Great to hear a post-partum update from you Mari! I've been thinking of you! ;-)
Btw, how did your thyroid test go this week??
I remember being terrified to go #2 after delivery but it was easier than I feared. I think I had lochia for a good month or so afterwards though so what you're experiencing sounds totally normal to me.
I've been having a lot of incontinence issues lately, leakage and urgency,
Yep...you can start immediately. My birth books even suggested doing them in the hospital after birth. I didn't feel like I was actually doing them correctly in the first days after birth, but shortly after I could do them.
I hope your recovery is going well, Mari!