Update on Surgery and REALLY NEED advice

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Update on Surgery and REALLY NEED advice
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Mon, 04-05-2010 - 8:20pm

WARNING- this is a really long post, but I'd love some feedback!


I had an appointment with my dr today- he was very pleased with the surgery and said he feels good that both tubes are high functioning.

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Mon, 04-05-2010 - 8:55pm

Hi Andrea...

Geez, if it's not one thing, it's another, huh!? I guess I'll just say this, as I'm in a similar-ish position...

We're traveling to Malawi in September and I fully plan to be pregnant by then (hmmm..."fully plan", that's laughable isn't it?) I too was hoping to be in the 2nd trimester while we were traveling and am also facing the decision of when to "hold off" on trying once it gets closer to trip time. To be honest, I have no idea what DH and I will decide (as we're really hoping IUI will work in May or June) so I'm interested in hearing what other people have to say. I can't imagine having a mc while traveling (for emotional, let alone medical reasons), but like you, I don't want to keep waiting, or base my decisions on the fears of what-ifs. At this point, I think we will go forward with trying right up till trip time, even if it means traveling in the first trimester. On the other hand, the potential for an ectopic pregnancy would be a big consideration I would think, because they can pose a huge risk and need to be handled immediately. ???

Oh, I'm no help at all. :( It's such a hard decision. I guess I just wanted to tell you I know how you feel.

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Mon, 04-05-2010 - 9:54pm

Andrea,

Though m/c is frequent, the most frequent time is right after you get PG--between weeks 4-8. So if you would know at least 3 weeks before you leave on your trip whether it was ectopic, it seems like you would be out of the most common m/c time by the time you went on your trip.

If something DID happen on the trip, there's not really much doctors can do to prevent m/c if it was going to happen, other than telling you to take it easy and/or putting you on bedrest. It's not like there is some high tech "preventing m/c" intervention here that they don't have in Africa.

If I were you I would try in April--if you do get PG, it will be a blessing and you will be happy--and there's still (unfortunately) a pretty good chance that it will still take you a few cycles to get PG after the surgery, so I wouldn't "waste" the cycle if I were you.

So that is my two cents!! HTH!

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Mon, 04-05-2010 - 10:03pm

Andi- right after I posted it, I realized I should have done a shout out to you specifically because I remembered you talking about going to Malawi.

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Mon, 04-05-2010 - 10:24pm

I just wanted to add that though the risks for M/C are much higher in the 1T...something can happen to the babe at any time during the PG. So much like with TTCing, PG cant or shouldnt halt your life either. There are obviously things you can do to care for yourself and your baby and take precautions when necessary (bed rest/pelvic rest for high risk PG's for example) but 90% of things PG related are out of our hands unfortunately. At first, this is a truly unsettling, scary thought to have but ultimately one that should be accepted because it helps to alleviate any stress thinking about things out of our control.

Good luck with your decision...any PG travelling woman should have her medical information available to her and be familiar with the services in the area regardless of the destination.

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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 10:36am

Given that you will be traveling with people who seem understanding and helpful and have medical connections in the country, and moreover your doctor at home is okay with it, I would try in April. If you do get pg (hoping you will!) everything will work itself out one way or another.

Good luck!

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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 12:03pm

I agree with the other ladies and say I would try in April. I will echo what Adrienne and Ruby said, and say there is no way of knowing what will happen with any pregnancy at any time. You just have to dive right in, and know that nature will take its course.

Good luck with your decision.





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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 12:17pm

Andrea,


I'm glad my hemming and hawing was helpful.

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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 5:21pm

It sounds like you have gotten great advice. I was going to say try in April. We waited when went to Europe, but that's because we hadn't started trying yet. If I were in your shoes I wouldn't want to waste the cycle either. Just be prepared for the tiredness and possibly MS and I think you will be fine! you might just have to change things a little when you are over there you know?

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Wed, 04-07-2010 - 1:41pm
I didn´t read the whole thread, sorry if I repeat something!
I'd say "go for it". Specially since your Dr. is ok with it and has medical connections in the country.
One thing I want to add though... MORNING SICKNESS... I went on my honeymoon with full day nausea and it was plain misery most of the time. But since you don't know if you will suffer from it, I don' think you should postpone TTC just because of that. Just be prepared, 'cause if you do, they will take away most of your energy and ability to enjoy the experience.
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