Rant/Whine: DH's Don't Get It

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Rant/Whine: DH's Don't Get It
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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 10:17am

Okay, let me preface this by saying that BESIDES the fact that I am in unknown hormonal wasteland, and BESIDES the fact that james' two top teeth are about to come through, I do have some other personal things going on with me that is making this a really hard week for me.

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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 10:36am
Hugs, Adrienne! Men are pretty dumb sometimes!
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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 2:01pm

I'm sorry Afrienne.






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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 2:05pm

Thanks guys.

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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 2:07pm
Is there anyone who can come watch James for a few hours?? I think you just really need a break, even a little one. I'm so sorry that you are having a rough week, and that you are not getting the help and support you need- it just means that your trip is going to be extra excellent to make up for it:)
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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 3:20pm
HUGS! Men can be really clueless about stuff like that! I hope James' teeth pop through ASAP so you have a happy baby for your trip!
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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 7:42pm
Hugs Adrienne. I think spending a baby free day would be good for you as well as for your DH to see what it is like. I know that my DH has a whole different appreciation for taking care of Simon since he has been the main care giver with me working the way I was. He is the one that went nights taking care of him alone as well as getting him up for the day and ready for day care, picking him and and getting him ready for bed. My husband does so many more things then most men do and its because he hes been the Mr. Mom

 Cassie 

     

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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 10:22pm

I agree with what everyone else said.

My DH is great in taking care of David and even when he was smaller if I was overwhelmed and told me to get out of the house or whatever. Granted I do work so I have a sitter watch him a good part of the day, but until he was 6 months old we had a sitter come here.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 10:41pm
HUGS Adrienne! I feel for you! These men, they just DO NOT get it and they never will - just built differently than we are. :)

Can you find someone to watch James for you for a few hours once or twice a week? Or even try getting a mom's "helper" type person who can maybe come in and play with James in the house while you get something done/relax/sleep/read/whatever!? I've thought about doing this recently... and it would probably even be good for the baby, too!

Hope things get better tomorrow. And enjoy your Prius! We LOVE ours - best car ever, IMO :) What year and color did you guys get??

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Sat, 08-06-2011 - 10:46pm
"But you know I think I seriously will plan an entire day away from the baby, when I can . . . I do think it would be good for my DH. LOL"

TOTALLY, Adrienne! DH was responsible for Eliza for most of the day today since I was busy getting ready for my parents' party, so he got her up and dressed, took her to breakfast, occupied her all morning long, and then also after nap, got her ready to go to the party and brought her over - and it was probably only like 4/5 hours TOTAL, and he was like "I AM EXHAUSTED!" when he saw me at the party tonight - and I just laughed :) He did a great job and all and can TOTALLY do it alone, but yeah, he is always surprised how much energy and focus and constant attention it takes to "single" parent. So it would be a great thing for big James to do it ALL DAY sometime - and you'd get a day off as an added benefit!

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Sun, 08-07-2011 - 7:32am
((hugs)) Men really don't get it and they never will! I think planning a baby free day is exactly what you need. Before I was pg, I read babyproofing your marriage, which I really liked. It recommended a daddy training weekend so dhs can get a taste of what mommy goes through everyday. I never did a whole weekend, but I sure have done some long days for my own sanity, but also because I felt like dh needed some time with Grey where he had to take the initiave and not just me asking him to help. DH really enjoyed his "man time" with our son, I got a break and DH was back to stepping in without having to be asked. Training days are a beautiful thing!

-Suzie :)

 

 

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