Questions for Co-sleeping mama's

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Registered: 12-04-2007
Questions for Co-sleeping mama's
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Fri, 11-04-2011 - 1:07pm

David is 10 months, and BFed and cosleeping. He sleeps terribly. With James we breastfed and coslept, and then around 8 months he night weaned himself, and started sleeping through the night in his own bed. I guess I kind of thought something similar would happen with David, but it seems like it will not. He nurses more at night time now than he did as a newborn.

Our nights typically go like this:

7 - I nurse him down to sleep

8- He wakes up, I go and nurse him again.

10- He wakes up again- more nursing

11:30- He wakes up, I give up on him sleeping alone and go to bed, nursing him again.

I don't look at the clock during the night, but basically if he is disturbed in the slightest he has to latch back on get to get to sleep. There are definitely nights where he's waking up an needing to latch on and nurse a little bit 5 or 6 or more times. (after I go to bed) Needless to say, I don't feel particularly rested in the morning. We have a crib sidecarred up to our bed where he sleeps for naps and before I come to bed. After I come in to bed if I try to put him in his crib he is awake within seconds. I try this atleast once every night, and it has never worked. I've kind of tried cry it out for his waking before I go to bed, I have not had any success with that, sometimes he will fall asleep after a few minutes of crying for nap/bedtime, but no amount of crying seems to lead to sleeping during his night waking. (by no amount I mean 20 mins or so which is the most i'm really comfortable with. hours of CIO is just not for me.)

So I guess my question is, is this normal co-sleeping behavior? Is it a phase related to teething/growth spurt/etc, that will pass at

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Registered: 12-04-2007
Fri, 11-11-2011 - 6:49pm
Thanks ladies for all of your comments. It's good to know we're normal I guess. Although, I would have loved some "my child did that till he was 14 months and then magically slept through the night" posts. :-)

Thanks a lot for the article Sara, I love that approach and it's probably what I'll use when I'm ready to night wean. We'll see how it goes, I don't really want to do it before we move to Germany, because I feel like then he's likely to just regress as soon as we get there. But... depending on what our apartment is like in Germany, I may or may not feel comfortable doing something like that once we're there. I also don't see me moving him out of our bed before he is sleeping through the night, because we only have a 2 bedroom apartment, and I don't want to have two kiddos up at all hours of the night. So much to think about...

Anyway, thanks for commiserating with me, since I posted this we've have some really good nights and some awful nights, I'm hoping once some teeth pop through the awful nights will be fewer and further between...
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Registered: 09-08-2007
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 1:56am

Grace, you might have seen on FB, but my 12 month old magically STTN!

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