Officially stopping breastfeeding

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Registered: 07-14-2008
Officially stopping breastfeeding
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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 1:20am

So I’m officially done with breastfeeding or giving Alexa pumped breast milk.

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 11:52am

Hugs! BFing is so hard in the beginning, even when everything goes right, and when things go wrong, it is so much worse. I did the whole pumping and SNS thing with Evan and it is exhausting! You've done so much to try and make it work-I think many/most people would have gone to formula in the first week or 2!

In regards to the frustration of having to wait for the bottle to warm up while Alexa cries-One thing that we tried (and it worked) when Evan was on the SNS (and then the bottle) was seeing if he would drink the milk cold--he was so impatient and cried so much waiting for us to warm up the milk--and it turned out he preferred it cold! Maybe Alexa might tolerate/like cold formula, which would cut down on the crying waiting for feedings. Also, I know several people who swear by cabbage leaves when they stopped BFing.

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Registered: 03-29-2008
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 1:46pm

Jen, I am so sorry about everything you've been going through!

-Suzie :)

 

 

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Registered: 07-14-2008
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 3:50pm

So my mommy guilt for stopping pumping went down a lot today.

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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 3:53pm

Thanks Suzie.

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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 4:12pm

Jen - I'm not a BTDT, but I'm really impressed that you stuck it out over a month with all of those problems. You have no reason to feel guilty about stopping, although it's hard not too when you really want something to work out.

It's nice to hear that you guilt has gone down now that you know Alexa was reacting badly to the expressed breast milk - I'm sure your family will be much happier now that has been figured out. Now just for you to start feeling better after your surgery!





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Registered: 12-23-2003
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 5:29pm

I think it might be different if it was the first week and you were having these problems as clearly it takes a while for everything to work how it should when it comes to breastfeeding (we had the same issues, Teddy lost more then 10%,got jaundice, would always wake up crying during BMs, was having green poos,etc) BUT after about 2ish weeks that was all worked out and everything was getting better. However in your case you have done so so SO much and it just isn't getting better for you or Alexa.

Thankfully we live in a time where there is a great alternative to breastfeeding- formula!! Clearly Alexa is doing better on it and that is what matters:) I would go ahead and get products like bottle warmers on the go, etc to make formula feeding as practical as possible so that you can feed your daughter as easily as possible.

I'm glad you are feeling a bit better. Just remember you know what is best for you and your daughter:)

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Sun, 07-11-2010 - 10:36pm

Aww Jen! I'm so sorry that things didn't work out with BFing but I think you definitely gave it your all, and that's all you can do. I hope you feel like you really did all that you could--it seems like based on Alexa's sensitive system and the issues you were having, that this change is for the best for both of you, so I hope you feel at peace with what happened. I know you wish you could put her to your breast, but as you said, if she is a happier and healthier baby on formula, then there's not really any arguing with that, right?

I'm sorry, too, about AF--but I'm not sure that it is considered AF if you are bleeding before 6 weeks post-partum . . . I'm not sure. Then again, since you were taking so many supplements, maybe it would mess with that and actually start AF? Anyway, hopefully you find a BC situation that will work out for you guys so you don't have to worry about getting pregnant again right away.

(((HUGS))) Momma--you sound exhausted! I hope the formula helps Alexa feel better and you get some more sleep. You are doing a great job.

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 10:35am

((((HUGS)))) I can't imagine what you are going through and since I haven't been there yet, I don't have advice...just that I am here to support your in stopping. It sounds like you have done EVERYTHING you could have to keep breast feeding/pumping. and if I were you I would probably be stopping too....

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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 3:29pm

Jen I'm so sorry that things didn't work out with BFing but I'm glad your guilt is getting better! I felt really guilty too when I switched from EPing to formula (I didn't have supply issues, but Elena just simply refused to BF - period!), but I got over it fast. Formula is NOT poison and it is a perfectly good way to nourish your baby. Back in the old days (even the 70s, for goodness sakes), if a baby wasn't BF'd it was given just straight cow's milk, and they survived! In fact I was one of those babies - my mom BF'd me for 4 months and then I just got straight milk - nothing as good as formula for me and I'm fine!


One thing I found quicker with preparing formula was to keep bottles of water at room temperature then I would just put in the powder and shake it up when it was meal time. Much quicker than warming a cold bottle, and while it may not have been as warm, it certainly wasn't as cold as a bottle straight out of the fridge. This also works great



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