DH's "dads class"
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|Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:54pm|
i had my breastfeeding class tonight (sponsored by my hospital's women's and children's center). when they run the breastfeeding class, since it's geared mostly for women, they offer the "dads class" at the same time for the SOs to go to. of course, not all the SOs came. but for 12 women there were probably 8 SOs.
and poor DH apparently felt a little emasculated in that group, lol. the first thing he said to me when we got back to the car in the parking deck was, "wow, either we're a very strange couple or all those guys were lying for the sake of being macho!"
apparently, the class was very interactive, with the "teacher" (a man with four daughters aged 12, 10, 7, and 3) asking questions and bringing up discussion points round-table style.
out of 8 couples, 1 pregnancy was an accident, 1 couple wasn't trying but wasn't preventing, 5 were apparently members of the silver bullet brigade, and 1 (us) "took a little longer" (as DH put it...you all know it took us 4 cycles).
out of 8 men, only 1 (DH) noticed "changes" in his wife/SO besides the obvious physical changes and "she's a little more tired now", such as wild mood swings, achiness, random twitching and jerking (when i get kicked in uncomfortable places), being sick for the entire 1T, etc. oh wait, 1 other guy noticed his was was a little under the weather in the 1T.
out of 8 men, only 1 man's first emotional reaction (DH's) included fear/anxiety in addition to excitement.
out of 8 men, only 1 (DH) had a "cute nickname" for the baby. which he kept to himself at that point, since he was starting to really feel embarrassed.
and apparently, of all the newborn dolls they were given to learn how to change a diaper and swaddle, DH's was the only one to have a diaper that was way too big for it!
the whole thing made me LOL.
on a more serious note, he did tell me that sitting there in that class, it made the whole situation a little more real/close to home. i think that's a good thing. we've both been struggling a little with how abstract this is for us still. surprising that it's still abstract to me too, but it is, even with heart tones at every appointment, ultrasounds, and constant rolling and kicking to my ribs!