Could Co-Sleeping Kill Your Baby?

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Could Co-Sleeping Kill Your Baby?
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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 2:48pm

Hey All,

I thought this was an interesting (and relevant) article about co-sleeping.

Personally, I plan on co-sleeping and think that there are plenty of ways it can be done safely, but co-sleeping does raise many questions about your baby's health and safety.

For instance: "do most moms lie down in bed with their baby at some point, or is it truly a dangerous practice?"

See the article below:

http://www.ivillage.com/could-co-sleeping-kill-your-baby-california-health-officials-say-yes/6-a-216550

What about you? Do you, or do you plan to ever or occasionally co-sleep with your baby? What are your opinions on the risks/benefits?

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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 3:04pm

We co-slept at first. Jensen would sleep 9 hours a night if he co-slept, vs not at all if we didn't. The choice was pretty easy. However it freaked me out the entire time we did it, so we did transition him into his crib. Now in the day he takes naps in our bed, but at night he STTN in his crib.

I don't know if I will co-sleep again with the next baby, but I might by a crib attached co-sleeper just in case.






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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 3:21pm

We co-slept until 6 months. We had a co-sleeper next to out bed that James would sleep in some of the time, but he definitely ended up in our bed part of the time as well. I read the Dr. Sears book a lot, and he is very supportive of co-sleeping. Here's some good info from him about co-sleeping:

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/t071000.asp

I feel like my baby's chance of dying in his sleep are significantly decreased because of co-sleeping, but I've also seen people do it very unsafely (having baby nap on their belly on a big comforter surrounded by pillows in the middle of the bed with mom and dad nowhere in sight) so it's definitely something you need to be informed about and do safely.

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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 3:23pm

I have co-slept with both Desmond and Eloise and will co-sleep with all future children as well. I've found that most co-sleeping studies are extremely biased against co-sleeping. Places like Japan where almost all children co-sleep have much lower infant mortality rates and basically no SIDs at all.

I have never seen a study that convinced me that proper co-sleeping was dangerous.












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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 3:28pm

I'm sure I'll co-sleep occasionally, especially for naps, but we won't most of the time.

Frankly, even I have trouble sleeping with DH. I've been hit, rolled on, and practically pushed off the bed. On occasion, I've slept in the floor or on the couch because of him. I have trouble getting him off me when he rolls, so I couldn't imagine a baby being under him...

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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 3:49pm

We don't plan on co-sleeping, but not because of the danger factor. As others have mentioned, I think as long as it's done safely, there is relatively little danger.

We have a few reasons for not wanting to do it. DH has arthritis in his back and tends to flop/roll around a lot. He doesn't want to feel constricted in any way (which would definitely happen if baby was in the bed). We find it hard enough with the two of us (and a cat most nights)! We also feel that our bedroom is a place for just us - where we can be alone together.





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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 4:03pm

DH and I are both fairly restless sleepers so the thought of co-sleeping always made me nervous. However, back in the very early days when she would be completely done with her crib at 7-7:30 am but would still sleep for another couple of hours either on the floor, couch, or in my arms, I admit I did take her back to bed with me then. I would lay on my back and put her on my chest, and sleep in the middle of the bed (DH would be gone to work by then). Not sure how "safe" it was but it sure saved my sanity in those early days when I would be up to feed her and also pump. Getting up for the day at 7 am wasn't an option for me - I've never been a good napper so "sleeping while the baby sleeps" never worked for me.


Health professionals here don't really advocate co-sleeping, but say that if you insist on doing it, make sure you have a firm mattress, remove any fluffy bedding, and don't co-sleep if you've had anything to drink or taken any



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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 4:34pm

"Frankly, even I have trouble sleeping with DH."

LOL! This was a funny mental image--you and the baby cowering at the edge of the bed from your tossing DH in the middle of the night.

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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 4:48pm

Hanging on for dear life is more like it! ;)

Seriously though, he hit me in the face with his arm one night, and when I said "OWW!" he mumbled "I didn't do anything, I'm sleeping." Yeah, he talks in his sleep too.

We're getting a bigger bed once we get the baby a dresser, DH a new tv, and me a new dishwasher. Oh, and the washer and dryer he wants, and finish the rock-work to install the new woodstove. So, hopefully by Christmas. :)

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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 5:34pm
I planned on getting the co sleeper but didn't actually want baby in the bed. We were given a cradle that my neice and couple of cousins used so it was a family thing. Simon only slept in it a little bit because he has always prefered his crib. I have slept with him on my chest a few times in our bed and then on the couch. My mom would sleep with him in our chair but I was never comfortable doing that. I personally am not comfortable with him sleeping in the same bed until he can get away from us if he needs to. Though there have been nights earlier on that I would lay with him in our bed until he fell asleep then put him in his.


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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 6:39pm

We coslept with Evan for almost the first year-- it was something I planned on doing, but DH was a little worried, so he built a cosleeper crib that we attached to our bed. Evan pretty much rejected the crib and ended up in the bed with us anyway, but both DH and I found that we were so aware of him subconsciously that it would have been pretty much impossible for one of us to roll on him, etc. From day 1, I was super aware of his every move-I guess it's just a built-in instinct that we all have. I would wake up instantly if a sheet or blanket came anywhere near his face. So to me, cosleeping was totally safe.

That being said, I was surprised at myself for not loving cosleeping-in fact, I couldn't wait to get Evan into his crib. I found that I couldn't sleep while nursing him in bed, and that I ended up stuck in uncomfortable positions with Evan sleeping next to me (he basically wanted me to sleep facing him all the time, and if I rolled over because my side was sore, he's wake up). If I had to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night, I was pretty much stuck because he would wake up.

Once we moved the crib away from the bed, it took a while for Evan to adjust-he really wanted to stay in bed with us and I didn't push the issue-and finally after night weaning at a year, once he started sleeping for longer stretches, we moved him to his own room. I can't tell you how wonderful it feels to not tiptoe around and be able to roll over when I want!

With our next baby, I'm on the fence about cosleeping-we probably will for the first month or so, but then we will definitely transition to a crib!

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