LOL I think it is so funny how many people have seperate covers--I can see how it would work well but it wouldn't work for us.
Ella--Separate covers is the way to go! It's not unusual for us to each have two covers, so four quilts/blankets in the bed.
Adrienne--I'm the one that has to be wrapped in blankets at night. DH is good about letting me snuggle up to him under his blanket too. He'll throw is across both of us once I get sufficiently wrapped up. Or I snake my cold feet out from under my blankets and up under his. :)
Ah! I am so behind so I'm not going to get to everyone but...
first of all, I have to say the separate covers thing is brilliant! I have occasionally gotten my own blanket (in addition to the comforter that DH & share) but I never thought to just have my own covers :)
Ash - So sorry to hear about the lack of sleep, but I'm so glad to hear Teddy is gaining and doing well!
Adrienne- Best siggy ever!
Grace - Yay for James walking!
Kim - Congrats!
Everyone else - I love hearing about your babies & toddlers!!! They are all so adorable - WTTGs make the cutest and sweetest babies :)AFM... (Yeah, sorry about missing everyone, by the time I finish reading I'm usually out of time to post). Barrett has slowed down on the gross motor skills - he's still pulling up all over the place and really good at crawling (including up the stairs) but isn't trying to walk at all. I think he's a bit scared and is so good at crawling that he sees no need to walk. He also never quite figured out how to get into a sit from crawling; instead he just kneels back on his heels. He's 'talking' a lot but only has a few things that sound like words. He also points whenever he wants anything (he points to the front door a lot because he loves going outside). He has sort of figured out his sippy cup but the only one he seems to like is NOT no-spill, so he also figured he could tip the cup and water would pour out - then he gets mad when mommy won't let him do that :)
Ok, I'm going to attempt personals. Sorry to anyone I missed!
Grace - James is so adorable! He must be keeping you on your toes!
Amy - Welcome and congratulations on your recent wedding! Love your DS' name - it's my mom's maiden name. :-)
Ash - Big hugs to you!!! Hang in there - it does get easier!!
Kelly - I think it's great timing for your mom to come as it sounds like you could use a break! Hopefully she'll be a big help while she's visiting. Sorry about the fight with your DH. My DH does that sometimes too but he's getting much better at apologizing shortly afterwards. I tend to hold on to fights much longer than DH and I hate it but I've always been that way. :-/
Liz - DH and I don't use sheets either. I had never done that before I met him but I guess it's a Turkish thing as everyone in his family only uses comforters too. I'm so used to it by now that I don't even think about it, although my mom still thinks it's weird. LOL
AFM - If you didn't read my separate post re: pumping ?'s, Selin slept from 9pm till 5am last night!! I couldn't believe it!! We are so lucky. :-)
I took Selin down to my workplace yesterday and aside from the car ride, she did great. For some reason, this week she started screaming whenever we're in the car for more than 10 minutes, which is making mommy dreading taking her in the car anymore but obviously that's not feasible. I always make sure she is fed and changed before we leave the house but the crying seems to be worse when she's on the verge of taking a nap.
My work is a good 45-60 min. drive - she screamed non-stop for the first 30 min. (am I a horrible mom to let her go that long??) then I finally pulled off at an exit and fed her to calm her down. She fell asleep and as soon as I put her back in the car seat, the screaming resumed. I had to just let her cry because if I kept pulling over, we were never going to make it there! Also, I was driving on an expy so I couldn't just pull over on the shoulder (for safety reasons) and had to get off at an actual exit. Once we got to work and I put her in the carrier, she thankfully fell asleep and slept for a few hours. She woke up to eat and get changed and then fell back to sleep. She cried (sorry, screamed) most of the way home as well so I was at my wits end by the time we finally reached home. She also sweats like crazy when she screams like that so I had to change her outfit twice.
Ella - I know you've been going through a similar situation with Eliza. Selin was doing better after we stopped putting a blanket on her in the car so I'm hoping this was just a weird 1-week phase. Any suggestions?? DH and I were planning to drive to see my dad (13+ hours) in Canada but if she's going to continue to scream like this, it just won't be possible. DH can't stand it when she cries for more than 5 min. so I know he'd never be able to tolerate her screaming for a longer duration. I'm hesitant to pull over every time she cries for an extended period of time because although it kills me to hear her like that, I'm afraid she'll get used to me consoling her every time she cries in the car and then it would take us forever to get anywhere! HELP!!
Brita - I thought Eloise was never going to walk and she just started recently deciding it is actually easier then crawling. She also points to whatever she wants. Have you tried straw cups instead of sippy cups? Both of mine preferred them, easier to use I guess and less tipping so less mess.
Christine - I would pump at night if you wake up and you need the milk for when you go back to work. Otherwise, I would just pump so you aren't so full and not worry about it. Eloise and Desmond both slept through the night for a few months and I had no problem still having milk for them when they started waking up 2 times a night again around 6 months.
As for the car seat, what kind of seat is she in? We found that Eloise hated the infant seat, and screamed while in it. The worst was her first Easter when she screamed the entire 2 hour car ride home from my Aunt's house. She got a lot better when we put her in an convertible car seat, and even better when we put it in a more upright position, but at 6 weeks Selin is probably a little young for that piece yet.
