Kelly - I really want to give you a big (((HUG))). What an awful thing for your DH to say!!! I hope you feel a bit better now though I agree it will take a while for you to "forget" that, even though he apologised. DH and I often have rows too but lately we're talking A LOT more about what's going on underneath. And I do tell him how much it hurts when he says certain things. My DH has quite a temper on him so he says a lot of things he doesn't mean when he's in a rage. That doesn't make it any better for me though! Are you able to talk things out with DH every now and again?About the nappy rash, it does tend to come along with teething, so hopefully once that tooth is through it should ease off. In my personal experience girls seem to suffer more with it than boys?! You're doing all the right things so I couldn't give you any more advice!I do think it's the right time for your mum to visit though - it seems you could do with someone to help you out a bit at the moment! I'm sure she'll be thrilled to see Elena, no matter the state of her bottom ;-)
Ash - I hope the BFing will work out for you. No one ever tells you it can be so complicated! If it helps, Teddy was bottlefed exclusively(expressed BM)for the first 4 weeks of his life, when I slowly started BFing again. It took an awful long time for the two of us to get the hang of it, but it's so worth it when you do. So don't despair if you have to supplement or pump at the moment, it might all work out at the end! And how great is it that Theo has already gained some weight back! Did he lose much then in the first few days?
AFM - thanks for all your well wishes. Teddy has always been difficult with food and most of the time just rejected anything. He does not have any allergies as when I do manage to get something into him, he doesn't have any problems with it. He just doesn't want food. He used to take some pureed/ super smooth foods, but for example he never opens his mouth for the spoon (and has never done so). All I can do is get the spoon through his more or less shut lips and he tolerates it (or sometimes he doesn't and clenches his mouth shut). He will jerk his head round to avoid being fed or bats at me with his hands. Finger foods work sometimes, but most of the time he just isn't interested. Oh well! I hope we'll find out soon what's up with him. I still haven't gotten an appointment though :-(
Thanks for all the sweet words ladies- they mean so much!!!!
Sorry I am only talking about myself though- as soon as things settle down I will start responding to you all- I promise!
Last night went so much better. He fed about every hour from 6pm to 10:30pm and was awake in between which was fun for dh and I- he is so cross eyed sometimes and we were making lots of jokes about it- especially since his ears also stick out LOL.
Then we went to sleep and he woke about every 2 hours to feed. I do 10 minutes in a cradle hold and then just lie on my side and latch him on. The latch isn't as good as with the cradle hold but he still gets milk and falls asleep- I would go crazy if I didn't have that! We slept until about 7:30am that way, with me waking up when he was hungry but otherwise sleeping except for a diaper change at 3:30, then DH changed his diaper before he left and after feeding again the little guy took a nap from 8- 10 am!
I think we are really going in the right direction. 90 grams is 3 ounces so my milk production seems to be fine now as babies only need to gain about an ounce a day 4-5 ounces a week- although Theodor has to gain a bit less then a pound to get back to birth weight. Plus he is having enough dirty and wet diapers as well. I am glad I am sticking with it- the feeding for hours on end was really really awful but it worked!
Plus I am feeling so much more positive after a bit of sleep.
Now I just need to find a baby carrier that I like- he doesn't like my babyhawk (although I think he will when he is bigger) and I don't like how crouched his head is in the maya wrap. Any suggestions?
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Ash - Moby Wrap! It's seriously the awesomest thing with a newborn. I loved wearing Patrick in it sooo much. And if you get one, go find the youtube videos about how to wear it, the way the instructions tell you doesn't work very well.
Glad to hear last night went better!
Yay Ash glad everything is working better. It sounds like last night went well! Hopefully he'll keep it up and start sleeping a bit longer at night.
As for baby carriers, are his legs froggied in the Babyhawk? If not it might help. I really liked my Eden Velveteen Mei Tai, rather then my Babyhawk for Eloise as a newborn, we also had a pouch which was nice tummy to tummy. I know that in Germany there are a ton of great wraps available too, though I have yet to get into wrapping, I keep looking at it, and going back to my Mei Tais and soft structured carriers. I did like my Beco Butterfly with Eloise as a newborn too, but I think she was closer to 2 weeks before I started putting her in it.
