Various baby questions!

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Various baby questions!
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Fri, 03-12-2010 - 4:00pm

Would love feedback from the BTDTs on the following...


1) After nursing, once baby falls asleep, how long do you wait before putting them in their bed?


If I put Selin in her crib right away, she wakes up crying within 10 minutes but then falls asleep as soon as I pick her up. I've finally realized the longer I wait to put her back in her crib, the better but when it's the middle of the night and I want to get back to sleep, I don't feel like sitting up for 30 min. waiting for her to get in a deep sleep! I've tried rubbing her back and shushing her from afar but the only thing that seems to work is waiting at least 15 min. before setting her back in her crib.


2) Any tips for running errands with baby?


I am now afraid to go out to a public place alone with Selin because she either screams in the car or screams once we get to the store. I make sure to feed and change her before we leave the house but inevitably, she either gets hungry or soils her diaper by the time we reach our destination. DH and I went grocery shopping last weekend and she started screaming after we were in the store only a few minutes. I finally had to take her out of her car seat and hold her against my chest. She fell asleep right away. We promptly went to BRU after that and bought a Chicco carrier but I've only used it in the house so far. Sometimes she likes it and sometimes she doesn't. I feel like it's still too big for her, even though I've adjusted all of the straps, etc. We're not using paci's and haven't introduced a bottle yet (see #4) so I don't have any tricks to use when she starts screaming in public.


3) How to politely tell your MIL to stop hovering over you while nursing?


When we are at her house and I need to nurse, she lets me use her bedroom but she checks on me like every 5 minutes and if the baby gets really fussy, she comes running to the room asking what's wrong. I told DH I don't appreciate her hovering over me and that I prefer privacy when nursing.


4) If you pumped so your DH could do some feedings, when did you introduce the bottle?


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Thu, 03-25-2010 - 3:16pm

Hi ladies! Sorry it's taken me awhile to respond! Selin is finally taking a decent nap today so I can get caught up on iV.


Grace - Thanks for the swing suggestion. We still haven't bought one yet because we're trying to cut back on expenses with DH still on halfpay and my mat. leave benefits finished. I've been searching Freecycle and asking friends if they have one we can borrow but no luck yet. I might also check CL.


Ashley - Great to hear from you! Selin has actually gotten much better at falling asleep at nighttime. I've been putting her in those fleecy gown things and that keeps her nice and warm. I also side nurse her in the middle of the night and move her back to her bed once she's out. Last night I gave her a bath right before bed and she slept for a little over 5 hours - heavenly!


Heather - Thanks for the bottle advice! Duh, I didn't realize that I would still have to pump for the feeding DH is giving her the bottle! We haven't introduced a bottle yet but I have been trying to pump when I can (which isn't often) just to start up a supply.


As for the MIL situation, I talked to DH about it again and when we were there last, he came with me into the bedroom to get me settled so she wouldn't come in. He said he would talk to her about it but I don't think he did that day. We just found out that DH's sister is expecting in Nov. so I'm so looking forward to my MIL getting off my back and hounding my SIL instead! LOL


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Thu, 03-18-2010 - 11:36am

Christine, obviously, I'm not a BTDT...but I was just going to share with you what I've read and learned from the Pregtastic podcast about the pumping/bottle business.

The expert they had on the show said introduce a bottle between 3-5 weeks...so really whenever you're ready. But I don't know that I would do it in the middle of the night because then you're sleeping through a feeding, which could hurt your supply, right? So maybe let it be the first one in the afternoon that DH is home for. And you could use that time to pump???

As for your MIL question...I'm super anxious about that too...I've seen how mine was with her step-daughter, and I don't know how I feel about that...

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Wed, 03-17-2010 - 5:41pm

Even though I am only a day ahead of you, we are going through the same things :)


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Wed, 03-17-2010 - 5:22pm
Definitely get a swing Christine! James loved his swing at Selin's age and would take lots of little naps in it which was really nice for me getting things done. I love babywearing, but it gets tiring trying to hold baby all day long. We got the Boppy "rock in comfort) swing and I loved it!
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Wed, 03-17-2010 - 4:44pm

Glad to know I'm not alone, Ella! My only concern about no head support is that her little head bobs all over the place or she slumps to one side so I feel like I should have something to support her, no?


Another question for you ladies...how consistently should newborns nap? Selin napped great for the first 2 weeks (anywhere from 2-4 hours) but this week, she has been having a hard time taking good naps. It seems to be hit or miss - yesterday she slept for a good 2 hours but today she fought it all morning and part of the afternoon. I cherish those naptimes because it's the only way I can get stuff done! I have tried the carrier in the house - sometimes she likes it, sometimes she doesn't - but sometimes I just need a physical break from holding her all the time. I told DH we should get a swing, the one baby item we don't have, so I don't have to manually rock her to sleep all the time.


