Frustrated! Suggestions?

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Frustrated! Suggestions?
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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 8:23pm

I feel like I'm in a bind and not sure what to do!!


For those of you who don't know, DH has applied to 4 different grad schools in CA for the fall 2010 semester.

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Registered: 03-08-2008
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 8:52pm

That is really frustrating. Unexpected things happen to people all the time- a spouse gets transfered, people randomly move, etc. It's always interesting to see who says they are coming back and who ends up leaving unexpectedly. I think that you should not give notice yet. If he ends up getting in somewhere (fx) you can give notice as soon as you know. They'll still have the summer to find someone to replace you. I wouldn't worry about it now, as hard as it may be for you.

Good luck. I hope you get some good news soon!







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Registered: 02-11-2009
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 9:17pm

I agree with Emmy on this one... I wouldn't give notice unless I knew *for sure* I wouldn't be back. If it turns out DH gets accepted (keeping those FX!) then the school will figure it out. I don't think it would reflect poorly on you at all.

GL!!

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Registered: 12-17-2007
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 10:03am

I agree with the others. I'm unclear on how having a deadline for giving notice works. Is this a contract issue? Is there some financial penalty for breaking the contract? I wouldn't let it go until you know for sure. But, good luck to your DH!

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 12:39pm
I only have one thing to add - because in general I agree with all the previous posters, but I know at my school district, the deadline is there so that they can give layoff notices by the district's deadline. The only difference that this might make in your situation is that someone could get a layoff notice that would not is you put in your resignation. That said, people here resign in the middle of the summer all the time. (We're looking at a bunch of layoffs this summer, so that's why it came to mind.)


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Registered: 12-17-2007
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 12:47pm
Ah, got it. I mean, asking for 4+ months notice seems like a lot. Presumably they expect some people to resign over the summer and plan accordingly.
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Registered: 05-20-2007
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 7:18pm
Thanks for the input everyone! I guess I would be better off having that job security, even though I'm really REALLY hoping we move.
I brought up my frustrations to DH and he goes "Well, maybe we can just move anyway, maybe I can work out there" AAAUGGH!! Ok that would be fun but he better get a dang job first. He's so much of a spontaneous-go-where-the-wind-blows-you kinda person. I'd like to be but I guess I'm too much of a planner and it's just so much societal pressures. In a way, I just feel the need for a change and just want to get out and try something new. Then I think about the kids. Oh and everytime my dept chair asks if we've got any updates and I give her the scoop, she's always excited like "You might be staying after all!" Oh the pressure. I think I'm too much of a people pleaser sometimes.