Anna- Hopefully Teddy will start eating soon. It maybe a texture problem, some sort of sensory issue. I hope that it is figured out quickly and he starts eating soon. Eloise likes food but she is still nursing for about 75% of her calories, and I am so glad of that, it is nice to be able to feed her something instead of always nursing. Hoping Teddy gets to that point too!
Kelly- What an awful thing for DH to say!
Amy- Congrats on your wedding.
As for us. Desmond just turned 3 on Monday! He had a good birthday, DH stayed home because I wasn't feeling great, which was nice. He absolutely loves his big present, which is a trampoline. We should have gotten one ages ago. It stops him from bouncing on the sofa, which is so nice and lets him expend energy so well. He is talking a ton and his speech is getting a lot clearer, which is nice. I am still a bit worried about his speech though so I will likely bring it up at the doctor's office when we go for his 3 year check up on the 19th. Here is a video of him jumping and counting to 15 )http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AwPlzc_g25w )
Eloise is doing great as well. She tends to wake up around 11pm and want to play for an hour or so, which I am hoping will end soon, since that is right around when DH and I are heading to bed. DH is good about taking her back down till she falls asleep though. It would be nice if she slept though so DH could get more sleep.
She is walking about 80% of the time now which is nice. I consider her a walker now. Of course the big problem with that is she has a tiny foot, and it is really hard finding good shoes so that she can walk outside in size 3, since apparently no shoe maker thinks that someone in a size 3 shoe will be walking! Here she is walking at the playground (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TH5SDAMab8I ). There are a couple of other videos of the two of them on my blog. Including Eloise hanging on the monkey bars for 13 or so seconds without support, she is a strong little girl!
Nothing else that interesting is going on. I am in the middle of new baby fever, but I am hoping I can hold out on TTCing till next summer, because I really want to lose some weight and it financially works out better if we wait another year. Plus I'm not sure I want 3 under 4. The first few months with a 2 year old and a newborn were tough, they are great now, but I really do think I want a slightly longer spacing. Oh and if we had a third we'd need a new car. That being said, baby! Cute little snuggly newborn, I want one, my two are no longer babies, they are a toddler and preschooler, I miss having a newborn!
Anna - The first 6 months were really hard. At 23 months Desmond was still a baby. He was not really ready for a second baby in the house. He wasn't big enough to play on his own when Mommy dealt with the baby, he didn't really understand why this new person was in his house and he had a ton of needs, since he was still so little. It worked, but it would have worked better if he had been just a little older, so that he would actually listen to directions, and what Mommy said. At 2, he could follow directions if he wanted to, but he wasn't really at the stage to be interested in listening unless he felt like it.
At 2 1/2 he was much better, he was listening, and following directions better, he knew how to wait better, and he could understand me telling him that he had to wait a minute or two to help him because I was busy with Eloise. He really wasn't at that point at 23 months.
Seriously I look at Eloise at the moment and think, at this stage I was getting ready to TTC number 2 and I thought Desmond was so big, and I can't believe it. I think it is probably because I have Desmond to remind me what a bigger child/toddler is like and it throws into contrast how little Eloise really is. I think with the first since you have no comparison it is hard to realize how much of a baby they still are at 1. With Desmond here it makes it a lot easier to realize how little and young Eloise is even if she is already 1.
That being said, I do love their spacing now, but those first 6 months were really hard because Desmond was so young. I know a lot of people don't have trouble, but I found it really hard. I was tandem nursing as well, so that possibly added some to it, but I couldn't see taking away Desmond's main mean of comfort because I was pregnant or just had a new baby. In fact I was worried about weaning him right after Eloise was born, even though there were days I really wanted too because then he would see that there is a new baby who gets to nurse and I can't anymore, and I was afraid it would build resentment.
I am really happy about our decision to wait another year for a slightly better spacing, for us, though I will admit there are a lot of times recently when I think, the spacing worked once, it should work again! Then I think back to how hard it was having 2 babies, and he really was a baby even at almost 2, was and think how nice it will be to have my third when Eloise is just a bit older.