Alison – TTC #1 since January 2010
Amy – TTC #4 since April 2012
Heather – TTC #2 since April 2012
Jan – TTC #3 since August 2012
Kate – NTNP #3 since August 2012
Girls, I'm here! Finally! I have been trying to get on here for weeks and couldn't even access the boards page. UGH. Anyway, here I am, still TTC or NPP, whatever you want to call it. Congrats to all of those that left us!!! Hi to all of you still here! I will try to keep up, but things are really crazy for me... I have missed you all!
Yes! I would love an invite to the facebook group!
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Its good to see you Jan!!!! ( pretty sure thats your name right ? lol) Im tired, I worked overnight last night...
I actually have something to update! Exciting! Beware of a LONG update.
First, I'm not sure what to make of this development. On Friday, 11/2, I was 98% certain that I ovulated. We were at the Renaissance Faire, and I felt a very obvious (big time!) wetness. I thought I got my period, so I hurried to the restroom and discovered a TON of EWCM. Throughout the day and into Saturday morning, I had large amounts of EW. So, I figured that I could expect my period in about 12-14 days. I've always been closer to 12 in the past. Well, last night before bed, I notice a tiny (I mean TINY) speck of blood in my underwear, and when I wiped there was a little bit of brownish-pink. Barely detectable. This morning AF started for real. I guess things are just wacky because this is the first fertile phase post-baby. A seven day LP???
Secondly, I know I'm going to cry while typing this! Don't worry...they are happy tears. So, I've mentioned on here that adoption is something that DH and I have talked about throughout our marriage. I've wanted to adopt since I was 12 years old. DH has always said that he would be happy to gain another son or daughter through adoption, but he absolutely hates the idea of "shopping" for a child, and he thinks the money and bureacracy aspects are horrible. He would rather not go there. Well, I prayed for God to either change my heart so that I would no longer long for an adopted child or change Cory's heart because I know we have to be 100% in agreement in any decision concerning our family. Okay...so that's the back story.
Well, on Thursday, we went to Subway for a quick dinner. As we were pulling into the parking lot, Cory just casually said that he felt convicted of something. I--equally casually--said, "Oh, yeah. What?" He said that he realized that God had blessed him with a wife who has a heart for children and family, and if I want to begin the process of investigating adoption, then I should. I was FLOORED!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All I could choke out was "Are you serioius????" Then we went into Subway, and I had absolutely NO appetite. I think I ate two bites of my sandwich. I asked him what happened to change his mind, and he said that he was at work, and he saw three boys (teenagers) walking together on campus. They were obviously mentally challenged, and they were laughing and enjoying each other. Cory said that all of a sudden he remembered that at his 11th or 12th birthday when he blew out his candles he wished that he would have a disabled child someday so that he could show him/her real love. (My DH is a pretty remarkable guy!! Even at 11 or 12 years old!) He said that it didn't mean that we had to find a child with disabilities, but the experience showed him that his heart is ready.
We are most interested in adopting from foster care. We will also probably get on the National Downs Syndrome Adoption Network's registry. If we find a match through NDSAN, it could be an older child through foster care OR a newborn. A newborn would have all the costs of a standard domestic adoption ($$$$!!!), but a foster match would be much less costly. Also, there is the insurance question. We cannot afford private insurance right now, so if we were to adopt any time soon, we would need to go with a Florida foster care adoption because the child is automatically eligible for state coverage.
Nothing is going to happen soon. Cory is applying for a job at another school in another state, so it would be silly to have a home study in Florida only to find out that we are leaving the state. We will wait for the results of that application before moving forward. In the mean time, I'm praying and reading and trying to get my questions answered.
Thanks for listening!! :)
Jan: It's so good to see you back. Welcome.
Melissa: I sent you a friend request on FB, once you accept I can add you to the group.
Erica: Wonderful news!! Starting around when I was 10 my parents did what was called respite care; in which they provided one weekend a month and 2 weeks a year care for (very) special needs kids. Over the years we had 3 regulars that visted our house; one of which became the sister I had always hoped for. Technically she was my foster sister; my parents never adopted because they couldn't afford the level of care she needed on their salaries. She lived with us for four years; and we still get updates on how she is doing every now and then. I would love to convince DH to work with children on this level.
I accepted your friend request Kate! I figured you were from ivillage lol.
Erica- thats wonderful news!!!!
Erica, I am so excited for you! That's always awesome when the husbands come around. I'm sure that God has something great planned for you!
Waving hi to everyone else!
AFM, YAAAAYYYYY! We finally, finally, finally got some BDing going on early this morning, just in time for O!!! I haven't been temping, as it got too depressing and seemed pointless. But based on my CM and the O pains I have been having, as well as the cycle history, I should be Oing later today or tomorrow. I am so excited that I actually have a chance this cycle! Very Happy today!