Name Help Please!

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Name Help Please!
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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 4:07am
Hi all,
I put this as a separate topic in the hope that lots of people will respond...
So this WE, DH and I got down to choosing a name. DH quickly shot down most of my suggestions - as was expected!- so we were down to 5 names from my 40+ list. Out of these names, we both had a clear favourite, which was even the same ;) We both love it and think it would fit perfectly with Teddy's name.
So here's the big dilemma: this name is widely regarded to be a girls name only; not so much in the UK but definitely in the US and Canada. The name has a clearly defined masculine meaning and origin, but over here it's not really been used much since the 1950s and in the US it evolved as a girls' name (popularity peaked in the 1980s).
So I'm really torn - even though over here it probably wouldn't be too bad, I'm aware of the ever increasing globalisation - I've never been to the US but I deal with a lot of American clients. I don't want to burden my child with a name that's widely perceived to be a woman's name.
On the other hand, I'm so annoyed that this name ever became a girls name - it's IMHO a beautiful name that ticks all the boxes for us - should we really let another culture's perception influence our choice?
Please let me know what you think and what you would do!
P.s. I have deliberately not mentioned the name (yet) as I'm afraid then you'd all say "are you out of your mind, that's a girl's name!" ;)

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Registered: 01-29-2008
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 6:49am
I don't think you are out of your mind, but should say it. Also there is a growing trend in the US for boys names to be used as girls. Often you'd hear them and immediately think boy, but its a girl. Also a lot of girls names now are former boys names. So really in about 20 ish years when he'd have a chance to really interact (maybe before but maybe not) the trend may have taken over where its a moot point. :-)

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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 7:45am

I think that if it is barely used at all where you are, by males or females, then you are probably fine.

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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 7:50am

I know there are some men's names that are highly perceived as women's names, like Leslie. I am leaning towards the opinion of, use whatever you really like, who cares what other people think.First of all, the people who really care about your little boy will know he's a boy and that's all that matters.

Even with a name that is only ever used for a boy (Liam), a higher birth weight than his sister, obviously boyish features, and wearing blue, I would still get asked if the twins were both girls by strangers who didn't know them. You just have to decide how you're going to handle situations like that with a baby who may or may not look obviously one gender yet when clothed.

You could always give him a really masculine middle name and if it really bothers HIM, he can go by that later in life if he chooses to.

My only hesitation about it would be the bullying factor during school. I know in the course of your life, 13 years doesn't sound long, but so much self esteem damage can be done by peers from the age of 5 to 18. If you don't think that will be a problem, or you have a plan set out on how to mitigate that issue, then I say go for it!

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 9:20am

Are you thinking of Ashley??? :D

I think you should go with it, IF you think it won't become popular in the UK as a girls name. Otherwise I would find a different name.

I think having a

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 10:27am
My general practice doctor has what one would consider a "typical female" first name... and when I first selected HIM out of the provider directory I really thought he was a she. (His name is Cary). However, since I first met him some 11 years ago, I now know more men named Cary then women.

Us Americans are crazy like that - boy names to girl names and girl names to boy names.

If you don't think the name will gain in the UK as a girl name, then I say go for it. Can you look to see how the name trends based on sex over there (I know you can here)?

I gotta say though... I really want to know what the name is.
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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 10:56am

I have to admit I can't really give advice without knowing what the name is.




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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 11:10am

Anna, I think I know the name you're thinking of (it starts with an M??) and if that's the one, I think you could definitely use it... even though it's a "girls" name here in the US it's not uber popular here anyway. If it's not the M name then I want to know what it is!!!!

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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 11:48am
Thanks for all the replies! I thought not mentioning the name would make it easier but it seems not! So here it is:
Meredith.
(Andi, were you right?)
From what I've researched it's not even borderline in the US but girls only. Over here it is considered more of a unisex name, but rarely used for either. I believe it's not that popular,let alone trendy in America and I can't see it becoming a popular choice anytime soon...
To DH and me this is a lovely old fashioned 1930s type name, similar to Theodore. I have wondered if insisting on the correct pronunciation (m'-REH-dith) would make any difference but I guess it would just complicate things!
So now that you know, is your opinion any different?

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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 11:56am
I think it's a great name for a boy... I've known 2 women by that name and both spelt it with an "A" and went by the nickname Mary.

Now that I think about it... it goes wonderfully with Wayne as a middle name (which of our boy middle name).

According to social security Meredith peaked (#140) in the early 80s as a girls name here... it is currently around #500. For a boy it peaked (around 500) in the 40s.

And I totally agree w/ what Sarah said about how trends change over the years.

If you love it, go for it.
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Mon, 02-14-2011 - 12:18pm

I like Meredith! When I hear it in my head I think mare-uh-dith is that how you would pronounce it? I think it totally works as a boy's name and it isn't

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