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Re: Pregnancy Chat - *J*U*L*Y*
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 10:19am
Kate--The shooting pain is a little better, as long as I don't bend, twist, or stretch. :smileywink:

Jamie--Ugh, fruit flies. Our office had them last year. It was TERRIBLE!

AFM--U/S went well. Vaginal, so no images of baby. But they wanted the placenta 3cm from the cervix at this point, and mine was 4.7cm. The OB told me he would see me again when I need a u/s for another baby.

And, puking again. I really hate that I can't eat for the first hour or so after I wake up every morning without tossing my cookies.
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Wed, 07-25-2012 - 1:28pm
Finally got my labs back today. All looks good except progesterone a little low. But I had the same issue with David.  I was retested two days later and all was fine. She said she wants me to take supplements this time (different doctor) and didn't say anything about re testing. Hopefully all will be OK. I'm still feeling good except for some sore breasts (they come and go) and hungry a lot of the time and sometimes heartburn at night.  I didn't have many symptoms with David either so maybe I should consider myself lucky but it still makes me nervous. Also, it's still early I know I could easily get symptoms in the coming weeks.  I'll feel better once I have my u/s next Friday.


 


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Wed, 07-25-2012 - 1:43pm
Jamie- With Teddy the doctor's office I was at only did the 3 hour test so I know how much that sucks. I'm glad you passed though! And glad the fruit flies aren't hanging out this year! It is exciting how close you are getting to the end:smileyhappy:

Liz- I'm glad the U/S went well! I'm so sorry you are throwing up again, I just can't imagine!!

AFM- Teddy passed a cold on to DH and I. In typical Teddy fashion he wasn't affected by it at all but both DH and I are really suffering with runny noses, sore throats, light temps, etc. Which would be fine if 1. I could take some stupid cold medicine, and 2. I could have a little break from Teddy. But thankfully his Tagesmutter comes back from her month long vacation next week, and I get to rest a bit! DH is also taking him the first weekend in August and I will be doing whatever I want for the weekend. Originally I planned on going away but now I would rather stay here and just do stuff like go to the movies, go to my favorite breakfast place, meet up with friends, etc. It should be a nice break before hitting 37 weeks and the baby countdown LOL.
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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 3:28pm

Em--I'm sure we'll still use cloth when we go out and for overnight.  Some people that do EC aren't actually diaper free but use cloth all the time and just try to cue the baby to go regularly so ideally they would only use 1-2 diapers for the whole day instead of like 12.  We'll see how it works out for us.  I think it (will be) easiest to be diaper-free when teaching the baby the cue noise so that you catch a lot at the beginning--it's way harder to know when they are going (esp with pee) if you have a diaper on them all the time.  But if we have a baby who responds to the cue every time by 1-2 months and holds it in between, we might use cloth as "backup" at that point.  I'm open to a variety of things at this point depending on the baby and what seems to work for us.  

Yay for being halfway!  And for feeling better and better!  Hopefully by now you feel totally better.  The nausea finally went away for me at 20/21 weeks so hopefully it did for you, too.

Jess--I love the u/s picture!  That is a cute lil "pineapple" hehe.  Congrats on girl number two!  If we only planned on two I have no idea if I'd be hoping for two of the same or one of each!  Or are you thinking of a third now?  LOL  

Sorry you are a little disappointed--but I agree that you will probably end up loving having two little girls to be friends and close in age and playing with the same toys and interested in similar books/movies/TV etc.  Not that all that is gender specific but personally I'm glad to be having another boy because Jamey is SUCH A BOY.  He literally only wants to read about firefighters, trucks, planes, dinosaurs . . . I would feel a little bad for a girl who had to fight for a little pink or lace in her life hahahah.

Yay for your remodel being almost done!!!  I bet you will feel such relief when it is all over with.

Jamie--Like Morgan says, every woman is different.  I know a LOT of people (including plenty on this board) who had no sex drive while exclusively nursing and/or who wanted to do it but it was too painful--sometimes for up to 6 months or a year.  Other people (esp if you have a high libido throughout your whole cycle and in general) wanted to do it right away and didn't have any pain.  So everyone is different.  But I think that it's important, regardless, to find other (non-sexual) ways to be close and communicate with DH, either way.  I know for me, my libido is very hormonally driven--like I REALLY WANT sex when I'm Oing and practically have no interest the rest of the month except for occasionally.  So since I didn't O again after birth until my DS was almost a year old--I didn't have a lot of interest before that--ESPECIALLY the first 6 months.  

