Abortion--Has your opinion changed?
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|Fri, 01-29-2010 - 2:02pm|
That's right, I'm going to open up this one, LOL. I wasn't sure where to post it--fun and games was a definite no, LOL.
I'll give my answer to clarify my question.
When I was 16 and had sex for the first time, basically until I met DH, the plan if I got PG was to have an abortion. I knew I wasn't ready to raise a child, end of discussion.
However, when I became a vegetarian and then became vegan, the idea of valuing life seemed to grow in me. Now I try to save ants that I squish accidentally, and obviously this whole TTC journey has impacted me enough that I would say that I would never get an abortion--which is all well and good. The problem I'm having is even though I believe in a women's right to choose, I would have a VERY hard time supporting someone I care about (a best friend, one of my sisters, etc) who wanted to get an abortion. I just know I would try to talk them out of it, and I'm sure that isn't what someone in that position needs. So I guess I've come pretty far over to the "right to lifers" side.
But something else happened yesterday morning that REALLY REALLY struck me. I'm not sure if you guys are following, but basically some guy killed a doctor who performed late-term abortions, and he argued that it was to save a life, and basically the supreme court considered this argument pretty heavily, and at first I was like, WTF, they can't really be buying this "saving a life thing", but then, in talking with DH, I realized that late-term abortions means, well, pretty late.
Basically, babies have a chance of survival if born past about 22 weeks gestation, and if you hit 28 weeks, the survival rate is QUITE high (90%). So basically it sort of hit me that I'm not sure it should be called an "abortion" if the baby could otherwise LIVE if it wasn't KILLED. Yeah, kind of crazy.
So I guess at this point I was like, Damn, I hope the supreme court decides in that guys favor--not because I think it was right of him to kill that doctor, but because I believe that fetal life is a "human life" if it could otherwise survive on its own. And, I would sure love it if a supreme court decision basically illegalized LATE TERM abortions.
At this point I would say I am COMPLETELY against abortion after 20 weeks, and I think if someone wants to get an abortion, they should HAVE to get it in the first trimester, maybe with a few weeks leeway, or they have to see the pregnancy through. But, within the first trimester window, I still support a woman's right to choose (though, like I said, my "support" in a real life situation would probably not be that great!)
What do you guys think? Has your opinion changed since you were young, or since TTCing/being pregnant/having kids?