Soother or no soother?

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Soother or no soother?
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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 2:33pm

I'd love to hear some feedback from BTDT moms and other preggo ladies on an issue: Soothers.


I've noticed/heard that a lot of parents are choosing not to use soothers these days. It seems that some people feel pretty strongly about it, and, so far, I'm a little perplexed by the reasoning - I haven't heard a strong argument against soother use.


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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 3:46pm

This is one of those things where I think I won't decide until the baby actually comes. I will buy a few and if it seems like Theo likes them then we will use them, if not then I will introduce them again a few months after the birth.


I will definitely have some on hand either way, as all of the women I know who breast feed also use pacifiers:) Plus it can help babies self soothe.



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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 3:58pm

We decided we'd let Eliza decide if she wanted a pacifier or not -- and so far, she's not a fan. I have nothing against them; I think as long as BFing is well established and going well, they can't hurt. And if your baby just wants to suck, then why not? I think as long as you know her cues and can recognize the difference between needing to nurse and needing to just suck, it's fine.

We've tried two different brands so far - Avent and Nuk - and she will *sometimes* take the Nuk from my parents if I'm not around (as it's her only option left!). Though, she would still much prefer a pinky finger even to the Nuk. We'll keep offering it to her, and if she takes it - great - if not, that's okay too! :)


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Registered: 12-04-2007
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 4:46pm
We use a pacifier. It think it has been really nice. We waited till James was 2 or 3 weeks to introduce it to make sure BFing was established. It's been really nice for times like in the car and nap time, it helps him to settle down and fall asleep. I know some people who's babies wouldn't take pacifiers and they found that pretty rough as the baby always had to nurse to go to sleep. So in general, I feel like if your baby like a pacifier, it can be pretty useful :-) They love to suck on stuff....
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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 5:02pm

We offered Ry some (REPEATEDLY during the colicky phase), but he never cared about them. Unless you held them in, he would just spit them out. He greatly preferred sucking on our fingers. DH's pinky was sore for the first 8 weeks of Ry's life, lol.

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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 5:33pm

I really don't care either way. We tried about 8 different brands of pacifiers with Desmond, because there were times when I could have used a break from the constant nursing. He would not take any of them. He has never used anything other then the breast for soothing/sucking.

With Eloise we offered her a pacifier a few times and she also never showed any interest in them at all. She is a finger sucker though, she sucks her first two fingers on her left hand. It keeps her happy and it doesn't bother me at all, in fact I appreciate it, because having her nurse as often as Desmond use to would be a bit tough when I have to run after Desmond as well.

Basically my thoughts are if they work for you, go for it, but just remember even if you think they are great, the baby may want nothing to do with them or have a different option they use for their sucking needs.




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Registered: 12-18-2007
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 5:38pm
I can't say I'm familiar with why people say not to use them.
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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 6:05pm

Ella - your comment about preferring a finger reminded me of back when Patrick was two months old and had sucked on almost every single one of my fingers until the spot below the nail was raw! That's part of why we encouraged limited pacifier use - to give me a break! Now we just use it if he's having trouble getting to sleep or if we're trying to get him to be quiet at church or a restaurant or something. In general, I'm personally not a fan of kids having them past a year except at bedtime. I feel like it discourages them from trying to engage in conversation.

Fwiw, we use the Soothie brand pacifier that's a single piece of rubber, and Patrick love gnawing on the side of it when he's teething, which is another reason we've kept them around.

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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 6:42pm
I dont think they are a problem and if the baby is good with it, then we're good with it.

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Registered: 12-04-2007
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 10:56pm

I agree Lorien, I've been trying to make it something that's only for in bed/in the car. In the car because I feel like he's lonely back there and I usually like him to sleep. It's not a big deal at all, but I always think it's a little strange when you see three year olds out in public with a pacifier. I'm not judging or anything, I just don't think I would let James do it...

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Registered: 09-29-2006
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 10:17am

FWIW, I did some searching around the Interwebs yesterday, and I felt these two articles did a decent job of outlining the pros and cons...


Mayo Clinic:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/pacifiers/PR00067

BabyCentre.ca:
http://www.babycenter.ca/baby/dailycare/dummies&pacifiers/


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