If this happens to you I think acceptance is a huge thing.  There's nothing "wrong"--the reason a sex drive exists is to procreate and you aren't meant to procreate again immediately after giving birth and/or while exclusively nursing.  So I think having the right attitude toward your changed life/sex drive is the biggest thing.  Your life and relationship with DH WILL CHANGE after having a baby even if you have as much sex as you used to.  Your mind will never be solely focused on DH again--there will always be someone else occupying the primary space in your mind--and this is especially strong right after birth--every particle of your body will be focused on the new baby.  So I think it makes a huge difference to think of this as the "right" thing.   In your relationship before, if you didn't feel like having sex with DH, maybe there was something else "wrong"---depressed, distracted, too absorbed in work, underlying issues in your relationship . . . after you have a baby, for the first time, it will be "right" if you don't feel like having sex--there will be a good reason for it--which is a total focus on your new baby.  So yeah I think just accepting this and not judging your feelings and learning other ways to be close and communicate with DH is huge.  If you constantly are wondering "what's wrong with me that I don't feel like having sex?"  It's going to feel a lot worse than if you can say: "Oh well it is really temporary and makes total hormonal/evolutionary sense so it's NDB"  You know what I mean?

Like I said, last time I don't know if I really "got it" and I forced myself to have sex before I was really ready (on V-Day at 12 weeks PP) and I didn't enjoy it and it was really painful.  This time I'm not going to do that.  Mine and DH's relationship is NOT just about sex and I'm not going to do it this time until I am really ready/wanting it.  If that means it's 6 months, fine.  My DH spent 5 years single before he met me so he obviously knows how to "take care of himself" and considering I will be taking care of his new tiny baby, I don't feel like there is a single thing wrong with telling him that I am officially off-duty.  

Aaaaaaaaaaaaanyway.  LOL

In terms of the crotch pain--I had that increasingly during the third tri with DS.  it turned into stabbing pains that would radiate down my inner thigh...as it turned out, DS had a hand down with his head--so once he engaged into the birth canal it's like every time he would wiggle his hand/head I would feel the stabbing nerve pain.  Maybe it's something similar for you?



 Sandy--I think it's funny that your DH is mad at you for something like that--testing without him (I'm sure he is over it by now but still).  I almost feel like he's really mad because it happened quicker/more easily than he thought and maybe he isn't sure if he's really ready and is taking his fear out on you and decided that he can't actually be mad about that so instead he's mad about the testing.  I will read on and see what happened...LOL

BTW I was reading recently that IBS is like a huge percentage of the time either undiagnosed dairy sensitivity/lactose intolerance and/or undiagnosed gluten sensitivity.  Have you ever tried an elimination diet to see if it makes a difference with the IBS?

In terms of the maternity/baby clothes--honestly if you've saved them for this long, I would save them a little longer and make sure you don't end up using them.  Your new baby might have a completely different weight gain pattern/body type and end up using a lot more of the clothes than you think!  And in terms of maternity clothes, a lot of times a sleeveless or short sleeve shirt will work really well with a non-maternity unzipped sweatshirt or button-down shirt or sweater for the winter.  So you might still be able to use those, too!

Oh man I had AWFUL INDIGESTION the first trimester.  I would have to actually fast after 5pm or I would vomit multiple times in the middle of the night and either way I had to sleep sitting up and couldn't eat anything acidic...ehhhhhhh.   But good news is that it did go away after 12ish weeks and I have yet to get any heartburn back again---with Jamey the heartburn started at 24 weeks so I've already made it beyond that!  Hopefully it's not as big of an issue for you as it was for me.

And yeah I also bloated up immediately and basically stopped wearing my regular pants as soon as morning sickness started (5 weeks for me) because the pressure on my stomach made it worse.  I felt by 8 weeks that everyone MUST KNOW when they looked at me and there's no way I could hide it.  In retrospect people are oblivious though and are JUST STARTING to realize I am pregnant now at like 25 weeks so I was probably just being paranoid.  But yeah--a lot of it is bloating but it will turn right into real baby so if you are uncomfy I wouldn't wait to dig into the maternity clothes!

