Various baby questions!

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Various baby questions!
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Fri, 03-12-2010 - 4:00pm

Would love feedback from the BTDTs on the following...


1) After nursing, once baby falls asleep, how long do you wait before putting them in their bed?


If I put Selin in her crib right away, she wakes up crying within 10 minutes but then falls asleep as soon as I pick her up. I've finally realized the longer I wait to put her back in her crib, the better but when it's the middle of the night and I want to get back to sleep, I don't feel like sitting up for 30 min. waiting for her to get in a deep sleep! I've tried rubbing her back and shushing her from afar but the only thing that seems to work is waiting at least 15 min. before setting her back in her crib.


2) Any tips for running errands with baby?


I am now afraid to go out to a public place alone with Selin because she either screams in the car or screams once we get to the store. I make sure to feed and change her before we leave the house but inevitably, she either gets hungry or soils her diaper by the time we reach our destination. DH and I went grocery shopping last weekend and she started screaming after we were in the store only a few minutes. I finally had to take her out of her car seat and hold her against my chest. She fell asleep right away. We promptly went to BRU after that and bought a Chicco carrier but I've only used it in the house so far. Sometimes she likes it and sometimes she doesn't. I feel like it's still too big for her, even though I've adjusted all of the straps, etc. We're not using paci's and haven't introduced a bottle yet (see #4) so I don't have any tricks to use when she starts screaming in public.


3) How to politely tell your MIL to stop hovering over you while nursing?


When we are at her house and I need to nurse, she lets me use her bedroom but she checks on me like every 5 minutes and if the baby gets really fussy, she comes running to the room asking what's wrong. I told DH I don't appreciate her hovering over me and that I prefer privacy when nursing.


4) If you pumped so your DH could do some feedings, when did you introduce the bottle?


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Registered: 10-09-2006
Wed, 03-17-2010 - 5:41pm

Even though I am only a day ahead of you, we are going through the same things :)


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Registered: 01-30-2008
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 11:36am

Christine, obviously, I'm not a BTDT...but I was just going to share with you what I've read and learned from the Pregtastic podcast about the pumping/bottle business.

The expert they had on the show said introduce a bottle between 3-5 weeks...so really whenever you're ready. But I don't know that I would do it in the middle of the night because then you're sleeping through a feeding, which could hurt your supply, right? So maybe let it be the first one in the afternoon that DH is home for. And you could use that time to pump???

As for your MIL question...I'm super anxious about that too...I've seen how mine was with her step-daughter, and I don't know how I feel about that...

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Thu, 03-25-2010 - 3:16pm

Hi ladies! Sorry it's taken me awhile to respond! Selin is finally taking a decent nap today so I can get caught up on iV.


Grace - Thanks for the swing suggestion. We still haven't bought one yet because we're trying to cut back on expenses with DH still on halfpay and my mat. leave benefits finished. I've been searching Freecycle and asking friends if they have one we can borrow but no luck yet. I might also check CL.


Ashley - Great to hear from you! Selin has actually gotten much better at falling asleep at nighttime. I've been putting her in those fleecy gown things and that keeps her nice and warm. I also side nurse her in the middle of the night and move her back to her bed once she's out. Last night I gave her a bath right before bed and she slept for a little over 5 hours - heavenly!


Heather - Thanks for the bottle advice! Duh, I didn't realize that I would still have to pump for the feeding DH is giving her the bottle! We haven't introduced a bottle yet but I have been trying to pump when I can (which isn't often) just to start up a supply.


As for the MIL situation, I talked to DH about it again and when we were there last, he came with me into the bedroom to get me settled so she wouldn't come in. He said he would talk to her about it but I don't think he did that day. We just found out that DH's sister is expecting in Nov. so I'm so looking forward to my MIL getting off my back and hounding my SIL instead! LOL


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