? Maybe it's time to find someone new altogether?

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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 2:10pm
If she has no policy in place then I would certainly talk to her.
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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 1:27pm

The sheet she gave us has no policies on PT. I am going to express my concerns. I think the deal is right now David won't ask I have to take him to the potty until he gets the hang of it. I think she wants him to be where he will ask and she will help with training then. So until he will ask I guess we will just work with him at home and see how it goes. Maybe he will catch on and be asking within no time.

I know a lot of people thinks he's too young but the other day he knew when he had the accident that it happened and ran tot he potty. Granted it was too late but the fact that he realized what was going on.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 12:47pm
Depending on your sitter, she may refuse to watch him unless he is wearing diapers. Some places have policies on that. I know some places, especially as they get older, will not take them unless they are PT.

When I PTed Ray, he was 3.5 (or was it 2.5... I don't recall it's been so long) and his sitter was willing to work with us. And he was fully trained within a month.

I agree it should be an all or nothing and doing both may confuse him. Does your sitter allow cloth diapers? Maybe you could go that way? But then again, if she's not willing to take him to the potty when he's not asking then it may be all for nothing.
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