In Nursery Right Away?

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In Nursery Right Away?
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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 11:19am

Hi BTDT ladies!

So, our plan is to start putting Evan in the nursery to sleep right off the bat. Not sure how it's going to go, and of course we'll be more than flexible if it doesn't work - but I was wondering for those of you who have done this, what tips and suggestions do you have? Anything that happened that you weren't expecting? If you were planning on doing this, but it didn't work out, how did you make the change (and what changes did you make)?

TIA!





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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 5:45pm
Thanks for sharing your experiences, everyone! We know there may be a chance that it won't work out the way we think, but at least if we go in with a plan and know the possible set backs we'll encounter, we'll at least be better prepared. I think it's probably like a lot of things with parenting: if you're determined to do something, you'll find a way to make it work :)




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Sat, 07-10-2010 - 4:34pm

Like all the others have said, you have to first take into account what arrangement would work for you and DH, and then what your baby prefers.

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 11:55pm

Love the name Alyssa! Before I share my experience, I just want to second what Ash said about babies being different. That's one thing that I've definitely learned - what works for one baby may not work for another.


Selin has been in her crib since day one for a number of reasons. DH and I didn't feel comfortable with co-sleeping, there is very little extra room in our BR for a bassinet (and I didn't really want another piece of furniture in addition to the crib and PNP that we already had), and I kind of wanted our BR to be "our" place for just DH and I. Now, having said all that...


The first two nights we were home from the hospital, Selin wouldn't sleep for more than 30 minutes. I spent hours in her room (which is right next to ours) shushing her and rocking her. I was a zombie! At her 4 day checkup with the pedi, I begged her for suggestions. She said it sounded like we were doing everything right (making sure she was changed, fed and warm) and her only suggested was to swaddle her really tight. Thankfully, that did the trick and from that point on, she started sleeping in good chunks. By 6-7 weeks, she was STTN.


We have absolutely nothing in her crib aside from her mattress so I don't have to worry about her suffocating. It makes me nervous when I see cribs lined with bumpers and blankets and stuffed animals. We do have a Fisher Price aquarium attached to the side of her crib but she can fall asleep without it on now. We also have a nightlight in the room.


I also think it's a good idea to get baby to nap in the crib if possible. With Selin, it is 50/50. Some days she prefers her PNP and other days her crib for naps so I just go with the flow.


Yes feedings/changings took a little longer but most of the time DH would get her and bring her to me and I side nursed her in bed (this was a lifesaver!) This allowed me to rest while nursing her but sometimes I would fall asleep and wake up in a panic searching for her in our bed. Sometimes I had already put her back in her crib but for some reason thought she was still in our bed. I haven't done side nursing in about 2 months because she pretty much STTN now and if she does wake up, I just go to her room and nurse her in the glider.


GL!


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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 9:42am
Both boys went in their own rooms immediately when getting home from the hospital.

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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 9:04pm

Cassie,


I spent the first two weeks in our guest room.

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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 4:15pm
Like the PP said, if you start in the nursery right away, you probably wont have any problems. Keep in mind that you'll probably spend more time out of bed every night, so plan on a comfy chair and possibly a tv set or something to help you keep awake during the first weeks when the baby is slow at feedings.
But... be prepared, babies change our most careful plans sometimes!!
Take me for example. I was absolutely against co-sleeping. My plan was to make him sleep in a crib next to us for the first 4-6 months and then off to the nursery! But he hated his crib from day one, and woke up very often during the night...every hour after his stay in the NICU. We tried co-sleeping in a night of exhaustion. And we slept sooooo well that we continued! We are transitioning him out of our bed right now, and so far it is going well, so room sharing or even co-sleeping, don't need to be permanent.
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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 3:44pm

We didn't plan for Simon to sleep in his room. We planned on him sleeping in ours in his cradle for atleast 6 months. He spent most of the first two weeks sleeping between my mom and I in the living room. The night my mom left DH and I were exhausted. We put him down in his crib and said he gets 10 minutes to cry. At minute 8 he was out and slept for 4 hours. With a few occasions in our room he has slept in his own room ever sence. We do have amonitor just because we are on two opposite sides of the house.


Good luck, sometimes you just have to go with the flow and alter things a little. You will figure out what works best for you guys. Don't do anything your not comfortable with but you will figure out what rolls for you. :)


Oh and congrats on a little boy!


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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 11:54am

This is one of those things where I think a lot depends on the baby. Teddy was so fussy that he just would not sleep anywhere besides on me for the first 12ish weeks. I mean not even in the co-sleeper right next to me! For me it was not what I planned but whatever, you do what you have to do:)

I have found that transitioning him to his bed in his room isn't that difficult. I put him down there for some naps and he sleeps fine there- however he will really sleep anywhere now (just not for long!! LOL).

I think if you start out always putting him in his nursery you shouldn't have many problems at all, and if it doesn't work out, try not to stress about it. You aren't doomed to have a 10 year old who still sleeps in your bed or something like that. You can still transition them to their own room even if you start at 4,6, 12 months etc:)

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 07-05-2010 - 11:50am

Alyssa,

First off congrats on your boy and I LOVE the name!

We put Maxim in his room from the start and a couple things helped. First was to just let go of the worry that he would be ok in there. We created a really beautiful room for him that was cozy and comfortable so playing out the mental picture that its a safe, good place for him helped. It sounds corny but it works. Also it helps to know that even without a monitor you will hear him when he wakes up to eat. We dont use a monitor because I would hear every grunt, groan, gargle....its just more peaceful for all of us. I hear him all night long when he sleeps at the cottage because his PNP is in our room and its so annoying (and sleepless) after having him in his own room.

Second was to resign ourselves to the fact that because we didnt believe in co-sleeping/bed-sharing was that we would have to get out of bed, and walk next door to get the baby. Which means being up longer to change the diaper and feed.

We also have a large comfy recliner in his room. Not just a glider but a full on cushy LazyBoy thing. Because I refuse to bring him to bed with us in the middle of the night, there were some nights when he wouldnt go back to sleep on his own very easily and because I was so tired, I would just sleep in the chair with him on my chest. I cant imagine sleeping in a glider so a recliner was a must-have for my nursery.

I also use his crib for naps during the day....so getting the baby used to the crib helps...if its the only place he expects to sleep, then its easy to keep him in the crib. Consistency is key.

Finally, DH and I have a silent agreement that I do all the night duties during the work week but on Friday night and Saturday night, DH gets up to change the diaper before handing him off to me to feed. Sometimes Maxim has hard nights so if its a weekend, DH will also take the baby in the morning so I can get some extra sleep....this usually happens now when we go to the cottage. Even that little bit helps me out and it keeps DH involved too.

I also have a non-colicky, not all that fussy, easy sleeper baby. Other BTDT's may have a totally different experience :)

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