Tips for First-timers

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Tips for First-timers
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Fri, 10-09-2009 - 12:38pm

I saw this on my EC and thought it would be cool to do the same here.


All BTDT

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 2:30pm

Tips for PG;
1) eat a few crackers before even getting out of bed in the morning, then make sure to eat something, however small, every 2-3 hours all day. This minimizes nausea.
2) Take care of yourself! Rest when you can, you need it, you're growing a human!
3# Do as much preparation as you can in the 2T, but leave smaller things to do in the 3T while you wait, but have less energy #& need more naps!#.
4# Get some kind of exercise 4-5 times a week #even 15 minutes will help!# & squat daily to make your perineum flexible #SO worth it not to tear!#.


Tips for birth;
1) Make a plan for things you feel strongly about your birth. #put something about how healthy Mom & Baby are most important at the top so that the staff knows that is your highest

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Sat, 10-10-2009 - 11:05am
great advice Noel!!!
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Registered: 06-15-2003
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 7:59pm

The biggest one I can think of (this kind of goes for pregnancy and after the baby is born) it is your body and it is your baby and you have all the power in the decision making. Don't go blindly with what a doctor tells you, you are in charge, do your own research.

I only say this because when McKenna was born she was whisked off to the NICU and I didn't see her for FOUR hours with no real updates. Then they took me to see her and I was there for a minute (barely got to touch her) and they were doing a nurse shift change, they kicked me out and said someone would come get me soon when they were done. Then another FOUR hours later (and only because my husband asked) I got to see/hold my baby. Now I would demand to see her and someone to tell me what was going on, but I just didn't know what to do and didn't feel in control. It was horrible and had lasting effects with our bonding, it took me a month or two. Anyway, I just wanted to put that out there.

Also I second Noel's advice for when the child is older. Consistency is the key, set limits and stick to them.

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 9:56pm
great idea on this, and great advice ladies!

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Sun, 10-11-2009 - 2:04am
Noel, I loved your advice - that's some pretty good points!
One thing I would add is: Find a person who can help you when the baby is here.
And that's not help as in "Let me hold the baby", but someone who will do all the other little tasks that you don't have time for as you're busy looking after your newborn; like doing the hoovering, washing up, general cleaning/tidying (if necessary), cooking, food shopping etc. Find someone that you don't mind asking those things, and who will willingly help you! I had a good friend who helped me a lot in those first weeks (also by driving me around as I couldn't drive after c-section); whereas I also had to deal with MIL who would "help" by coming round wanting to hold the baby and doing tasks that I never asked her to do (scrubbing the kitchen floor - honestly the last thing that needs doing!) rather than what was really important; and the she just wouldn't leave when I was just craving some peace and quiet!
This might actually be tip #2, decide what you'll do about visitors and be firm about when they have to leave, as this can be very overwhelming and you don't want to be rude, but people won't understand how knackered you are.
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Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 10-12-2009 - 1:19am

Anna - love your 2nd tip a lot "This might actually be tip #2, decide what you'll do about visitors and be firm about when they have to leave, as this can be very overwhelming and you don't want to be rude, but people won't understand how knackered you are."


I always dealt with this issue by taking baby & going to lay down when I got tired. Then the visitors either get to visit with DH & older kids or they leave. It is important to keep those early visits short, though. You are recovering at that point, after all!

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Wed, 10-14-2009 - 8:47pm

Thanks ladies for all the advice! Invaluable information!!

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