Julia´s birthstory

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Julia´s birthstory
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 1:44pm

I went to my weekly appt. last monday, and basically complained to Dr. Uncle about all the stuff I had been whining to you… He laughed at me, and after all the routine controls told me that he thought the baby was coming "any day now".
We went to pick up Fede at my parents, and then headed home to have dinner.
At 2:30am I woke up because I needed to pee. As soon as I sat on the toilet, I felt my water breaking (you will have to admit that was convenient!). So I called Mati, and went to sit on the couch while he gathered all our bags and Fede who was completely asleep.
We left Fede at my MIL's and went to the hospital. On the way I called Dr. Uncle, who unfortunately was on call that night at another hospital, so he said to go to the hospital, labor with the m/w and that they would call him when things were closer to delivery.
Just like last time, they checked me and confirmed that my water was broken, I was dilated 3 cm,



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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 11:18pm

I just hated to read how you were treated during your labor and delivery. I think that every woman should be able to labor how they want to, as long as there is no risk to the baby. And the fact that they said you were too vocal, I would have seriously punched them in the face. You are having a baby, it IS VERY painful. I just wish that you had better support from the nurses/mw to make your experience better.
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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 11:31pm

Thanks for taking the time to share Julia's birth story, Mari!

ITA with Cheryl - it made me so angry to hear how those nurses treated you! Is this the same hospital where you had Fede? Is this typical treatment in Argentinean hospitals?

I'm also surprised they gave you an epidural that late, although I'm sure it was helpful for you to have the pain relief. I know here in the US they will only give it to you up until a certain point (not sure exactly how many cm's).

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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 12:15am

Mari -

I cannot get over how the staff just sort of overlooked you!

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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 3:09am

Big hugs and congrats Mari! You are a champ! I do not think I could have handled that, at all! You are amazing and I am so glad you got your little girl!

And Christine my OB told me you can give an epidural up until the woman starts pushing because then there is no point to it. It's meant to aid labor, not after pains. Because pushing can last for hours they are allowed to give epidurals up to 10 cms, but not after pushing begins. That said hospitals are allowed to set their "point of no return" so some do have a

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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 7:49am
Thanks for sharing Mari.

I can't believe you made it as long as you did. You're a rock star. It's like they set you up for failure! Separating you from Mati & making you lay on your back right at the peak of the agony. I'm so sorry that it happened to you, it seems so unfair and unnecessary.

I'm so glad that you and Julia are both healthy and everything turned out ok in the end. She's absolutely beautiful. I hope your recovery is swift, sounds like the episiotomy wasn't too bad if you had to have one. Congratulations again.


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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 9:10am
That was crazy, Mari! I'm so sorry they took you away from Mati and left you laying on that table by yourself. It sounds to me like they wanted to "prove" something to you.

Anyway, congratulations! I'm so glad you have your baby girl in your arms now!
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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 10:42am

Mari you did so amazing!!!! You are an inspiration for sure!

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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 4:23pm
Who tells a laboring women not to scream? I probably would have lost it... you are stronger than I am... as I screamed and yelled and moaned.

Congrats on Julia's birth. I can't wait to see pics.
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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 4:37pm

I love birth stories! I love when you said, "they gave us little Julia and the world was fine again." That's exactly how birth seems. Things are crazy and surreal, and then all of a sudden, the world is right and calm again. I agree with everything you said!!! Your experience sounds a lot like my first birth. I was left alone a lot, and in those moments, I was in the darkest place emotionally that I've ever been. When babies #2 and #3, my husband was better prepared to provide the support I needed.

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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 6:00pm
Congratulations, Mari! I am sorry that the staff wasn't supportive, but I am so proud of the strength you had in a less than ideal situation. I agree with the other ladies, I would have lost it on the lady that told me to be quiet! I'm glad that you are starting to feel back to normal. Your little girl is so beautiful and I am so happy for you and your family!
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