Ash--I'm sure you'll bake this baby until your due date--unless there are specific complications most people seem to gestate similarly . . . some people go early and some go late and some go on time.  Theodor was pretty late, right?  So I think you probably have another month to go--that's my guess!  ;-)

Liz--OMG I am so sorry you puked all over the bathroom--I would have shut the door, too.  In all my SO MANY MONTHS of voming I never got more than a few drops anywhere besides the toilet/outside/various containers.  Then again I would spend hours at a time in the bathroom so maybe I wasn't challenging myself too much.  Bleh.  I hope you are feeling a little better by now.  At least you can report these events to your midwife like:  "See I am TRYING to gain weight!"

OMG I love your fishy siggy!!  That is SO CUTE Peter is looking so round all of a sudden!

Yay for passing your GTT!  

Cassie--OMG!  Were you guys trying?  Congrats, I am so excited for you!!!

I have to admit that I am jealous that you feel pretty normal when pregnant.  You are making me feel like a whiny weakling, LOL, but the 2nd tri is the only one that is semiokay for me.  The last month I was pregnant was like having a torture chamber occupying my own body--I'm just not into having two feet of baby inside me.  I could barely sleep at all, I was so uncomfortable.  I also couldn't sit/lay/stand etc in any position without being in pain.  Everyone was like:  "You better sleep while you can!"   But I felt more rested after the first sleep after pushing him out than I'd felt in over a month.  4 hours of good sleep is apparently better for me than 12 hours of bad sleep.  LOL  


Long story short you are really lucky.  But knowing the machoism of men, the way they will treat you when you are pregnant will have zero to do with you and everything to do with them.  If I were you and didn't want to be treated differently, I would wait to tell them as long as you can! 

 Jules--YAY for another girl!  Wow it is really girl season now!  LOL

Okay that's as far as I got.  Gonna go blueberry picking with my sister n Jamey now, fun times. 

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Adrienne- My IBS is controlled when I'm not pregnant. It's when I'm pregnant that I have issues. I have tried so many different foods to eliminate and nothing worked. I don't get heartburn hardly at all anymore when I"m not pregnant. It seems like when I got older it got a lot better.

I think part of DH being bummed about the test was it happened so fast and honestly I would have waited if I would have known if it was going to be positive but I thought it was going to be negative. Of course now we have bigger issues with his company wanting him to move to Georgia or Kansas at the end of the year and he's trying everything to find a job here so he can just leave and we can stay in Indianapolis. My mom can't travel as she's on oxygen and I know she'd be devestated if we had to move as we're 5 hours away now and we'd go to 12 hours if we moved to Georgia. We would move to Georgia if we had to becuase we'd be 4 hours from my in laws.But ideally we want to stay here as we have a house and we love our church and the friends and we'd have to pack up everything again. But time will tell what happens. We're hoping he finds another job here.

 

 

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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 5:19pm
Adrienne, yes we were trying. We did one month of NTNP and then one cycle of putting a little more energy into it and got prego. So far I am still feeling ok. I actually POAS this morning to make sure I was still + cause I literally have no sticking signs. No sore boobs or anything. I'm just 6 weeks so I know its early and things could change.

I told most of the crew at work. They have not treated me differently. Mostly because I am still on the street and still working. I'm not to worried about it they know I'll do my thing and if I need help I will call. They know I will pull my weight... when others are not. Even prego! lol I picked up an 80lb dog yesterday and put her in my truck. :smileyhappy:

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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 5:22pm
Sandy, what is wrong with moving to Kansas? Where in Kansas?
I know you don't want to be far from your family... however, being a Kansasan I just have to pick on you!

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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 5:29pm

I know you are from Kansas but it is far from both families and if we have to move Georgia is closer to my in laws. We are still hoping we can stay though. If it wasn't for the families I wouldn't have an issue. I'm not sure where in Kansas. They just bought a tv station there but it's not on their website which station yet. I know the one in Georgia is Savannah which is really close to Hilton Head. We'd be 12 hours from my family if we moved to Georgia. We are 5 right now. But it's still closer than when we were in Texas.

