Pregnancy Chat - January!

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Pregnancy Chat - January!
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Sun, 01-01-2012 - 3:56am

Congrats to all our newly pregnant WTTG ladies! Here's hoping there are many more in 2012!


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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 12:31pm
At birth my Teddy was 8 oz larger than Ray... but Teddy cooked 2 weeks longer.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 12:37pm

Ruth:

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Registered: 10-15-2001
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 12:53pm
Ruth, we took a Lamaze class for baby #1. Besides learning the physical aspects of how labor progresses (something you could learn from a book or website), I didn't find the class to be helpful at all. Breathing techniques just weren't helpful for me. After a disappointing first birth, I became obsessed with educating myself on natural birth. In particular, I focused on the Bradley Method. Although we didn't technically have a "Bradley Birth," I believe I had two natural births because of the knowledge I gained from the Bradley Method.

I would say every husband is different. My husband took the first course with me, and he was TOTALLY unprepared for Fletcher's birth. He was not at all ready to see me in pain, and well...honestly...he didn't hold up his end, so to speak. He fell asleep. LOL I gave him tons of things to read about natural birth and birth coaching in the time between Fletcher and Jonah's birth. By the time Jonah came, DH was a birth CHAMP. He could have been a doula. :) And he delivered Charlotte by himself (well, I was there) at home! He was amazing.
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Registered: 05-20-2007
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 1:23pm

Thanks for the input everyone!

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 1:35pm
You guys all bring up good points- especially considering the time after the birth. Plus you don't know how you will like giving birth yet either. For me I found the contractions (especially with the hypnobabies) to be very doable. I listened to certain hypnobabies tracks on my mp3 player while sort of just walking around and being in "the zone" so to speak and I didn't want DH to do anything in fact I encouraged him to just go away and take a nap LOL. However the pushing phase for me was more intense and at one point I actually snapped at DH to stop telling me the hypnobabies phrases because THEY WEREN'T HELPING LOL. However him being there and telling me I could get through it and I was doing great did help me and I imagine if Teddy had been a more manageble size that I also would not have found the pushing phase as intense as I did.

Either way just do what seems right for you, if you go into the birth with a positive mindset and a good idea of all of the likely possibilities then that goes a long way. Also make sure to talk with your DH about how you feel about an epidural and stuff like that as it was great to have DH more forcefully say my position when I was in the middle of contractions and not capable of articulating how I felt quite as nicely as I would have liked :)
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Registered: 09-12-2008
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 1:50pm
Ruthie,

Are any of your DHs documentaries published? I would love to see them. :-)

My DH and I took Bradley classes and it was helpful for us because my DH is not the type to read a book or research the web about birth, he needs the actual instructor.

Selin ended up being posterior so all the techniques we learned did nothing to help my pain, including sitting in a hydrotherapy tub which I was really banking on helping me with the pain, and as a result, I caved after 12 hours of labor and asked for an epi so I could rest. She was born 6 hours later. My DH was great and kept encouraging me but next time with the help of a doula and under similar conditions, I think I might be able to go totally med free.

Like Ash said, the main thing to do is keep an open mind and be knowledgeable about interventions. I also loved the BOBB movie but have not yet watched PG in America.

Whatever you choose, pick the format that works best for you and your DH. ;-)

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 1:55pm
Also, if you're planning to breastfeed, I would recommend finding a LLL group near you and attend a meeting before baby comes if possible. You will already have a place to go to with questions when the time comes (some leaders even make hospital visits do you're not totally relying in the LCs) and you will have a chance to hear advice from both new and experienced moms.

I didn't go to a LLL meeting until Selin was 5 weeks ago and really wished I had gone before she was born. In the meantime, I read this book to help answer my questions that first month:

http://www.breastfeedingmadesimple.com/

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Registered: 12-30-2007
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 9:35pm

WOW- way to make me feel totally inept...I had done some research on birthing options, but I totally opted for hospital birth with OB and an epi and will for this one too. I have no interest in dealing with pain; I have a very high pain threshold, but once crossed I am the worse person to be around. I walked/ran on a broken ankle for three weeks because I didn't want to miss high school track. I also don't feel the need to be a hero during childbirth. I read up on the side effects of an epi and decided it far outweighed being in pain. Of course, that could change and if I have a super short labor and delivery it may not be an option. William was 3 hours from first 'real' contrax to out. I also got my epi at 3cm which is early and went to 10 and ready within 90 min. I tore, had 6 micro stiches, but didn't need any pain meds. I was thrilled with my sterile environment and all that went with it.

Just sharing my view as it seems quite different than everyone else's.

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 7:04am
Well, it is always good to have another perspective. As I've said a number of times, my mom is like you, and she swears that the epidural is the best invention that the 20th century gave women! LOL! I think, no matter what class you take, or what is your philosophy of birth, being in tune with your body is important to have a positive experience. The epidural and other procedures are not "evil". They are just tools. If used well, they can be immensely helpful. As well as harmful if used wrongly.

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Registered: 09-15-2007
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 9:49am

I think it's like any other parenting decision, and that people make the best decision for them.

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