WWYD? Weddings and TTCing . . .

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WWYD? Weddings and TTCing . . .
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Fri, 08-19-2011 - 11:17pm

Okay ladies, this is probably going to be long.

So, me and DH are currently TTCing, but obviously with BFing my cycle is still very erratic--I'm currently on CD 38 and not even sure I O'd yet.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 10:21am
I'm going to be really honest here: with all the trouble you had TTCing James, I would just go ahead, TTC, and see what happens. If you do get a sticky bean, then that's awesome in it's own right. If you don't, then at least you'll have other things to look forward to in the meantime, you know?

I wouldn't plan TTC around the wedding/possible trip, and I also wouldn't make travel plans based on whether you might have a baby or be super PG. Just go with it and deal with things as they come! That way, you're not feeling bad for putting either on the back burner.




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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 11:15am
Honestly either option 3 or 4. You had a lot of trouble conceiving James, and you are still nursing so your cycles are erratic still. That being said if you desperately want to go to the wedding then I would prevent just during the time that would affect that. I have gone to long distance weddings with both a 4 week old and an 8 week old, it isn't the most comfortable traveling, especially in my case after a c-section, but it really wasn't that bad either.

I have flown with a 4 week old before as well, and honestly it was the easiest age to fly with of them all even easier then an 8 week old.



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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 11:17am
I totally agree with Alyssa. Stuff like weddings and trips come up all the time, and you can't constantly be planning your family around them. I would just go with the flow and take things as they come. I had to miss a wedding last December because it was the day David was born, and honestly It's not that big of a deal. I really wanted to be there, but it's not like the bride and groom hold it against me, and It's not like I can't celebrate their marriage with them. KWIM?
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 11:43am
I agree with the ladies. I would keep trying...I wouldn't plan my family around a cousin's wedding or a trip.
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 12:01pm
I agree with everyone else...

Particularly regarding Yosemite. It sounds like something your dh is interested in doing soon, but how special might it be if you wait a few more years and do it with both of your children? I mean that's a pretty incredible trip and probably not one you'll do more than once or twice. It might something you'd be really happy you did as a family.

Also, the wedding in Vegas sounds pretty doable with little ones. Unless you're in the third trimester and can't fly...but if you miss it, you know, you do. It's just that time in your life when your priority is your young family, and that's totally ok.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 1:46pm
I would go with number 4. LOL I hate the idea of stopping TTC once I start it. It would really suck to miss the wedding. But I have put off so many things in my life because I might get pregnant. Then it took me years to get pregnant with Wyatt. I wasted so much time worrying about what might happen. Just go with the flow and see where things end up in the end.
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 1:48pm
The funny thing was we decided to stop putting things off and we planned a trip to Las Vegas with our friends. I got pregnant and so did a friend of mine shortly before the trip. LOL At least I had a morning sickness buddy on the trip!
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 7:35pm
I agree with some of the others on the fact that you can't put your life on hold due to other things. Doubled with all the issues you had getting and staying prego with James I could see continuing to try. Though you might get surprised and it happen really easy for the second one. :) Maybe you should just step back and make it more of a NPP instead of TTC during that time and then just see what happens.

I also agree that traveling with the smaller ones is easier. Even more so when flying. Simon was so eay at 5 months when we went to AR. There are also lots of other things that could arrise and keep you from being able to go to a wedding or other event. I would just keep at it and see what happens. I know its hard to miss things, I missed my baby brothers wedding due to work. Good luck and let us know what you decide.

 Cassie 

     

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 11:51pm

I would keep trying if I were you.

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Sun, 08-21-2011 - 1:28pm

Adrienne, if this situation was my own, I would follow the advice that many have shared. I would not put off TTC. I wouldn't mind traveling with a small baby (just did that!), and I would travel while pregnant (when medically safe).

HOWEVER, only you know how heart broken you would be to miss your cousin's wedding. I imagine that your cousin would understand and be happy for you, but it sounds to me like YOU would be upset...not the cousin. That's a very real thing! You don't have to ignore those feelings.

I hope that you can find a solution that works for everyone involved. Good luck!

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