I just figured, you know, we're a week into September
Cycle #: I've lost count. Over a year.
Known issues: unexplained
Plan for this cycle: well, I just O'd. I used femara, so we'll see if that works. If not, I'll try it again next cycle.
Thanks for getting us up and running, Adrienne!
Name/DH Name: Cortney and Matt
Cycle #: ??? (started 10/08 but have taken a couple cycles off)
Known issues: hopefully just fixed them!
Plan for this cycle: don't know yet--have my post-op appointment this Friday and I hope to know more then. I'm guessing this will be a cycle to recover from surgery, though.
Thanks for setting it up Adrienne!!
Name/DH Name: Adrienne and James
Cycle #: 20
Known issues: PCOS, some endo
Plan for this cycle: I have been taking Metformin again, and I prob just O'd/will O today.
Kass--That sucks that AF showed her ugly face!
OK, so I have my follow-up appointment with the RE in the morning and I'm kinda freaking out. I always leave there with my head spinning, but I think tomorrow will be worse than usual.
In previous appointments, he has sort of pushed IUI as our best chance of getting pg once the fibroid was removed. Now that it's time to make the actual decision, I'm not sure I'm ready. I think DH would like to try for a few months on our own (with clomid or whatever if we need it) before moving to IUI. I originally agreed on that, but now I'm second guessing myself. Part of it is that our insurance will cover IUI and we've already met the deductible for the year. (I wish I knew how much it will cost, which would help me determine how many IUI attempts our insurance will cover. This might help with the decision.) Of course, the bigger part is that I just want to be pg already and if that is our best chance then we should go for it. I still really don't want a Christmas baby and trying a few months before going to IUI makes that more likely. He has also set a deadline of his 40th birthday (next July) for us to get pg, so I'm feeling a bit of time pressure, too. I guess, to be honest, I'm also afraid of heading down that slippery slope of IF treatments. There's also still a healthy bit of fear of it being successful and actually getting pg and all the life changes that brings--not to mention the fear of it failing and not being able to get pg.
On the other hand, a few unsuccessful cycles would give me a chance to lose a little weight before getting pg. I haven't really been working on that as hard as I should because I keep thinking I'll get pg soon, so what's the point? Also, it would allow us to get some more work done on the house before getting pg and maybe even take a trip for our anniversary in February without worrying about m/s, not drinking, etc.
Sorry for the rant! I guess I just had to get it out with folks who would understand. I think I'm going to have an adult beverage (or 2) with dinner and try to calm down.
Well, I feel like a big dork for responding to myself, but I thought I should let you know how the appt went this morning. We started off with an u/s, which I wasn't expecting. He said that everything looks good in terms of the surgery (except that I can't empty my bladder completely since then, which he assured me will get better).
We went to his office to talk about the plan, and he was on the phone and obviously not happy with whomever he was talking to. After he got off the phone, he told us that we need to allow the endometrium to heal for one more cycle then do a follow-up hysteroscopy in the office after my next period. After that he seemed to want to jump into IUI right away, and possibly IVF very soon. I told him that we didn't want to do IVF at all, and that we probably wanted to wait to do IUI for a few cycles, while trying with or without meds to spur ovulation. This didn't seem to sit very well with him as we were out of the office about 2 minutes after this. DH thinks it's because he was still a bit upset about the phone call--I think it's because we told him we didn't want to do IVF/IUI right away like he wants.
I've really liked him up until that moment, so I'm not going to switch doctors just yet. I will have to wait until after the hysteroscopy (done somewhere CD 5-12, so that's another non-medicated cycle) to make any real decisions. So, I'm going to work on the weight loss thing and getting healthier until then. Who knows, by the time the first possible TTC/IUI cycle rolls around in 2 months or so, we may be ready to go for it.
I guess we've really been slow lately! Personally I've been busy with school (and with BDing), but I'm sorry I didn't respond to you earlier!
I'm not sure what to think about your doctor's appt. I think you are right in that you can re-evaluate how you feel when it is actually time to start trying again. I guess I'm curious about whether he is pushing IUI because of DH or because of you . . . If it is because of DH, and he thinks it is really unlikely that you will get PG naturally, then I guess I might not wait in your situation except to avoid a Christmas baby. If he is pushing IUI because of you, I feel like you just got the fibroid removed, and maybe that was the whole problem--why not try a few cycles first before moving to IUI?
On the other hand, I would be stressed with a deadline too (your DH turning 40). Do you want more than one child? If so, do you need to have both of them before DH turns 40?
My cousin was born when my (great) uncle was 55, and now my cousin is 15 and my uncle is 70. It might sound crazy but it is SO not a big deal. My uncle and cousin are really close and my uncle is quite healthy with the exception of a leg problem that causes him to need a cane most of the time. But they came to the beach with us this summer, and my uncle swam in the ocean, and walked on the beach with his cane . . . idk, I guess it depends on the individual, but I think age is not as much a barrier as it used to be.
I know sometimes people think that they want the kids out of their house by a certain time, so they can enjoy retirement, etc. But honestly, I have never heard someone say: I wish I didn't have my kid because now I can't enjoy my retirement. When you have kids, they ARE your enjoyment, and you couldn't imagine anything different, no matter how old you are when they are born.
Anyway, keep us posted on what you decide and are thinking. All you other 6+ people--where the heck are you? LOL!
I STILL haven't called my doctor, and at this point I might just not tell him that we tried this cycle, but still try to get in sometime next week and get a refill on the Metformin so I can keep taking it (I read somewhere that it reduced m/c's in women who were taking it to get PG when they continued to take it through the first trimester). I will just make it sound like I am getting ready for taking it next cycle. I just don't want to have to justify myself to him--not that I think he would be judgmental or upset, but I just feel weird about everything--the last time I saw him was the D+C, and . . . idk. Whatever, get over it, Adrienne.
I feel really good about this cycle--I feel like I had a "good O" LOL--who knows why, I guess I like the way my temps look and I eventually did get a clearly positive OPK. I also feel like we BDed a LOT (for us). I would have liked to get it in on Thursday night, too, but we had people over and I didn't to bed until super late--there was no way it was happening.
I really hope I get PG--if not this cycle, then the next one. I just want to get a move on, here! But I do feel really hopeful so hopefully I'm right and this cycle is successful (and sticky).
HOW ARE THE REST OF YOU? LOL!