Door opening.. do I walk towards it?

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Door opening.. do I walk towards it?
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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 12:03am

As you guys know things with my job have been well... rough to say the least. My mom and I were talking last night and she said she found a job for me. Turns out its a job back in my home town as the animal control officer. Which is right up my alley with my degree and something I would love to do. The pay is a cut from what I make now but not huge (between 6-8ooo) but the price of living down there is a ton cheeper and the benfits are better. I figured we would save 60 bucks a month just on benefits and they are better/lower deductable etc. It would save us money as I would be closer to family and wealready have a place to live.

 Cassie 

     

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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 1:06am
How often could Matt come down and see you all? Would you have to maintain two households? If it overall saved money and could see him fairly regular I'd be tempted to take it.. You'd be happier, and could plan on number 2?

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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 7:42am
I would write out all the expenses you would have to see if the bills could really be covered (like Katie asked, will you have to pay for two households?).

For Matt maybe not being able to find a job there - you guys could always pick up and move somewhere you BOTH could find work easily.

Honestly, I wouldn't normally suggest someone move away from their spouse for that long, but you have been sooooo miserable for the last year (or two), that your happiness in your job might over-weigh everything else right now.

Good luck with your decision!




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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 8:49am
How far away is it from Matt's school? Does he have an option to take any classes on line or on the weekends? If you did move apart for this time, could you afford to hold together 2 households? How often could he come visit?

You've made a lot of sacrifices while M's been in school. If might be time for him to make one (moving to be with you regardless of job) when he's done.
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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 9:50am

Well Cassie... First of all, Congrats on finding something!!!! It sounds like a great oportunity, and I think you should do everything in your power to "walk towards the door"

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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 10:53am
I would be 1200 miles from where Matt's college is. There is no online program or alternative program for his degree. We have looked into it.

As for house hold issue. Matt's BAH would pretty much cover him staying in our current living. Or Simon's God parents, we have talked about him just renting a room from them and selling our trailer. As for me... my parents have there farm hours and then the house in town. This is where my brother is currently living and just paying the bills and upkeep. Which is where I would be staying so pretty much it would just be help paying bills and things around the house. (I think) so it would be pretty cheep.

Tickets is what would get us. As flying from MSO into Denver isn't cheep. I just looked and for Christmas time right now its about 450 bucks. and coming all the way into GC is even worse. Its something we could manage. With school though it would pretty well be right before it starts, again at Christmas and then spring break.

 Cassie 

     

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Fri, 05-27-2011 - 11:45am

Well, I think it's doable. It won't be easy, but it is doable!

Just be sure that Matt is fully on board, so there is no room for resentments later.

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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 7:26pm

I would go for it!

I think you and Matt could much better handle the stress of being apart from each other for a few months then the stress you have been dealing with, in not seeing your son as much as you would like, working long long hours, and having a job that is emotionally and physically very demanding with few benefits for you.

Good luck with whatever you decide:)

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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 9:32pm
Mari, that was my main concern. That is why we have been talking about it so much and me constantly asking for reassurance. Which we seem to be on the same page. That there is no guarantee anywhere he will get a job. At least here when he gets done I'll have something I enjoy and that if this move is right God will have something for him in a year.

 Cassie 

     

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Sat, 05-28-2011 - 12:20pm
Great then!! I'm so happy that there is an opportunity for you!!!! I really, really REALLY hope you get the job!

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Sat, 05-28-2011 - 2:32pm
Good for you!!!
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