Sleep Issues....

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Sleep Issues....
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Mon, 01-31-2011 - 7:34pm

Any help would be appreciated!!

Since December Maxim has had a few sleep issues.

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Thu, 02-03-2011 - 9:05am
Alyssa... LOVED the articles...

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Thu, 02-03-2011 - 8:57am
Ruby, I totally feel for you!! Fede is totally unpredictable in his sleep habits, but like mxim, if he is tired he is a little monster... All I can say is that you should be flexible, some kids work better with a predictable routine, mine never gave a damn about routine or not... we just play it by ear!

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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 10:25am
Ella,

Yeah he was a great sleeper so this is throwing us off...ugh I hope it gets better too. And I hope Eliza gets better for you too...someday, eventually...right?!! LOL!! I do think kids take after their parents on this at times, but other times I think its just temperament too. I know Maxim is like me...he needs his sleep or he is just an absolute bear. I've been that way since I was a baby, sleep or non-functional. My mom used to know too, at any age, even as a teenager...if I was freaking out about something, she would argue a little bit and then a light would go on and she would just say go to bed and come talk to me in the morning, lol. DH on the other hand is like his dad, can survive on a few hours and is a total night owl (and he was a night owl as a baby/little kid too).

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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 10:21am
Thanks Alyssa for the links!! I think he was a tension decreaser but now I'm not sure.

No Ash, he isnt crawling and he doesnt even seem to be interested in it during the day. I put him on his belly and he screams, he has never liked tummy time. At night he is often on his belly and after naps or in the morning he is almost always on his belly so Im sure the crank is turning in his sleep but during the day, he's perfectly content on his butt with some toys.

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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 10:15am
Wow - thanks for posting those links, Alyssa, those articles are really interesting! I totally guessed/knew this about Eliza but didn't know this was common, or that there was a word for it -- she fits the description of a tension increaser 100%.

Sorry to thread-jack! :)

Ruby - sleep is so hard, isn't it?? I feel for you and can totally commiserate - Eliza has never been a good sleeper and is still waking 2x/night at almost 15 months old. But, that's her personality, I think - she's never been a good sleeper. Now that I think of it, either is her dad, for that matter. So who knows, maybe it's genetic! But, it sounds like Maxim *was* a good sleeper, so you know he has it in him, he just has to get back to it. I hope it's just the 9 month sleep regression hitting and he goes back to sleeping well like Teddy did!!

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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 10:12am

Oh and is he crawling yet? Teddy had his worst sleep in the weeks right before he learned how to crawl.

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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 10:02am
Just a quick note about the crying thing (when to see if they'll calm down and when to go right to them), there are two great blog posts on Ask Moxie about this. She talks about Tension Increasers and Tension Decreasers. Basically, the first babies are those who get worse and worse if you let them cry, and the others actually use crying to decrease their tension and put themselves to sleep. Anyway, it might be a bit of help for that bit anyway. Here are the links if you're interested:

http://www.askmoxie.org/2011/01/tension-increasers.html
http://www.askmoxie.org/2011/01/tension-decreasers.html




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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 8:54am
I would go in right away at the 11pm wake up if you feel like he isn't calming down for that one. Pick him up, do whatever you need to do to get him calm and sleepy, and then lay him back down.

If Maxim throws his pacifier out (Teddy does the same) then he doesn't need it to sleep. If it isn't this hard 11pm wake up I would try and wait 10 minutes first before going in and see if he goes back to sleep alone. As they get older these interventions from us turn more and more into something they want and will wake themselves up for but you will know it because he will be bright eyed, awake and happy while you are there and then instantly start crying when you leave, in which case I would stop talking if you are talking to him while going in, would leave all lights off, and basically make it as boring as humanly possible when you go in to comfort him. Also try and go for shorter and shorter amounts of time- while still staying long enough to get him calm.

At 9 months Teddy also started waking up and playing in his bed for an hour or so and from what I found there is nothing you can do to combat that.
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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 8:44am
Yeah I think the cuddling til falling asleep with Grandma started it all and it has had worse consequences than I anticipated at the time. I tried putting him to bed the other night with a short routine and he screamed his head off, had big tears and it was like a baby panic attack.

Maxim does roll over but he doesnt do a very good job of rolling back...he often throws his soother out of the crib or it falls out and he isnt a thumb/finger sucker. Usually I wait a bit to see if he'll go back on his own and then go back in, roll him over and give him his paci. Normally this works very well. The only hard wake-up is the 11pm one...that is the one where he is inconsolable and does not self-soothe to get himself back. CIO doesnt seem to work either, he just gets more and more worked up.

Thanks Ash for the suggestions and for commiserating...I'm glad it reversed itself for you and Teddy, DH feels very hopeless. He keeps saying, isnt he supposed to sleep better, not worse?? Ugh...yes dear, but....

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