On Hold ...

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On Hold ...
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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 12:39pm

Hey gals!
I know this is a LONG overdue update but I didn't really know what I wanted to say and I was avoiding doing this update. We went back to WTT after AF came the end of May. Then I had a 40 day cycle and Just started AF again today! :( I assume its because I tried to go back on BC and then stopped mid cycle so my cycles are all out of wack now and I also missed some Thyroid pills so yea .. not a good month! I am glad to see AF here again though ..

Anyhoo ... After much discussion I decided I am just not ready. Dh and I are still having a lot of 'issues' in our marriage. And as much as I thought they were going away they seem to be back again! And I'm not even sure where we stand with our relationship or if it will last at this point .. but thats a whole other story! :(
So yea .. I think TTC is obviously a BAD idea! I think we were both hoping and wanting to TTC for the wrong reasons basically ... and I am just glad I realized it before we were expecting. As much as I REALLY want another baby I know its just not the right time! :( I am really bummed about it but I have also come to terms with it the last couple months. That's one reason I haven't been to active on this board! I didn't want to make it harder on myself. But you ladies are great support and I know that you will be there for me while I am sorting this all out and WTT again! (:

So that's that .. back on the WTT bandwagon! (: LoL ... Take care girls and lots of baby dust to those who are TTC! (:





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Registered: 05-11-2010
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 4:58pm

Alyson,

I know how much you want another baby and what a hard decision this must have been for you--but I think, given what you've said, that it is probably the right one, and a really mature decision to make. You are putting the needs of your family above your "wants" and that is SO admirable.

I hope that you and DH are able to work through things--I forget, are you in any sort of therapy or counseling (together or separately)? That really helped me when I was depressed and it would be my first option if me and DH were having any issues. Having an objective person that could comment on my life was SO valuable and made me feel five times saner, it was so amazing.

Anyway, keep us posted and I'll be looking for your updates in the toddler/kid section. (((HUGS)))

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 5:29pm

Alyson - I am sorry to hear that you are WTT again, but it sounds like it's for the right reasons. DH and I went back and forth as we worked things out, on again, off again with the TTC, and as much as I wanted a baby earlier than we are having one, I know though that we are much better off having waited. I don't think we would still be together if we had had a baby earlier.

We will be thinking of you and keep us posted if anything changes!









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Registered: 09-12-2008
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 11:42pm

Alyson,


As hard as it is for you, it sounds like you made the right decision. I second the others about therapy - it has worked wonders for DH and I (individually).


Just take one day at a time and you never know what the future holds. I understand wanting to take a break from the boards for awhile but know that you're always welcome here! :-)


Hang in there sweetie...