Hope to see some more TTC
Mari I think asking both moms to come over is a good idea. Maybe you could even let your mil know ahead of time that you're really focused on trying to deal with the labor pains naturally, and you'd like her there to be a soothing presence for you. I'm sure that being a mother she can understand when it's your own child in pain/distress it's much harder to stay calm and not get anxious. But like you said, hopefully you go into labor when Mati is home so none of this is a concern!
Ash- we have no names picked out or left over from William. Dh and I did not discuss names until we knew boy or girl and even then we didn't discuss William's name. I had mentioned that I really like William years ago and how well it went with Charles. It also helped that both are family names. When we had the u/s, the doctor asked if we had thought of any names and DH answered William Charles without hesitating, so that's what we went with. There is no other boys name that even comes close to William Charles in my mind. I have a few girl's names that I like, but as my 'punishment' for finding out the gender, DH won't talk names until we know boy or girl.
We live in an 1840's cape house that we have slowly been renovating. The new baby's room was the first room we started, but got put on hold 4 years ago with other projects. One wall is already ripped down because it was fake wood paneling- a la 70's-80's- YUCK! Unfortunately, the room needs to be emptied as it became a dumping ground for anything we didn't know what to do with. Then the real work can begin.
Name/SO Name: Katja and Andy
How many weeks are you? almost 21
Any exciting dates/appointments this month? just my regular OB appt
For those of use that are getting close:
Have you had any "progress" in regards to effacement/dilation?
Do you feel like you will go early or late?
How are you feeling physically?
How are you feeling emotionally about labor and delivery?
For those who have a bit longer to go:
What's on your to-do list to get ready for baby this month? Get a crib, put together a registry and decide on some things for the nursery.
Mari - I second what everyone else has said already - ask them both to be there! I remember I was so worried about reaching DH when I went into labor because the buildings he works in sometimes don't have good reception but as it turned out, I went into labor in the early AM before he went to work!
Liz - I have the same goal as you. I labored unmed for 12 of the 18 hours of my labor with Selin and caved for the epi just out of pure exhaustion (I had been up since 5:30am). I just tried to read as many *positive* unmed birth stories as I could and I also read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth a few times.
On a side note, anyone else get irritated when you hear the media, or just people in general, refer to vaginal childbirth as "natural"? As in, "oh, she went natural", which can lead to confusion because people also refer to "natural" as "unmed". When someone tells me someone went "natural", 9 times out of 10, it was
Thanks Ashley and Jamie, yeah, I don't know it was still weird and I'll never be comfortable, I guess it's just something I have to deal with.
I know Christine, that's why I'm trying not to worry about it.
I also get a little bit annoyed about the natural birth thing. This board is special in the sense that we are all informed women when it comes to our fertility and the birth process.... so it's really surprising/annoying when I find women who are ignorant or just don't care about this kind of things... On the other hand, I really need to repeat myself that it's their choice and I can't be forcing people to be interested in the same htings I am.