BTDT - Teaching and TTC/Pgcy

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BTDT - Teaching and TTC/Pgcy
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Mon, 09-05-2011 - 10:40pm

I know we have quite a few teachers on this board so I'm asking for your help ladies on some TTC advice.

As most of you know, I recently got my first teaching job and this is what DH and I have been waiting for (new insurance) so we could start TTC #2. Selin is 18 mos old now and we'd like our kids no more than 3 years apart, ideally. I would also like a total of 3 kids and DH and I aren't getting any younger (32 and 35) so we don't want to put TTC on hold for too long.

Right after I got the job, we started talking about a timeline and initially said we would start trying this fall (Oct/Nov) so that I would be due around July 2012. I can take an extended leave through my short-term disability benefits (I did that with Selin) up to 22 weeks so I would miss most if not all of the first semester of the next school year as well and return to school for the spring 2013 semester. The goal being to give me a nice long mat. leave like I had with Selin (26 weeks).

Then, last week we were talking about it again and DH suggested that maybe we should post-pone TTC until the spring and shoot for a January 2013 baby so that I could take the spring off and have the whole summer off as well (and I wouldn't be dealing with morning sickness during my first semester of teaching). At first I was like, ugh, I don't want to wait until next spring to start TTC and I really would prefer not to have another winter baby and also all the birthdays on both sides of our family are in Jan-April so I was hoping to have the next baby in the summer or fall.

BUT, I've been thinking about it all weekend and think that it does make more sense for us to post-pone for next spring so that I will have been working there for

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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 12:56am

I wanted to go for the late winter/early spring birthday so that I'd have the summer as well.






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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 8:21am

First I would look into the benefits issue. When I had William I took 12 weeks unpaid and had to pay for my insurance those 3 months through school instead of it coming out of my paycheck. Also, you need to check the mat. leave policy because you won't likely be paid unless you use your sick days.

No school, even a Catholic school, can fire you for taking maternity leave unless it interferes with their ethics clause- not being married, etc, but to set your heart at ease, ask around. Some one is bound to have been in your situation.

I had William in October of my second year in 3rd grade. I had enough time to establish my classroom, but it was a little diffcult coming back in Feb to some different routines from the sub. My sub and I were in constant contact so that things were as consistent as possible. I do think it would be much easier to have a 'begining' of year baby so you would miss the end of the year. In my building there have been 17 babies in 3 years- 4 of them were born in Oct/Nov and the others were all born Mar-June so teachers would have the summer off to be home.

So my point is, you probably would benefit from having a late winter/spring baby to take off the end of the year instead of the beginning.

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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 12:30pm
Not a teacher... but just a notes about employment in general. Do your new benefits kick in immedicatly? Some places have 30, 60 or even 180 day waiting period before getting benefits. Also it may not look great on your record if you get PG immediatly and have to take time off right away (even if it is the start of a new year). Sorry to be a Debbie Downer, but I think waiting is a good idea.
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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 2:27pm

When I was pg with Barrett, I got a maximum of 6 weeks short-term disability for a vaginal birth or 8 weeks for a c-section, fortunately he was born in May, and I got paid through the end of the school year :)

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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 6:09pm
I agree with Kate. No school can fire you for getting PG and taking leave, but imho, it just doesnt look all that good to get PG right away and then be gone right away, regardless of your employer. It will really appear that is your entire motivation for working or getting a job...to use up the benefits...which is a valid reason for a stable employment (thats in my mind too of course, we all have it) but it just looks funky and your colleagues will probably think that way too. Its not fair, but as women we have to work extra hard to maintain and be taken seriously in our careers when we become mothers (if thats our goal of course, some women make the choice not to do both and thats fine). Good luck with your decision but if it were me, I would wait.

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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 6:26pm
I agree with what everyone has pretty much said....

I think a spring maternity leave will be easier than a fall one - you can set the tone for your class as you want it, rather than come into classes later in the year.

Schools cannot fire you for getting pregnant. However, I know they can just not ask you back. Before you have tenure in public schools, a school can just not renew your contract for the following school year. They do not have to have a real "reason" for not asking you back. I don't know how it works in a private school.
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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 9:01pm
I agree w others as well. I had to wait to get pg w David so i would be there a yr otherwise i would not have gotten fmla leave which protected my job. Not sure if you get that but you might have to be at your job a certain amt of time before it kicks in if they offer it. Plus it might not look good to an employer. I was at my job almost a yr before i got pg.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Wed, 09-07-2011 - 11:11am
Christine-- I don't have experience to share here, but I hope you figure out a plan that you feel happy with.
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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 4:19pm

Thanks everyone for your input. You all brought up a lot of good points. DH and I have decided to put off TTC until at least March. To answer your questions:

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 6:08pm

Christine- Glad you made a decision. I know you wanted to TTC right away but it looks like you looked at the pros and cons of everything. And maybe we will end up being TTC buddies. I am hoping to start in April after the December baby thing is over as I have said many times not having two December babies. If Christmas wasn't in December it wouldn't be such an issue having two babies with the same month birthday but not December. I don't want to even take that risk.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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