Natural Birth Mamas--Read This!

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Registered: 01-30-2008
Natural Birth Mamas--Read This!
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Tue, 10-20-2009 - 9:54pm

So a friend of mine ended up falling through the path of interventions that eventually led her to a c-section this afternoon. She's doing fine. However, when I commented about how unnecessary it was to my mother today, she pretty much attacked me. She started telling me to have an open mind and that I may WANT a c-section, that doctors know what they're doing, etc. Eventually, I told her that she needed to get on the same page as me FAST or she wouldn't be invited to the birth b/c I only need 100% support there.

She agreed to read up and watch The Business of Being Born. So I need some easy quick resources (links) that I can send her to read. It can't be anything long and complicated, or she won't read it. I need simple-to the point-websites for her to look over.

Can anyone help me out with this??

Also, I want to say that it was pretty out of character for my mom to say that stuff. She used a midwife with both my brother and I...but I really don't think she understands the difference in the maternity system now verses 25 years ago. They didn't fight the same fight.

Thanks everyone! I just want her to "get it" b/c I do want my mom there for my first baby :)

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Registered: 04-03-2008
Wed, 10-21-2009 - 2:40am

I suggested Ina May's Guide to Childbirth to my mom and she LOVED it. You can get it from the library or a used bookstore for so little money as well.


I tend to stick to books just because I don't always trust the internet (obviously) but mothering.com (the website for the magazine) can be a GREAT resource.


She might like this article, http://mothering.com/her-back


But I am guessing that watching the Business of Being Born will help a lot as well.



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Registered: 03-19-2007
Wed, 10-21-2009 - 10:41am

I really like the lamaze Steps to a Healthy Birth (it's only 6 steps). The website has video clips or you can click on the "pdf version" tab for articles - somewhere on their site you can find their position paper on healthy birth which has citations to back up their steps. They're really geared towards healthy birth (as natural as possible) in a hospital setting so if you're going the home birth route they may not be as helpful.

http://www.lamaze.org/ExpectantParents/HealthyBirthVideos/tabid/792/Default.aspx

And from a BTDT who ended up with a c-section after doing my best to avoid all unnecessary interventions (I was induced due to a failed stress test, I felt that was necessary), please do keep an open, informed mind going into your birth. My poor DH was sobbing when we were told we needed a c-section (this was after he had spend 18 hours awake with me during labor, kept me from getting the epidural, helped me through 5 hours of pushing, so I guess he has an excuse :P)

I think doctors want the same thing they did 25 years ago - a healthy mom and baby - but c-sections have become safer so there's much more training for that kind of intervention and not enough on how to deal with complications in a less medical sense (e.g. once upon a time, lots of doctors would deliver breech births but now very few could do so safely since they aren't trained to, they just schedule c-sections).

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Fri, 10-23-2009 - 9:14pm

I love that Mothering article!! Very nice!


You know, my own Mom delivered 7 babies, mostly without medication, as she was very pro-natural birth even in the 70's. When it came to me, her own baby, having a bay... she flipped out! She was terriied that something awful would happen & even picked a fight with me on day two of my stop & start labor. So, try to understand & maybe even talk to your Mom about, the fact that she's bound to have fearful feelings. Maybe if you two talk it out you cna help her come to terms & cope better for your birth.


She is right in that you never know what will happen. You can, however, plan & hope for the best. :)

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Registered: 01-30-2008
Sat, 10-24-2009 - 5:48pm

Thanks y'all! I am definitely keeping an open mind...I just want to take all steps I can to prevent!

I love the Lamaze Videos!!

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