Bad idea to have Dad in the delivery room?
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|Thu, 11-08-2012 - 12:36pm|
This article from Today has me asking if anyone made the decision to not have the Dad in the delivery room, or if he felt different about you sexually afterwards? It's based on a British writer who felt traumatized after witnessing his wife's emergency c-section; he says that he has several friends that have felt the same and all feel that it has negatively affected their sex life.
From the article:
"When the body parts that were once considered for sexual pleasure suddenly become feeding machines or birthing holes, some guys feel traumatized by that," says Shoshana Bennett, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and author of "Postpartum Depression for Dummies." "It's very common and often really good guys are feeling terrible about their feelings -- but they're there and that doesn't make them a bad guy," Dr. Bennett told TODAY Moms. In fact, guys may wind up feeling guilty for their emotions and as Dr. Bennett says, "There's no libido-killer worse than guilt and shame."
Personally, I felt more intimate and connected with my dh after going through childbirth. It's like you are riding on all these emotional highs, the weeks after giving birth are some of the most connected I have ever felt with him. There's also something about watching a guy cradle his newborn that's just really beautiful ;) I never noticed any decrease in our sex life because of it.
Do/did you have fears about having your SO see you go through childbirth? Are you worried about it or have you seen it affecting your sex life?