I'm not having many symptoms either and a little nervous. But I didn't have much with David. But then all of a sudden today I got exhausted mid afternoon. I am having a lot of cramping I hope that's not a bad sign. It feels like stretching and I'm not bleeding. The doctor said that was normal. And now that I'm on the progestrone I feel better also. I also have sore breasts but they come and go. They are worst at night. My ultrasound is a week from tomorrow. I'm so nervous and I'm sure all will be OK but I'm still nervous. Of course I could have full blown symptoms by next Friday.

 

 

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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 8:07pm

Ash--Yay for the new doc!  That's great about the wait times and nice office staff.  To me that reflects a lot more important things, too, like that they care about people's busy schedules, they are willing to go out of their way to accommodate people--they manage things well, have reasonable expectations for themselves/others, etc.

I'm honestly not sure how it is in the states, either,  LOL!  I see my midwife at my house monthly and soon it will be every 2 weeks until 36 weeks and then weekly until I deliver.  Our appts are at least an hour, I see her every time but usually her apprentice also comes--which was my choice, I could NOT have the apprentice too if I didn't want to.  At 36 weeks for my home visit my backup midwife will also come and all three of them will come back to my house for the birth.  Well unless my midwife or the backup is at another birth--that's part of the reason that they have a backup, hehe.  

I'm glad you are getting everything done that you want to get done.  Although, like I said, I would be surprised if you went early, I think it is definitely nice to "feel ready" and be able to relax and just let the baby come when he/she is ready.

In my experience, BH are definitely a bit of a "heads up" in terms of letting you know that you maybe need to rest more, drink more water, and/or take things easier in general.  I also had a TON the last month of my pregnancy with Jamey though and I think partially it is just prepping your body for labor.  I had a false labor scare at 36 weeks where I had them every 5 mins for HOURS and I really thought labor was starting!  But nope I had a whole month left--hehe.

OMG that pic is so precious.  You are SO little and cute and your belly is SO big.  But it still looks pretty high to me I think you might have some dropping in your future.  Personally I LOVED when Jamey dropped because I could breathe better and bend over easier.  He dropped like 3 different times though, lower and lower he went hehe.  And more and more pressure on my cervix every time!  That's why I love how Dr. Sears calls the 9th month "labor month"--it SOOOO felt like that to me, like I was semi in labor for the entire last month.

Oh man sorry Teddy gave you guys a cold!!  If you are congested, you can take Mucinex--I have asthma and it's been a lifesaver for me when congested and pregnant.  It is an expectorant as oppose to a decongestant--so the immediate result is MORE coughing and nose blowing--but then after a few hours it slows down, your lungs feel lighter and your head feels lighter--it like helps thin the mucus so your body is able to clear it productively.  Not sure if they sell it in Germany the drug name is Guanifessin.

Sandy--As I'm sure others said, YEP cramping is normal.  That's one of the sure signs of pregnancy is feeling like AF will arrive any second haha.

Don't worry about the Icy Hot, I totally agree with Erica--tons of stuff says "consult your doc before using" and it's basically a combo of nonresearch and just covering their own @sses in terms of litigation.  Also the baby absorbs almost nothing from your body the first 6 weeks because the placenta has not even developed yet.  This is natural protection the body gives the baby that during those first few weeks they are pretty much immune--that's why drinkers/drug addicts who don't figure out they are pregnant until they miss their like 2nd period have totally fine babies if they sober up after that.  (And sometimes even if they don't).  

I mean seriously my aunt was a Crystal Meth addict throughout her entire pregnancy with my cousin and when my cousin was born she was literally perfect and didn't even get withdrawal--she is now in college and has always been an A+ student and is very pretty and super smart.  Luckily for her the miracle of her perfectness was enough to finally spur my aunt into recovering and her and my uncle have been clean since.  But I'm just saying I think the Icyhot is NBD.  hehe

Wow that's crazy about DH's job situation!  Hopefully it works out so that you won't have to move, I wouldn't want to be a state away from my family so I can relate to your concern!

As someone that was vomming like 12 times a day for 3 months and then still voming a few times a day for 2 more months---YES BE GRATEFUL that you have low-level symptoms, LOL.  The sore boobs and slight nausea/indigestion that come/go sound 100% on par and normal for this early in pregnancy.

