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Sun, 08-30-2009 - 7:46pm

So I think I'm totally nuts, and I just need to be reassured that I'm doing ok ;-)

James does not sleep through the night, one time he slept 7 hours, and he has not done it again. In a typical night he usually sleeps 5 hours, and then two two hour stretches waking up to eat for about 10-20 minutes in between each stretch of sleep. He goes right back to sleep after eating. This is not a problem for me, I get plenty of sleep, and if he needs to eat in the middle of the night, I don't mind at all.

However, like an idiot today I started reading all these books my cousin gave me, and of course now I'm starting to doubt myself. Every book said basically that by 3 months a baby should be sleeping from about 10pm-morning. So I'm wondering if something is wrong with James, or if I'm doing some disservice to him by not making him sttn.

He sleeps a normal total amt I think, around 12-14 hours a day, but he takes 4-5 naps a day. I don't know, I just am doubting myself I guess and need to be reassured that we're normal and ok...

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Registered: 12-04-2007
In reply to: graceelou02
Fri, 09-04-2009 - 10:36am
Thanks ladies, you really made me feel a ton better. I know that we were fine, we're both happy and healthy and getting plenty of sleep, I just let the books get the better of me I guess... Anyway, It's so comforting to have all you girls here to offer advice and encouragement. I love this board!
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Registered: 05-19-2008
In reply to: graceelou02
Tue, 09-01-2009 - 7:36pm

I was told to stop reading the books.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
In reply to: graceelou02
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 12:47pm

Completely and totally normal. Heck I don't even sleep through the night most nights. Desmond is has been sleeping through the night, regularly since about 18/20 months though he still has nights when he wakes at 4:30am and then nurses back to sleep till morning.

Eloise has been sleeping though the night since about 3 months, but I am expecting that to stop any day now. Actually last night she woke up at 12:30am and 3:30am and then again at 7:30am to nurse, so she may have had a bad night, or she may have hit the 6 month growth spurt. If it is the later I don't expect her to sleep straight through the night again until I night wean her around 14 months like Desmond.

I tend to ignore most books about sleep, since everyone's sleep pattern is different, and at 3 months old a baby is just so little, that I would never expect them to sleep through the night, I am thrilled if they do, but I never expect it. Heck I don't expect my 29 month old to sleep through the night every night, then again I don't expect me or DH to do it either, though most nights everyone in my house, but me does at the moment.











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Registered: 01-17-2007
In reply to: graceelou02
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 10:27am

James is sleeping great for his age! Don't worry and don't let any silly book tell you otherwise. As long as he seems happy, well-rested, and well-fed, you're good! I think Ry started STTN (well from 7 or 8 p.m. till 4 a.m. and then again till 6 a.m.) some time around 4 1/2 months.

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Registered: 03-19-2007
In reply to: graceelou02
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 8:45am

Here's what my library of books say:

Your Baby's First Year Week by Week: At 10 weeks, " baby may be sleeping through the night. If he isn't, don't despair. He soon will be" But then at 26 week it says "By this time, baby should be waking up less at night" (I'm not a huge fan of the accuracy of this book)

What to Expect: "Though some babies no longer need night feedings by the third month, most two- and three-month-old babies, particularly breastfed ones, still need to eat once or twice during the night.

The No-cry Sleep Solution: "to my surprise, sleep specialists - even the toughest cry-it-out advocates - agree that up to twelve months of age, some children truly are hungry after sleeping for about four hours...Experts also agree that to grow and thrive, a baby may not only want but also need one or two night feedings up to about nine months of age"

Your books are crazy :) You are doing a great job, and it sounds like James is doing great. Barrett sometimes sleep six hours then wakes every 2-3, sometimes wakes every 3 hours, and recently has been waking up every 1.5-2 hours! He's not waking up only when he's hungry so I am slowly working on fixing it while hoping he goes back to sleeping longer once he gets over his cold and perfects rolling over. And Barrett is just as happy on the days when he sleeps a six hour stretch as the ones when he wakes up every 1.5 hours. I'm not a sleep expert, but I feel like infants don't need continuous sleep the way adults do.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
In reply to: graceelou02
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 8:44am

Sorry I didn't reply back last night...I was actually asleep, my phone was online. :-)

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Registered: 04-13-2008
In reply to: graceelou02
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 8:39am
Grace - as PPs said, don't worry! I think at 3 months, roughly 50% of babies sleep through the night, and 75% at 6 months. So he's totally normal!
I always say, as long as baby seems happy and you're ok, there's no need to worry. I mean if he was completely grisly and irritable because he doesn't get enough sleep, or you were close to a melt down because you don't get enough sleep, then that's a reason to worry, but if all is fine with you then just ignore what the book says :-)
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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: graceelou02
Mon, 08-31-2009 - 1:15am

Oh, I hate it when books make blanket statements like that!! It should say that they 'Could' sleep that much, but many Don't!! If he's sleeping for one 5 hour stretch, then he's doing fantastically!! Especially if you ar egetting neough sleep that you don't feel horribly sleep deprived. If it helps you feel any better at all, my DS nursed every 2 hours around the clock until he was about 10 months old! Even with starting solids around 6 mths!

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In reply to: graceelou02
Sun, 08-30-2009 - 10:12pm
Grace, I don't have any BTDT experience yet, but I know that *I* didn't STTN consistently until I was nearly two years old. I think all babies are different, and you're doing just the right thing by giving James what he needs. I'm surprised that a book would say that by only 3 months most babies are STTN. That seems early to me... but that's just my hunch ;)

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Registered: 06-25-2006
In reply to: graceelou02
Sun, 08-30-2009 - 7:57pm
James is completely normal. Some kids just need to eat at night still even at that age. Gideon was still nursing once at night at a year (although at that point it was more out of comfort and habit) He finally started STTN consistently at 18 months, but he is not the norm. He sounds like he is getting enough sleep over all, don't let the books turn on the Mommy guilt.

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