As for me: My sister is pregnant, due in mid-December I believe, she isn't sure when she is due yet but she is between 4 and 5 weeks pregnant. My kids are finally getting a cousin, well they sort of have a cousin now, but that connection is more convoluted. It is just neat that my sister is pregnant and having a baby! Of course now I am going to be hit with major baby fever! It will be nice though that they have a cousin that is at least semi close in age. I was afraid that my sister won't start till my other sister decided to have kids, and since she isn't even engaged yet that might be a few years *grin*. It is going to be so neat to have a new niece or nephew.
As for the small ones, there is not really anything new to report, though Eloise can now pop open the gate, which makes things interesting sometime. She is good at climbing up and down stairs, but she is still only 13 months, so it makes me nervous and all when she escapes.
Oooh no! Christine, I'm so sorry Selin has started screaming in her car seat again; it is so hard for mama. I soooooo feel your pain - I'm on month 5 of it and it is stressful.
Okay. So my first and best advice is to TRY not to feel guilty about letting her cry in the car - you are not a bad mother and she IS fine. DH and I are not CIO people, but in the car seat we just can't comfort her every time she cries and so we hoped that she would recognize this and knows that the only place her cries go unanswered are in the car, and that it's a different situation than at home. I had a lot of anxiety about this at first, but I just tell myself over and over again that we don't have any other choice, she needs to be in her car seat for her own safety, and we can't stay home all the time! There have been a few times that I've pulled over, when she is really really upset (choking/couching/gasping for air... or in other words being TOTALLY DRAMATIC! ;) and nursed her to calm her down. But yeah, as soon as her butt hits that car seat again she starts screaming.
Next, know that it will get better - but it might not get better as fast as you'd like. At least that's how it happened with us - we thought for sure she would "grow out of it" by 2 months...3 months...4 months... you get the picture! Yeah, she hasn't grown out of it yet. BUT, she has gotten gradually better over the last two months or so and now she tolerates it - most of the time.
We took out the snuzzlers/car seat accessories/blankets etc, like you did, which did help. Then, when she started to be able to notice her outside world and toys and things, she would be occupied by the toys hanging from her car seat handle and the mirror we have hanging in the back seat. That would help her stay calm for at least 10-15 minutes. Now, she can see out the window and so we always keep the car seat canopy down so she has a good view. This also keeps her occupied for some time. The other thing that works for us is to plan trips in the car around her nap schedule - so we make sure to try to put her in her car seat right when she's just had a nap so she's well rested and happy. Then she will tolerate the car seat MUCH better. Eliza is one who just WILL NOT fall asleep in the car seat, so if we put her in it when she's tired (and thus, cranky), we know we're in for a screamfest on the way home. She won't fall asleep - even though she is tired - she'll just SCREAM.
:( It's so hard, I'm so sorry!
I don't know if I've given you any actual advice here... it's just so different for every baby. For us, the timing thing is what has worked best lately. And, if she starts crying, I just talk to her and tell her that "mama is right here", or I'll sing to her or turn up the classical music station - that sometimes helps. Also, we don't tend to drive anywhere that is further than about 30 minutes away... so we haven't had experience with long car trips (though I can't imagine that even now... I don't think she'd handle it well). I had to just try to stop letting it bother me because I realized that the most important thing is that we get where we're going safely - so I had to stop freaking out (and speeding) and tell myself to focus on the road. It's hard, though :(
Hang in there!!!
Holy moly... I wrote a novel about the car seat... OOPS! :)
Ash - thanks for the photos! It was very interesting to see what you do in Germany!
Ack, thought I had a while for personals as Eliza just went down but now she's up... sry!
OMG--- this thread is out of control. I haven't been able to check it for a week and already 60 posts.
To every one that just joined the thread- WELCOME and CONGRATULATIONS!! It's great to have so many new faces (but more work for me to keep up with). No personals, but I will try to comment on some of the bigger conversations.
I have to comment on the separate covers thing. DH and I have never shared covers. We are both total blanket hogs and would constantly fight over them. I hate bunched up blankets, but once I'm asleep I don't even notice it and in the morning, I just make the bed with both folded in half- much like Ash's pictures. No I'm not European or anything, just the easiest way to solve the cover stealing.
I have no opinions on baby carriers as we never used one. The mobi wrap- although highly recommended, was too much for me. The standard baby carried which we have hasn't been used because it's just a hassle. I just carry the car seat. Bulky, but so far not a huge issue. I guess my many years of coaching gymnastics has developed arm muscles for carrying. Although I will just take him out of the car seat and put him in the stroller as the weather gets nicer.
William was jaundiced for 6-8 wks before it completely went away. At first he was sluggish with BF and waking him was a chore, but it did get better. My dr. just said to keep feeding him, put him in the window for sunlight whenever possible and as long as he had enough poopy diapers, all would be fine.
William is getting so big; he will be 6 months on the 23rd. I am certainly in for it as he is log rolling across the room constantly, pulling on the dog and attempting to bear walk (crawl with no knees). It's so cute to see him push up, hold, and then collapse because he can't move his arms and legs quite yet. We started William on cereal at 4 1/2 mons because he needed a bit more substance to eat- not calories just more of a space filler. Working two jobs with a baby up every 90min overnight was not going to work. We just started veggies last weekend as he was trying to grab everything I ate and would stare at DH or I when we would eat. He opens his mouth as wide as possible when the spoon comes near. So far, he loves green beans and carrots. I will try to get on more often, but DH is traveling 1 wk a month and it's becoming more difficult.