Changing providers

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Changing providers
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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 11:50am

Today I find myself in a position I never thought I'd be in during my pregnancy and now I can really sympathize with those of you who have had a hard time

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Registered: 09-29-2006
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 12:25pm

Christine,


I'm so sorry that you were put in the position of having to make this decision, as I know you out a lot of effort into trying to find the right care provider, and would not take this decision lightly.


I am also sorry to hear that you may not be able to find another provider who could offer you the option of a home birth and/or waterbirth. (Obviously the sytem in your state is different than the system here in Ontario, where all certified midwives offer the option of home births. It sounds like the other CNMs in your area only practice out of the hospital?)


You are taking great steps to prepare yourself for the birth and ensure you have the support you need for an unmed birth, by taking Bradley classes and hiring a doula. I'm certain that this preparation and support will help you to have the birth you want, regardless of the location. (Remember my good friend, who wanted to have a home birth, but then went into labour at 33.5 weeks? She said she had the birth she wanted (able to move around, unmed), even though she ended up delivering in the hospital.)


I hope that you find the right provider for you, soon!


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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 12:30pm
Oh I am sorry that you have to give up on having a home birth:( But it sounds like you are completely at peace with your decision and if it wasn't a good fit with the midwife then that wouldn't be good for the birth. I hope everything works out with finding a new provider!



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Thu, 12-17-2009 - 1:35pm

Do you know anyone whose given birth at the hospital that you're going to, or have particular reason to believe you'll need to fight to have an unmedicated birth there? I know it varies greatly across the country, but at my hospital there were no barriers to me having an unmedicated birth and was allowed to eat/walk/do whatever I wanted during the labor.

Two "gotchas" that are worth looking into when dealing with a hospital and their protocols are how long they'll let you go before they want to induce, and what they do if your water breaks before you're in labor. I found the answers I got to those questions to be very insightful regarding a practice's general approach - and things to start planning how to handle before they spring them on you when you're 41 weeks pregnant, if they do have them.

Good luck! I ended up pretty happy with a hospital birth, despite kind of wishing for a homebirth at the end. It seems like you're really good at being your own advocate, and that really is the key to a good experience.

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Fri, 12-18-2009 - 12:53am

Christine, good luck finding another provider that you feel more comfortable with. I can't beleive how your current one has been with your weight either. I was on the higher side of the GD test as well and my OB didn't say a word other then I passed. I have gained more then 20lbs and my OB said she was just fine with my weight this morning when I was there.


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Registered: 09-12-2008
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 4:19pm

Hi Cassie,


Unfortunately, I live in a state where homebirth and birth centers are not widely accepted so most CNMs here practice in hospitals only. I live in a big metropolitan area so it just boggles my mind that I don't have more choices, but hopefully by the time we're expecting baby #2, that will change. :-)


It is comforting to hear that your friend was still able to have the birth she wanted, even though things didn't work out as planned.


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Registered: 09-12-2008
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 4:22pm

Thanks Ash! When I was trying to decide what to do, my Bradley teacher's words kept ringing in my head - "if you're not happy with your provider, change! No matter how far along you are."


On the plus side, I know our hospital well (used to volunteer there and have been going there for all the U/S orders) and the service is always top notch so I don't think we can get any better than that. I plan to bring a basket of goodies for the nurses so that hopefully they'll be

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 4:27pm

Hi Lorien,


Unfortunately, I don't know anyone personally who has delivered at my hospital as all of my friends who have kids all live about 45 min. away from me so they delivered at different hospitals. I think it was my doula who told me that while the nurses there are excellent at being nurses, they're not very unmed birth friendly so I guess that's why I'm preparing for a battle. I'll have to ask my new CNM as well what she thinks of the nurses there.


Speaking of eating, what sort of food/drinks did you bring with? It's hard to predict what I may feel like eating/drinking while in labor. I'm

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 4:32pm

Hi Cassie L,


I was surprised at what a big deal my MW was making out of my diet and GD test results, too. When I emailed her to tell her about us switching providers, surprisingly she said she agreed with my decision (guess she felt it wasn't a right fit either) and that diet is a big part of her practice and that a lot of people don't agree with her. I just felt she was being too restrictive and it was just putting more stress on me.


As for the new place, I specifically got in to work early today so I could fax my records over to them and the confirmation page said it went through. Then I thought I should call this afternoon just to be sure they got it and for some reason, they didn't so I tried to fax it again but then it said the line was busy. Argh! Now I'm going to stop at a Kinko's on my way home and fax it from there. I just want to get it to them ASAP and get the ball rolling. My MW even offered to fax it to them but I don't really want her to know who I'm switching to (it's none of her business as far as I'm concerned) and I already have the records she gave me a few weeks ago for when I was going to see that backup MW. I haven't seen my MW since last month so there really is nothing that would have changed on the records anyway, except for my GD results but they can always request that from the hospital lab.


I'll keep you guys posted! I'm hoping before Christmas I'll have an answer. :-)


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Registered: 09-12-2008
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 11:25am

Great news! The new

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Sun, 12-20-2009 - 10:45am

Christine - I am jumping on this late, but I am glad you were able to find someone and get an appointment.

I am not sure where you are and I haven't read through all this information. but check out this website

http://www.waterbirth.org/mc/page.do?sitePageId=38546

It's for Waterbirth International. They used to rent pools, but maybe you can find another place that rents waterbirth pools so you can still have your waterbirth in the hospital.

Good luck!


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