Cassie--Glad that your boss didn't get upset the way he did on your co-worker!  I'm sure what he knows about each of your personalities/work ethics has a lot to do with it, too.  Oh yeah exactly the guys know you are a hard worker and that you don't use excuses to get out of work so they are not as worried about you being pregnant as they might be about other people who are more like that.  

Oooo those birthing rooms sound NICE.  Jacuzzi tub...ooo lala.  Hahah!

Jules--BE PROUD for keeping up with watering your garden!  That is more than I am doing, let me tell you.  I have a huge weed patch in the backyard with some withering plants mixed in  . . . poor guys.

Jamie--Yay for getting ready!  I can't believe you are already 30 weeks OMG!!  Pregnancy always flies by for other people and for me, too, when I'm not vomiting and/or huge and miserable.  Glad you passed the 3 hour!

OMG we are having an EARWIG infestation to speak of bug populations!  Jamey got on this riding toy and started to push it and like 20 earwigs crawled out from under it and around the wheels and stuff ehhhhh!  And we use rags instead of paper towels and every time I pick one up that we are in the middle of using like 3 earwigs crawl out!  And they are constantly in the sinks, on the dishes, God I can't stand it!   EK

Liz--Glad you passed, too.  Post a pic of your low belly!  I carry low too, or at least I have with Jamey and again this time around!  And woohoo for placenta getting out of the way!!

I'm so so sorry you are still voming--I seriously don't think I could have lasted another week myself.  You are my pregnancy hero.  Hehe

Shawn--I hope you aren't still sick!  For me it went away around 20/21 weeks so hopefully it did/does for you, too!

And yeah I so get the over-heating.  I NEVER have issues with the heat when I'm not pregnant, bt my pregnancy with Jamey was the first time we ever put our A/C unit in the window and during heat waves I would just live in our bedroom with the A/C cranked up!   Haven't had to do that again yet this summer but August isn't even here yet, so we'll see!

AFM/the weather--It actually hasn't been that hot here (in CT).  I guess it hit 100 while we were conveniently in Nevada/Utah where it was ironically raining and relatively "cold" (90 as oppose to 105 like it was the week before we were there).  So apparently we've been chasing the cool weather around the US hehe.  As I speak we are about to get a thunderstorm with supposedly "life-threatening?!" winds and hail.   I'm all about it--I love storms and don't like the heat esp while pregnant.  Maybe me and DH can have a fun romantic evening sitting on our porch while the storm rages on outside.

And I'm finally caught up on the thread Yaaaaaay.  Just in time for August hahah.  

In pregnancy related news--WOW my boobs suddenly HURT.  It's weird because I'm having symptoms NOW like I did in the 1st tri during my pregnancy with Jamey--my boobs have grown like a cup size in the last week/two--I'm having tingling and STABBING pains throughout them and throughout the whole day.  I have to wear a bra 24/7 now because the rubbing of my shirt against the nips feels like sandpaper.   (I'm normally one that only wears a bra when I go out--my non-preg and weaning/nonnursing boobs are like B's if that).   It's funny this is all happening how as oppose to the first tri like it did with DS but maybe part of it is that I'm still nursing so . . . well basically your body builds new milk ducts and pathways when you are pregnant and it closes the pathways down when you are weaning--so maybe it had to like get to a certain place in the weaning process before it starts the re-building process?  IDK but DAMN it hurts to nurse Jamey and now all his teeth are in (except 2 year molars) and I can't even unlatch him easily because there are no like holes in his mouth to get my finger in anymore!  Meeeeh

But I AM glad he's still nursing--since we are vegan I really didn't want him to wean before 2/3 years old because I feel like he still nutritionally really needs the milk and I sort of took it out from under him--when I got preg he was still nursing like 6 times a day but then I was SO SICK that I cut him down to twice a day and then the milk dried up by the end of the first tri anyway . . . so I wanted to give him another chance at having as much milk as he wants and my plan for spacing the next pregnancy is to have a MUCH BIGGER spacing and not to get pregnant until both boys have weaned on their own and ideally are going into preschool and/or kindergarten so that if I'm throwing up for 5 months straight again I can at least have the morning to myself to live in the bathroom and vomit at will without feeling guilty about neglecting my child/children.  

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So...I guess we'll be pg again together Adrienne. We're planning a 4-5 year gap between newb and the next one.
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