Hate to say goodbye

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Hate to say goodbye
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Sat, 10-03-2009 - 7:42pm

It looks like I'm done. I started bleeding yesterday morning and began cramping pretty bad. I had to tell my mom early and she was thrilled until I told her that I was bleeding. She took me to the ER where I got an ultrasound and the doctor said that my blood work showed I was between 5 & 7 weeks (I was almost 8 weeks by LMP & O date) but he wasn't seeing the developmental signs that a 7 week baby would show. I'm assuming he meant there was no heartbeat. I started cramping more later in the evening and passed some tissue. I'm sad because I really wanted this but it was out of my control. I'm so glad I was here with my mom through this because she miscarried her first, too, and I just really needed my mom. I'm going to call my midwives on Monday and maybe get in to see them on our way home just to confirm the miscarriage.

DH & I have decided to try to get down to Phoenix before the end of the year, find jobs with health insurance and start TTC ASAP. He's been really good through all of this. I think it made him realize that he wants kids and also how much I want them. It's brought us closer together and also alleviated my concerns about being able to get PG in the first place.

Thanks to you all for answering questions and giving good advice. I plan to lurk and keep up with you guys throughout your PGs.

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Registered: 07-14-2008
Sat, 10-03-2009 - 8:06pm

Oh Jennifer, I'm so sorry to hear that.

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Sat, 10-03-2009 - 8:57pm
Oh Jennifer, I'm so sorry to hear this! I've never been through it myself so I don't have a lot of words and wisdom, but did just want to let you know my sister and SIL both miscarried their first pregnancies and have both gone on to have three healthy babies with no problem! I know that's not a lot of consolation now, but I thought it might help and I hope to see you in the PG thread again soon!

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Sat, 10-03-2009 - 11:03pm

I'm so sorry. Sounds like you have a great plan and are now closer than ever to your DH. I hope to see you back with your sticky bean.

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Registered: 04-03-2008
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 6:02am

I am so so sad to read this:( I am glad that you were able to have your mother there with you. Really miscarrying is just so awful for everyone and I wish it never had to happen. Take however much time you need to grieve.


If you ever want to talk feel free to email me.


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Registered: 06-25-2006
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 6:57am
(((Jennifer))) I am sorry you are having to go through this. I too had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. I encourage you to get another ultrasound to confirm the miscarriage. I had retained tissue after my miscarriage and had it not been for the ultrasound and D&C I could have had problems. (((Hugs))) again. Let us know if you need anything.



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Registered: 04-22-2006
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 8:12am

I am so sorry, Jennifer :( I'm glad your mom was there to help you through it - it must have been so good to have her there with you since she had gone through it as well.

Good luck with the move to Phoenix, and starting TTC again. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and (((hugs))), and hope to see you around the boards again soon.





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Registered: 05-24-2007
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 9:07am
I am so sorry for your loss. It is good that you have the full support of your mom and DH. Good luck with your job searching and TTC. Hopefully it will not take you long to get a nice sticky bean. (((hugs)))

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Registered: 01-02-2009
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 9:09am

I am so sorry for you loss. It is really good that your mom was there in order to help you through this difficult time. I am sure her support is what you really needed to work your way through this difficult time. You and your DH are in my P & PT and I hope you are able to move and do what you need to do before you start TTC again. GL and again I am really sorry to lose you on here.

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Sun, 10-04-2009 - 9:48am

I am so so sorry for your loss, Jennifer - miscarriage is so awful and shouldn't happen to anyone. I've been through it three times before and can say that it does get easier to deal with the pain, but you will never forget your little bean. Take all the time you need to grieve - there is no right or wrong way to travel this road - do what is best for you right now, whatever that may be.

(((HUGS))) I hope to see you back in the pgcy thread soon.

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 9:53am
Jennifer I am so sorry that this happened. My thoughts and prayers are with you and DH.

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