Weekend naps, or lack thereof!

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Weekend naps, or lack thereof!
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Sat, 01-21-2012 - 2:57pm
For the past few months, Selin has been fighting her naps at home on the weekend. She naps beautifully at the sitter every day, for a good 1.5-2 hours, but no matter what I try at home, it's a struggle.

She will usually fall asleep while I'm nursing/rocking her, same routine we do at bedtime, but as soon as I put her in her crib, or sometimes 30 min or less later, she wakes up screaming.

I've tried putting her down at the exact same time as her naptime at the sitter, a little earlier, and a little later. I've tried making her room darker. I've tried tiring her out in the morning. Nothing seems to work.

My DH is working on the weekends as well lately so I'm often home alone with her for a good portion of the day. When she doesn't nap that means I don't get a break until my DH gets home, which sometimes isn't until late afternoon and by then I'm exhausted!

She has also pretty much stopped napping at my parents house but that one I'm not as concerned about.

Anyone else experienced this? Another mom I know with a DD just two months older than Selin said her daughter only naps about 5 days of the week so I'm wondering if this is just a normal progression? But then why would she continue to nap so well at the sitter? Help!

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Sat, 01-21-2012 - 3:50pm
Yep. We have been there too. I think it is just the age. I get him in his bed, read him a story and he gets out or wants to play w his toys in his room. Also he sleeps in on weekends so if I make him get up around 730 he will nap unlike if I let him sleep until 8.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
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Sat, 01-21-2012 - 9:58pm
Christine - Eliza started doing this, though she started doing it daily, not just on the weekends so maybe this is different. But the nursing/rocking/putting her down in her crib and then waking (then or 30 mins later) is VERY familiar. That's when I started putting her to sleep (for naps) in our bed, actually, and that seemed to work. She pretty much stopped napping in her crib for about the last 6 weeks before we got her big girl bed. Now she naps there instead of in our bed.

Some days she still refuses to nap - or, like today, only naps for like 40 minutes - and then goes to bed on the earlier side... so maybe she's transitioning out of a nap and not needing one every day anymore? I don't know.

But I totally feel you with not getting a break until DH gets home - DH was gone all day today (still is) and by the time bedtime rolled around I was so done!! And I sort of suck at doing bedtime by myself - I actually forgot to brush her teeth tonight! Haha, what an awesome mom, lol ;)

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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 8:11am
Christine, Fede goes through something similar on the weekends. He's alone with me during weekdays, and he naps with no problems, but as soon as the weekend gets here, everything turns so difficult!! Personally, I don't think it's a problem of "not needing the nap anymore". We come from a culture where everyone naps regularly, even adults (perhaps your DH's culture is the same?). So even if your body doesn't "need" it, you can nap happily just the same!! I think it's more a problem of the kid sensing that something is different, and that makes them too excited. In our case, it's the fact that DH is at home, he just wants to play with him and not sleep. In your case it could be that she is with you and not the sitter, and so she wants to seize the opportunity of being with mommy... What helps a little with Fede is to tell him that we are also tired and pretend we are also going to sleep. Usually when he sees we are no longer "available" he goes to sleep in a matter of minutes. (to be honest. most of the times we DO go to sleep too!!!)

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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 1:19pm
Christine, we haven't experienced the exact same thing, but I wonder if you might just insist upon a "quiet time" on the days when she really struggles to nap. Maybe snuggle together on your bed with some stuffed animals or books? You wouldn't exactly get a break, but you would have a bit of down time. Just a thought.
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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 3:34pm
Thanks everyone for the nap advice - very helpful! It never even occurred to me that on the days she sleeps in (ie weekends) she probably won't nap. Duh! This explains why she hardly napped when I was home over Christmas break!

Today I woke her at 7am (sometimes she'll sleep till 7:30 or 8am) but she still fought naptime. I tried bringing her in our bed but she was just goofing around and kept getting out of the bed. After about 20 min of this and me "pretending" to be asleep, I finally took her back to her crib. She cried at first but now it's quiet in there so I don't know if she's really sleeping or just laying there.

Erica - I would be totally fine with her just having quiet time but as I mentioned above, she won't lay with me in the bed. She gets her antsiness from my DH. ;-)

Ella - How is Eliza doing with naps at the co-op?

I am grateful Selin naps so well at the sitter at least and now I know why because I have to wake her around 6am during the week. It would be really bad if she just stopped napping altogether. :-/

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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 4:39pm
Christine....david would not go down for 1.5 hrs today. He keps saying no. he finally fell asleep in my arms after I made him get in his room and he was upset crying after I told him he had to go in his room even if he did not sleep. I will have to try the sleeping thing for me and dh. The thing w david is he will sleep if one of us is home it is just when we both are he wont. And potty training goes to hell if he hasnt napped.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 6:13pm
Yeah, you're right about it being bad if she stopped napping altogether! I'm sooo not ready for Eliza to be done napping yet.

Eliza still won't nap at either my parents' house or at the co-op daycare she goes to once a week. It sort of sucks. :/ Baby #2 will be a GREAT sleeper, right?? RIGHT??? ;)

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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 7:27pm
My mom said I was a great sleeper. Slept at 6 wks through the night(8hrs plus) and never got up after that. My brother was like david so hoping #2 is more like I was. And I was colicky and so was david so hoping #2 wont be.

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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 11:46pm
I am no help as Simon is a great napper. He may take shorter naps once in a while and randomly we will not take a nap at all but that is few and far between.

I hope that you figure something out that works for you guys.

 Cassie 

     

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Mon, 01-23-2012 - 10:00pm
Ella,

I certainly hope so, for your sake! ;-)

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