In-Law Trouble: Am I wrong to be upset?

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Registered: 06-28-2007
In-Law Trouble: Am I wrong to be upset?
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 1:01pm

I have a history of trouble with my mother-in-law.

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Registered: 09-29-2006
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 1:14pm

Wow,

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Registered: 03-29-2008
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 1:20pm

Mary,


I would be upset as well.

-Suzie :)

 

 

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 1:44pm

Mary - I would be absolutely LIVID! If my MIL did anything like that I would be mad and if my parents did I would be upset as well. I had what I thought was the same situation. We have told people and our parents and told them we aren't telling people for awhile, so keep it to yourself until we make the big reveal. Well last week I got an email from my dad's co-worker and he had spilled the beans, he now knows he has to wait, but I wasn't as mad because it was just one person. But to tell the entire church in a small town is ridiculous! I can't believe it!

Have you or DH confronted her at all, did you delete the comment? or is it too late? Sometimes facebook is a curse.


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Registered: 04-22-2006
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 2:40pm

In all honesty? I'd flip of the frickin' handle! This is NOT her news to tell. It's completely disrespectful of both you and DH, especially since you so explicitly stated for her not to tell anyone until you were in the 2T. And it's not like she let it slip to a couple people in private - she announced it to the whole congregation!!

Obviously there's not much you can do about this specific situation now. But, I do think you and your DH should come up with a plan on how to handle these things in the future. Perhaps letting her know that she has betrayed your trust, and now you don't feel comfortable in sharing such news with her anymore (or at least not until the rest of the family and friends find out).

(((hugs))) to you for having to deal with such an annoyance in this time of happiness. I'm glad that you and DH seem to both be on the same side.





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Registered: 06-28-2007
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:03pm

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 7:22pm

Oh god, I would be absolutely through the roof!

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Registered: 12-28-2005
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 9:12pm
"It will be interesting to see how DH handles it and I will definitely make sure she is last on the list to know any news in the future."



THIS.



my MIL has unfortunately made some selfish attention-whoring mistakes that have banished her to the bottom of the right-to-know list, but never anything of this scale. i would be livid too.



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Registered: 06-15-2003
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 11:05pm
I would be LIVID! She totally went against everything you asked her to do. I would just have to say something to her like: next time we are PG I guess we won't be telling you until we're ready for the world to know. That's what I always threatened my mom with! LOL.

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 8:25am
Oh, you have every right to be upset!!!! My goodness!!! The girls are right, your DH should let her know very clearly that from now on, she'll be the last to know about important private stuff in your lives.
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Registered: 03-08-2008
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 10:03am

I would be SO pissed.

Your MIL has clearly taught you that she can't be trusted and that she has no respect for her son or you. I think you should treat her as such in the future. When it comes time to finding out gender, or anything else, how funny would it be for her to find out about it from some random person and not you, or to not find out at all.

Good luck.







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