Considering switching providers - WDYT?

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Registered: 09-03-2004
Considering switching providers - WDYT?
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Fri, 07-15-2011 - 1:31pm
I'm more than a little fed up with the midwives. I've gotten attitude from the about practically everything (they didn't want me to have an u/s yesterday) and DH basically has to bully them in to giving us what we want. The last straw came last night when I got a message from my primary midwife "I'm calling to discuss your u/s. I don't know why you got an u/s, when we talked, we agreed it was basically a GI issue. But everything looks good. I'll see you at your next appt." It just sounded really bitchy to me (maybe I'm just sensitive). Anyway, they're the only midwives in Nashville, so I'm considering switching to an OB. We'll probably move before I deliver, bc DH is up for a promotion, so I'm not really concerned about the delivery at this point. ARGH!




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Registered: 07-15-2004
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 2:23pm
If you are not happy get someone else. I wish now that I would have when I was thinking about it. Not that my birth was bad but they really didn't do as DH and I had asked.

 Cassie 

     

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 3:23pm
I would switch. My midwives at my BC were also so obnoxious- nothing terrible but just always assuming I must be lying if I said I was happy with the pregnancy and felt fine, and sort of just condescending.I won't be going back again even though it is the only birth center in the city, just not worth it to deal with that type of negative energy. My doctor was actually much nicer and if you know you won't have to worry about delivery anyway why bother dealing with people like that?
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Registered: 02-27-2011
Sat, 07-16-2011 - 2:01am
I am switching to. My OB literally told me I made a big mistake going back to TTC again because now I will have twins and she hated having her kids 12 months apart in age. I would do it if I were you. I am switching after my Monday appointment because I really need my GD test to be done and my MFM doesn't do it. Plus they are 30 minutes away. I am switching to one 5 minutes away.

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Registered: 11-13-2005
Sat, 07-16-2011 - 12:27pm
I'd switch if you aren't happy. They are there to service you, they don't need to be giving you attitude over everything. You shouldn't be stressing about going and see them. Switch to someone that you are comfortable with.
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Registered: 08-24-2005
Sat, 07-16-2011 - 8:05pm
I would switch.
I was on a similar situation, where my OB lectured me about "wanting to know too much". I changed to another practice and I was a lot happier.

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Sat, 07-16-2011 - 9:35pm
I switched from a homebirth MW to a hospital MW when I was 31 weeks (for non medical reasons) so it's never too late to switch! Our Bradley teacher stressed that at our very first class and her words were ringing in my head when I became unhappy with the HB MW.

Being PG is stressful enough and the appts should be exciting for you, not something to dread.

One question though, if you switch now, will you have to switch again when you move? Are you moving out of state or just to another town? I'm surprised there's only one MW in town!

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Registered: 01-29-2008
Sat, 07-16-2011 - 11:36pm
I'd switch because doesn't sound like they trust your judgment which is critical!!

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Registered: 10-15-2001
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 4:40pm

I strongly believe that you should ENJOY prenatal visits! I looked forward to every appointment with my midwives because each visit was a chance to chat about the baby and my pregnancy. I think you should be building a partnership with your providers, not feeling at odds with them.

I add my vote to switching now.

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Registered: 09-03-2004
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 1:05pm

Thanks for your input ladies.


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Registered: 12-17-2007
Sat, 07-23-2011 - 11:28am

Natalie - I just wanted to echo everyone's else's advice to trust your gut, even if it means switching twice. I switched providers at 20 weeks and never looked back.

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