Holy BFP Batman!!!

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Holy BFP Batman!!!
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Fri, 01-14-2011 - 10:49am

Hello everybody!!

(copy & paste from EC! I dont have the energy to re-write! :(

I can't believe I am really going to post this right now ... That seems to make this all the more real!!! I was debating if I should or not but why the heck not ... I could use all the support I can get right now! So Hello!

My name is Alyson, I live in Sunny Florida with my two kiddos, Isabella (5) and Tristan (2) I am expecting baby #3! and this is a HUGE surprise! You see my Dh and I split up back in July 2010 and have been living separately since then! We are on the road to divorce right now papers have been filed. Well we had ONE yes ONE night around the holidays together and used Birth Control ... and well SUPRISE!

I got a BFP a couple days ago! I still can't really believe it!

I have some health problems and I was told last year that we probably couldn't have any more kids. :smileysad: That it was 'very unlikely' in the doctors words! So my Ex-Dh decided that even though he didn't want anymore kids this meant he didn't need to get a Vasectomy! And well we weren't together or really getting along at all! (drama drama drama) most of last year. But he's been so helpful lately and we have been just within the last month really getting along again from a distance. We in no way plan on getting back together though, but we enjoy each others 'company' and we'll we are still married! Ha! So I saw nothing wrong with ONE night! but yea! I'm freaking out now ....Just a LOT!!!!!! I had the most overdramatic year every last year between custody drama, my health problems and the separation/move! I felt like I was JUST catching a break and leveling off!

I think babies are blessings regardless but I had no plans of having another child, so I am having a hard time coming to terms with this. It was hard for me to accept I wasn't going to be able to have anymore kids (more then likely) then with everything going on in my life, I decided 2 was okay! and I was okay with that .... I always thought I'd have more kids but I was really okay with just 2! Reality is sinking in and I just don't know what to do or think! I feel like a jerk not being excited but this is way more scary then exciting! :smileysad: I don't mean to offend anybody that's TTC or anything so don't hate me! :smileysad: I just need a hug!

We are not in a good place in our relationship to have another kid right now .. Financially things are really bad ... and emotionally I am in no way ready for baby #3 but .. Ready or not here s/he comes ... Due on Sept. 18th!!

I'm going to the doctor tomorrow because not only am I high risk, I'm also on a lot meds for my health issues and I'm not sure what I can take so thankfully they got me in quick. I found out at like 11p on Wends night! eek!

So yea .. That's the 'Cliff' notes of my story! Crazy eh?



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Fri, 01-14-2011 - 12:01pm

Oh my goodness, Alyson!

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 12:43pm
Holy cow! Wasn't expecting this at all!! Does your ex know yet?? How did he take the news??

Wishing you a H&H 9 months and you are absolutely right, babies are a blessing, no matter the circumstances! GL!!

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Registered: 11-15-2005
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 1:41pm
Thanks girls! My EX is not handling it very well at all. It's only been 2 days so I'll give him some more time. I can only imagine how he feels as a man if I am freaking out this bad! I went to the Doctor this AM so I am feeling a smidge better about things but I'm still totally freaked! I'm seriously getting Essure after this though lol no more whoopsies!


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Fri, 01-14-2011 - 1:52pm
Oh wow... I do remember your story from last year, so I was really surprised to see your announcement!! It sounds like this baby was MEANT to come to the world... I mean, what are the odds of getting pregnant for just one night using BC? And since you already feel that all babies are a blessing, I'm sure things will fall into place and you will feel excite and happy soon.

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Fri, 01-14-2011 - 2:04pm

Ekk Alyson!




Thank you for the sig Mary

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Registered: 01-29-2008
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 5:12pm
What a surprise! Mine was too! LOL Hope that once things settle things will be ok! I can imagine all the emotions you are feeling too! HUGS!! And glad the dr got you in!

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 12:52pm

Congratulations!

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Sat, 01-15-2011 - 1:12pm
Wow! What a huge surprise! I hope everything works out for you!




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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 2:25pm

OMG Alyson!!

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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 2:34pm
Thanks Adrienne! He's coming around little by little .. in his own way he brought me a grilled cheese today and some fries that the baby wanted! ;) ha!
Yeah I think if you just look at me the wrong way i get knocked up, I try and remind myself some people would kill for that and that is part of what's keeping me together right now and I'm grateful for that, kwim? But yea somebody is gettin snipped after this one! ha!


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