NEW Baby/Kid Chat - October

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NEW Baby/Kid Chat - October
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Wed, 10-17-2012 - 11:36pm

Testing to see if I can setup a new thread for us! Anyone out there? :-)

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Fri, 10-26-2012 - 7:04am

Ella- Yup, favorite milestone so far!!! Well, probably the favorite was he saying "mama", but this is close!
Erica- I'm sorry you've been down. I've been there a number of times, and it really helps to create a (realistic) routine of house chores and sticking to it. Something that helps me when I'm down is to do some soul searching about the reasons behind those feelings, most of the times it isn't something you can "see" easily, but once you do, most of the sadness goes away. For instance, a few weeks ago I had a couple of days feeling quite blue, and at first glance everything was OK, so I really couldn't understand it. And then I remembered that just before that I had spent an entire afternoon organizing Fede's baby pictures and videos. It sounds silly but that must have triggered some feelings of loss because he isn't a little baby anymore and also I was a little depressed during those first months, so probably those pics and videos brought back some of those feelings. As I said, it sounds silly, but once I could put a name on the sadness it lost all it's strength.
Andi- I'm happy for you and your job promotion!! YAY!! I hope you can all adapt quickly to the changes it brings.  Also congratulations on having two walkers!!! I love reading about your babies here and in your blog. They are the sweetest!!!
Christine- The weekend is almost here…. pelase let us know when you POAS!!!!
Sandy- I'm glad you had a nice time you grandpa… That picture is so sweet!! And I'm so glad your baby's friend is better!
Jess- Congrats! it looks like she is well on her way to be PT!!!! Just keep in mind that once the baby comes she may regress for a little while (it happened to one of my uncle's kids). But it's totally normal and (if it happens) she'll go back to it fast!

AFM- We are facing a little dilemma with Fede's sleep. Ella, I know Eliza had some of this issues, so I would appreciate some advice! But anyone else, I'd appreciate your thoughts!
Until a week or so ago, Fede would wake up two or three times a night on average. He would cry for us and then ask for some milk or cuddles and go back to sleep. And then out of the blue one night Fede figured out he could actually clim out of his bed and come to our room. So he comes, taps me or DH on the shoulder and asks for a place in our bed…. It is nicer than being woken up by a crying child, but we are already tight in our (double) bed with Julia there, so when it's the four of us, we really can't get any decent rest!
Besides, I really feel he should be sleeping in his own bed now.
Anyways, something I've been thinking about is that since we co-sleep with Julia, Fede might be having some feelings of being "left out", KWIM? He is all alone in his bedroom, while mom and dad snuggle with the baby…. So maybe the trick could be to move Julia to Fede's room. We've always planned them to share a room in their first years anyways.
The only problem is that Julia is still nursing at night, not a lot, it's more of a comfort thing for a couple of minutes here and there. And then there is the BIG nurse session around 6am, just before we all wake up.

So…. do you think we could nigh-wean our 7m baby??? Or maybe just move a comfy chair to the kids bedroom and prepare myself spiritually to do some nursing at nights?

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Fri, 10-26-2012 - 9:13am
Oh, that sounds like a tricky situation, Mari! We've had a long journey with Eliza getting her to sleep in her own bed and to stay there all night - but we don't have the added 2nd baby in our bed (yet)... that sound very difficult! I think your idea of moving Julia to Fede's room is certainly worth a try. I've heard of siblings becoming better sleepers when they are together, but I don't know at what age that is ideal. 7 months does seem pretty little! And you might end up losing more sleep going in and nursing her in a different room... what a tough situation! When Eliza comes into our room, which she still does once per night between 11:00pm and 5:00am, I get up, lead her back to her bed and tuck her back in. Sometimes she needs me to stay with her until she falls back asleep (which doesn't take long), and sometimes she just falls right back asleep as soon as her head hits the pillow. Have you tried that with Fede? I know it requires getting up out of bed and that's annoying -- especially if Julia is in bed with you and might notice your absence -- but maybe DH could do it? We play the "big girl" angle a LOT with Eliza. We did co-sleep for a very long time, over 2 years, so we talk about how she used to sleep in mama and dada's bed when she was a "baby", but now that she's a big girl, she has her own special big girl bed that is only for big big girls and that's where she needs to sleep at night. She will sometimes express a feeling of sadness or of feeling that she won't "be able to sleep in her bed all night because it's hard to sleep all night" (makes me so sad for her!!), and we do try to be understanding and talk to her about her fears/concerns. I say a lot of "I know it's hard, but we know you can do it, you are old enough now to do this and we are right down the hall/downstairs if you need us." It's so hard though!! Sometimes I just want to let her sleep with us... but she's really big now and our bed just gets too cramped (DH and I both like to spread out when we sleep... should have gotten a King size bed!!). Oh - and recently she's been doing a funny thing I need to share: after we say goodnight to her and close her door, she usually just goes right to sleep, but last week when we were downstairs in the living room, we heard her come out of her room, walk down the hall to our room, and climb into our bed! I went up there like 10 minutes later and she was all curled up in our bed with her pillow, her stuffed animal and her sippy cup, totally sound asleep! Ha! Then when she did it the next night I went up right away to bring her back to her bed and she said "I like your bed, I want to sleep in your bed, it's more comfy." Little stinker! So that's been our most recent "challenge". Anyway - that was really long but I hope you guys can help Fede either sleep on his own or transition Julia to his room. Whichever one works better! You could try one way first and if it doesn't work, then try the other? Good luck! I'm sure I will have a very similar post next year when baby #2 is in our bed. I'm sure Eliza will feel a bit left out, too. :/

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Fri, 10-26-2012 - 7:54pm

I wouldnt night wean her Mari, she seems very little yet for that.  However, I would move her and put a big comfy chair in the room and see how it goes with nursing her there.  Maxim always had his own room so I was up in his room nursing at night until he night weaned on his own at 11 months.  It wasnt easy at first but it did get easier over time and I honestly never minded it much.  Night nursing was actually my favorite time of day...quiet, dark and peaceful.  :)   I also like the angle Ella suggested around "big boy" in his big boy bed. Good luck deciding!

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Sun, 10-28-2012 - 9:31pm

Hi ladies,

Just wanted to update that I got a BFP this morning!!! :-D

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Mon, 10-29-2012 - 2:06pm
AWESOME news, Christine!!! Congratulations!!!!
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Mon, 10-29-2012 - 6:13pm

CONGRATS Christine!!! How exciting! :)

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Mon, 10-29-2012 - 10:23pm

Thanks Alison and Andi!

And there are a couple other people joining me, but I'll let them announce for themselves. ;-)

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Tue, 10-30-2012 - 8:47am

WOOHOO!!!!!!! Congratulations!!!!!!!!

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Tue, 10-30-2012 - 10:05pm

Thanks Mari!

And the Nov thread is up ladies! Let's keep the momentum going!

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