Thinking of sopping BF and pumping

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 10:38am
Ok here is the deal. I've noticed lately when I breastfeed my son he seems really distracted. He will feed for maybe 5 minutes and then he starts looking around everywhere and trying to move away. But when he takes a bottle no problem. I don't want to stop breastfeeding yet so I am thinking maybe I need to start just pumping. I think maybe that is part of the issue of why he's not sleeping through the night. He's still hungry because he's not eating enough simply because he's not interested anymore.
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David Nicholas 12/5/09
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 10:46am

Sandy it isn't that he is not interested, it is that he is distracted. I found that around 6 months with both of mine they tended to get very distracted when breastfeeding because there was so much new to see and do. It is a normal 6 month thing, when bottle feeding they can look around and explore more when eating them when breastfeeding. I found that if I took them into a dark room with no distractions both of mine ate a lot better and longer.

I actually found that Desmond got over the 6 month period of trying to see everything much faster then Eloise. With Eloise she really just wanted to nurse for 5 minutes every hour or so, which I was willing to do. I found that she ended up with her best and longest nursing a night when she went to bed, she would/will normally nurse for 20 to 30 minutes without getting to distracted because she was tired and ready to sleep. During the day though she is still wanting to see everything going on and will just nurse for 2 to 5 minutes and then want down to play again.












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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 11:19am
I've tried to feed him everywhere. Nothing seems to work. It just seems that if I give him a bottle over breastfeeding, he sleeps a lot longer both for naps and during the night. I may give it a shot and if it doesn't work or my supply starts going down then I will go back to breastfeeding in the morning and after I get off work.
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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 11:26am

Sandy- I had the same experience when James was that age, as did a friend of mine. I decided to tough it out and keep nursing (even though it meant some nursing at night when he was less distracted) My friend decided to pump and bottle feed.

By 8 or 9 months James was back to nursing in a a more normal fashion and had kind of "out grown" the distractedness. For my friend by 9 months they had switched almost completely to formula because she was never able to get as much milk pumping as feeding her daughter at the breast, by that point she was no longer able to get her daughter to take the breast at all.

This is obviously only one example, but in general my impression is that pumping is much harder and much less sustainable than nursing. If it's your only option, then of course it's a good one, but if there's any way you can try changing the environment when you nurse, giving David something to play with like a nursing necklace,etc., and keep him at the breast, in the long run, that will be a lot easier.

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 11:51am

I agree with PP, it's just his age! He is distracted from all the interesting things going on in this new world. Don't give up, he will eat when he is hungry! BFing is a constant learning experience but I have read about this in books and on the internet for years so it's definitely common at a certain age.


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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 12:11pm

Sandy,


Lillian has been a very distracted BF for a while now.

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 2:55pm

Sandy, I agree with everything the PP have said. In fact Fede is going through the same thing (I've posted a brief anecdote in the "Moms--Is this Baby your Last?" thread...)
What I've found that works best is:
- waiting until he shows signs of hunger and/or sleepiness
- nursing in a boring quiet room
- putting my hand around his face to limit his vision (kind of like the thing on horses' sides, sorry for the awful comparison)

If everything else fails, nurse him more often even if it is for those 5 minutes. It will help you keep a good supply, because the pump alone doesn't always manage to do that.

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Fri, 06-18-2010 - 8:31am

Lora- David has been on solids since 4 1/2 months per our pediatrician. He's been on baby food since 5 months.

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Sat, 06-19-2010 - 11:32am
Sandy, remember that as babies grow they become much more efficient at nursing. So what as newborns took them 40 min. now takes them 20 min. at most.
Fede is also a fast nurser now, he nurses for maybe 7 min each breast and then gets totally distracted. Unless he is REALLY hungry, then he can nurse for 15 min. each.
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Fri, 06-25-2010 - 2:10pm

Another thing to consider is that he is still night-nursing to get close cuddle time with his mommy since you work outside the home during the day. A lot of books talk about this. One suggestion that I've read about is to bring him into your bed first thing in the morning (early morning...like 5-6) for some extended cuddle time. Or take an evening rest together after work?

I'm reading Nursing Mother, Working Mother....great suggestions :) But one of their "rules" is that when you're with your baby, you should nurse and save bottles for other caregivers.

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