Thanks!


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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 8:00pm

Christine - Eliza is also a sweat MACHINE, thanks to her daddy (they both sweat a ton when they sleep - I'm the only dry one in the house when we wake up in the morning - yech!! :), so we have the same issue with her sweating in her car seat. In addition, she HATES the car seat and screams bloody murder when she's in it, so that makes her work up a sweat too... ANYway, we also took the snuzzler out of her car seat and now we don't use anything in it, which does help her stay a bit cooler, I think. I also don't put a hat on her when we're in the car and I keep the canopy down and don't put a blanket over her or over the car seat so she gets plenty of air flow around her.

HTH!

If anyone else has any other tricks, I'm all ears, too!!


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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 6:16pm

Thanks everyone for all the great advice!!


I've started waiting a bit before putting her in bed now. I also started playing music for her, either from our laptop or from the FP aquarium thing that's attached to her crib and that seems to help her fall and stay asleep faster.


DH and I went to Costco over the weekend and I brought our Chicco carrier with and it worked like a charm! She was awake for maybe 10 min. and then slept the rest of the time we were in the store. I also ventured out to a few stores today and it worked great again, thank God! I don't know what I'd do if she didn't like the carrier or the car seat!


Now our new challenge is keeping her cool in her car seat. I think I figured out why she screams as soon we we put the seat in the car - her back and back of her head get incredibly sweaty for some reason. We don't over-dress her or put many blankets on her so the only thing I could think that was making her sweaty was her head support thing. I took that out today and just tried a rolled up blanket but she still sweat. I told DH she gets it from him because he sweats at the drop of a hat! So we'll have to return our head support thing to BRU and find something else that doesn't make her sweat as much. If anyone has any tips on that one, I'm all ears!


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Sat, 03-13-2010 - 12:57am

1. This seems like a lifetime ago now, but I remember staying up with Elena in the very early weeks for like an hour at a time during the night feedings. She'd have her bottle, then she'd be awake for a bit, then she'd finally fall asleep in my arms, and I'd wait what seemed like an eternity before putting her back in her crib. She was a very restless, noisy sleeper when she was a newborn - she used to stretch a lot and make all sorts of funny little sounds in her sleep, so it was hard to know when she was really out. After a few weeks, I got really sick of this and just started putting her right back to bed after she finished her bottle, even if she was totally awake. Lo and behold she learned to go to sleep on her own! Apparently they can start learning a bedtime routine and good sleep habits by 6 weeks, so I say it's never too early to start!


As for the rest of your questions, you already got some great answers so I won't bother repeating them. And I never nursed since Elena just never got the hang of BFing so she was getting a bottle from her 3rd day of life!

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Fri, 03-12-2010 - 11:38pm

1) After nursing, once baby falls asleep, how long do you wait before putting them in their bed?


The first two weeks Simon was around he spent most of his nights sleeping in someones arms (mostly my mother) or DH and I would lay with him on the couch. We would rock him to sleep and then put him in bed and is he was just fussing let him fuss it out and go to sleep. He does really good at night when feeding we feed and he goes right back so I'm not real helpful on that. If she is just fussing and not flat out yelling/crying you might let her CIO a little.. like 10-15 minutes and see if she goes back to sleep. Thats what we did the first night my mom was gone and it took 7 minutes.


2) Any tips for running errands with baby?


I am going to second and third the other ladies. Try a carrier. We have a chest one that we got when Simon was 3 or 4 weeks old. He pretty much crashes as soon as I put him in it. I don't always use it cause he does great in his carseat but I would definatly invest in a carrier, as long as he is full and clean Simon is happy as a clam in there.


3) How to politely tell your MIL to stop hovering over you while nursing?


Just put it to her nicely that you like the time alone. That your not comfortable with others around so you need your privacy.


4) If you pumped so your DH could do some feedings, when did you introduce the bottle?


Not much help on this cause we started a bottle early on because I had to suppliment. I think they say to try and wait 4-6 weeks to pump. I know in the BF class they said when you do give a bottle let your DH or someone else do it so she doesn't have as hard of a time with it cause she can smell the milk on you so she may not take it. It is whatever you are comfortable with. It was really hard on me to give Simon that first bottle even though he really needed it because I wasn't producing because they treat it like if you do it will ruin your nursing relationship. Simon never had any confusion and nursed great, I was just a poor milk cow.

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